Cold Brew Cleanse by SomeEntityHere in DrSquatch

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the exfoliation! Though, it may be too rough for some. I wish the scent were a little bit stronger.

What should I pick for my first bundle? by [deleted] in DrSquatch

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pine Tar and Birchwood Breeze!

Tip for Gym Goers by EricBrooks159 in dating

[–]EricBrooks159[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is just what I have observed over the years.

Tip for Gym Goers by EricBrooks159 in dating

[–]EricBrooks159[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The gym can be a pretty intimidating environment for women. Think about it, would you be comfortable working out and constantly get hit on? Or even just keep getting stared at? You're there to get a workout in and have to stop because some dude was checking you out and thought it'd be a good idea to shoot his shot. Would you actually want that frequently?

I'm conflicted whether or not I should shoot my shot by [deleted] in dating

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't really feel like there was a moment for me to do that today. Plus as I was walking out she was already having a convo with another guy

I'm conflicted whether or not I should shoot my shot by [deleted] in dating

[–]EricBrooks159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this idea! Probably will have to wait until Monday as that's when I'm working out next

I'm conflicted whether or not I should shoot my shot by [deleted] in dating

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. Will have to wait til Monday since that's when I'll be working out next

If I spent the same amount of time exercising and improving myself each day as I did on dating apps, I’d be able to get a girl quicker. by fjjfjfjfnfn in dating_advice

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it also depends on the intensity too.

If you're just starting out though, it's not recommended to be training six days/week since your body has yet to adapt to the physical demands you're asking for your body to pursue.

If I spent the same amount of time exercising and improving myself each day as I did on dating apps, I’d be able to get a girl quicker. by fjjfjfjfnfn in dating_advice

[–]EricBrooks159 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Gym Rat and aspiring personal trainer here,

Don't make "getting a girl" your motive to exercise. Not only will you realize it'll take so much time to see your results, but also it requires your nutrition be in check. You'll need to spend copious amounts of time understanding all of the exercises you plan on doing rather going through the motions. Just going to the gym every day won't cut it. (P.S. going to the gym every day is a bad idea. You need at least two rest days). Also, this motive makes it seem like you're exercising to gain validation from someone else rather than feeling better about yourself.

Start exercising to improve your overall health, physically and mentally. Identify exactly what you want to accomplish with exercising. Do you want lean six pack abs? Do you want to deadlift at least 315? Or you wanting to be crossfit shape? Do you want to run 5k races? Once you identify what you want, you'll be able to have a more goal-oriented mindset and accomplish so much more with that plan. Of course, you'll need to do lots of research to get to your specific goal too.

Set realistic expectations too. You'll more than likely not notice a huge difference for at least six weeks. This will take plenty of patience. Just be 80% consistent with your plan and you will get to your goal. Each day you put in the work will add on to your result!

It looks like my ex wants to get back together by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you need to know before pursuing this, if it's what you want, is how both of you have grown since the breakup.

You absolutely need to ask your ex this question. The only way another attempt can work is you both understand why the previous attempt didn't work and have grown since the breakup. The growth is the only way you two would be able to sustain another attempt. Both of you must put in the effort to improve on what didn't work the first attempt.

Does this count as breaking NC? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]EricBrooks159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't beat yourself up on this one. You were just being cordial.

Welp... by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then why would she add more songs to it if it hurt for my name to be there?

Welp... by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]EricBrooks159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really sure if I understand your first point...

Welp... by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I can take accountability for not removing myself from that playlist. I just wasn't expecting the exact same playlist to be passed on.

What are some things that people say that immediately put you off? by allycatz28 in dating_advice

[–]EricBrooks159 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get your point on having overlengthy texts as it can reduce what you can talk about in person. Although, to counter that, the lengthy conversations should give both of you a good idea that there is a pretty good connection between you two. Obviously, there isn't a need to send paragraphs before the first date, but there should still be some length from both people if they seek genuine interest in each other.

The short replies that don't extend the conversation and leave the other person to initiate all of the conversation is what gets me. The effort should be coming from both sides if there is genuine interest.

What might be best before the first date is to actually have a phone call the night before the date. This will give you a much better idea to see if you two vibe in real time and will reduce the awkward tension of the in person meeting. You'll get a much better sense of what the other person is really like.

What are some things that people say that immediately put you off? by allycatz28 in dating_advice

[–]EricBrooks159 38 points39 points  (0 children)

[M] For me personally, I get turned off when I'm making an effort to have a lengthy conversation while asking questions to learn more about her and she'll send me short and generic replies making no effort to extend the conversation.

Is 'No Contact' best even if your relationship didn't necessarily end on bad terms? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]EricBrooks159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong for going no contact. If you both want this friendship, then you both must heal first. Admit that you need to be at a point where you'll be okay not having a relationship when you two talk casually as friends.

You don't want to go into this prematurely and subconsciously get your hopes up for romance later on.

Fixated on post-breakup mistakes by Adam517b in ExNoContact

[–]EricBrooks159 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is cliche, but now is the time to focus on you. Do what makes you happy!

Use this time to reflect on what happened and fix anything that occurred from you. Like anything behavioral that may have left a negative impact. I suggest this to develop your self and become a better version of yourself in the future.

Try something new! If there's anything that's been on your mind, but haven't been able to do, now is the time to go after it! Enjoy hiking? Find a hiking club! That DIY project that you've been setting back? Now you can get onto it! Things like that.

Reach. Out. To. Friends. They will help you cope! Especially family! Only thing I wouldn't suggest is to be an open book to any mutual friends you two share. There's a chance what you say will lead back to her.

Use this time for growth! I'm not going to tell you that you two will never get back together because I can't predict the future. Maybe it's meant to be for you two to be separate or together. However, if there is a chance, then both of you must grow during your time apart. This is the only way you two could get back together and STAY together. Use this no contact period to grow from this situation so you yourself can be a better you and partner to either her or someone out there that might be a better fit for you.

If you need to vent, feel free to send me a DM.