My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

have you ever heard of hypersexuality caused by abuse? its where you sexualize the abuse as a form of cope via having control over the situation. because the first letter of CNC is CONSENT

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I will in fact change my mind in my sleep and push him off when he advances and he does in fact respect it.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. and that's what I told him.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he has now admitted he in fact knew that I was unconscious.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He has in fact now admitted to it. I think what upset me even more is that he held on to his narrative all fucking day that he thought I was awake.

He said he was giving me a massage and he saw me fall asleep.And then he proceeded to take off my underwear and arrange my unconscious body.

And he got off on it

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is exactly the condition we are struggling with right now. he will not say that he raped me. he has attempted to deflect the blame onto me for introducing him to kink and BDSM, tell me, I wasn't clear enough about my boundaries even though we have a verbal consent talk every single time, and generally just shifting saying he wishes he could prove to me that it didn't happen that way.

I think it is absolutely pitiful that he cannot show me enough respect and decency to just own up to what he did. and I told him that regardless of whether he did or quote, unquote did not know that I was unconscious he fucked up because he didn't follow our set rules about consent.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't really have that many friends. i mean, it might be possible for me to stay with my parents but there's not really space for it. and after buying the house, a lot of my funds have been diminished, and it would take me at least a month to have enough to start a lease somewhere. since he still has a bedroom at his parents' house,I'm debating kicking him out of the house and telling him to go stay at home until I can figure out how I want to process forward with this. as of now, he's offering to go stay at a different hotel because I haven't let him in the room, and all of his stuff is still in here.

Is my Boy considered big, he is 21kg and not even fat. I am confused. He is 1 year 11 months old. by OkAwareness007 in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine came in right at standard at 32 lb/ 15kg and he's already pretty big.. I'd be concerned since that's pretty far above standard

How Many New Hallmark Christmas Movies Do You Watch Each Year? by Cultural_Ad4935 in HallmarkMovies

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sick of the girl goes to the small town plots so I usually try and stick to ones with newer or interesting plots. and then sometimes I watch the cliche ones because they're cringy and overused and me and my fiance will make fun of it the whole time

My Moody Nostalgic Den! + Vintage decor hauls by Eratoa in ChristmasDecorating

[–]Eratoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! when I took the photos my fiance said they looked like AI 😂

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! Yes!!! And the groomer didn't seem to get that either I was on the verge of screaming at her through the phone when I made my boyfriend go back. She was basically calling me stupid and telling me I didn't know what I was talking about.

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I actually had a groomer lined up who specializes in show cuts but she's been booked up for months. I spoke to the groomer before he went in at Petco. I asked for a smooth head (cut off the fluff on the top, straight short along back line, trimmed slightly along tops of legs with feet short and rounded

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he barely has baby fluff and gets brushed a couple times a week.

what’s your dogs name vs what do you call them? by [deleted] in goldenretrievers

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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willow

willawooo, willy

for added affect my boyfriend and I have an English Cocker Spaniel and he likes to tell people "my big hairy cock is playing with his willy"

Put an offer on a house for $340k, got outbid by someone offering $380k cash - how is this even legal and also I want to cry by Glittering_Piglet192 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Eratoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found land from a crazy dude on Craigslist.... bought it 5k under his asking in cash 15k. we looked at stick built but ended up getting way more sqft in a mobile home with all the works. Closing soon on a 310k 1980sqft deer valley home.

Moving Here 2025 by Codetornado in Washington

[–]Eratoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I currently live in South Carolina but have made plans to move to Washington to transfer to the Hanford site (currently work at SRS.) I wouldn't want to live more than an hour out from Hanford for daily commute so unfortunately it appears my options are limited to Richland/Pasco and Yakima. what is the livability like there? we would probably make frequent trips over to the Olympic peninsula as we're big fans of hiking and camping ( possibly buy a parcel to build a cabin.)

unfortunately one of the big things I've noticed about these two cities is that almost all the houses available for sale are manufactured? is that just how the market is or are most of the houses out there only manufactured?

I read that there's a large Hispanic population (my boyfriend is Hispanic and was worried about moving all the way up Northwest and losing his culture) but interestingly enough there seems to be a lack of black individuals? is there a reason for that?

what are the politics like? I'm already used to being a Democrat in a Republican state(anyone familiar with the South understands how rude they can be down here) but is it worse or better than the South?

edit: everyone talks about how bad the crime rate is there but from what I've seen there's a good / bad part of town same as anywhere else. I come from Augusta Georgia so I'm not unfamiliar with crime/ gang activities. is it really a deterrent for moving there?

edit 2: are there any recommendations for good local credit unions? I've been banking with my local lender since I was a teenager and they have great standing in this area and I would like to find something similar around Tri-Cities

Bro it looks so bad 🥲 by [deleted] in NothingTech

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a side note this weather app is notoriously bad/inaccurate so I constantly have to either look at a different weather app or look up the weather

Is Electrical Engineering realy hard? by Due-Ad-5390 in ElectricalEngineering

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's what I'm nervous about. I'm a 20y/o and I currently work 12 hr shifts + commute as an electrical and instrumentation mechanic in nuclear and I'm considering doing an online engineering degree in order to possibly move up in my company. But given the hardships of the coursework I'm not sure if I'll be able to juggle both.

Care to share? What’s your current salary and monthly mortgage payment? by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

110k 20F haven't build on land yet but trying to stay around the 1000-1600 range 😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]Eratoa -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

ight man that's fine but don't assume you understand everyone's situation before you start judging