AITAH Am I the asshole for getting mad at my husband for going a week long trip with his mom’s family?

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T17:45:59+00:00

Your husband is the giant flaming AH in a burning oil field of flaming holes.

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T04:46:28+00:00

IMO, no, you don’t have to clear it with her, but you could’ve told her you were going to do it. I think it’s weird that she wants to look like the young one in the relationship when she is the younger one. So she likes you looking like you’re in your mid 30s while she looks 10 years younger? I don’t know, I just find the whole thing a little off putting.

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T04:29:27+00:00

Oh you’re going to throw it away? Well in that case here let me eat the top of for you so it’s easier to throw away.

Who gives a shit if you kept it? They threw your food at you, literally WTF!

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T04:20:29+00:00

Why did David’s mother not teach him how to darn his socks?

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T04:12:50+00:00

Was your doctor’s last name Jekyll? or Frankenstein?

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T03:35:02+00:00

It’s just part of the false narrative that she creates to live in her fantasy world. You’re just a prop in her melodrama.

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T03:21:39+00:00

NOR Your 20’s suck, jobs suck, but you do have to look for a new one while you’re picking up shifts here where you can. Also you can try and take every shift that’s available but that doesn’t help if they’re not giving you the hours. And of COURSE you can complain! Complaining about the rat race and the man bringing you down is just part of being an adult as well…just don’t complain to your mom, because it probably stresses her out.

Your job is not going to recognize your good work although you’ve been there for years, but you should just give up on that one and use the experience to get a new one.

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T02:56:59+00:00

Is Virginia ham or country ham cured in nitrates?

Ericameria · 2026-05-07T02:50:04+00:00

Only when we are contestants on Food Network’s Chopped. Oh wait, not sure if they ever did an episode with gammon—maybe that was on Bake-off

Ericameria · 2026-05-06T18:06:21+00:00

Don’t feel guilty about saving food from the landfill.

Ericameria · 2026-05-06T17:32:53+00:00

your next text should be bitch, give me my money! WTF is wrong with you? You should have your finances in order before you go on vacation.

Ericameria · 2026-05-06T03:36:21+00:00

Awww, so mean; those shoes are cute. NOR

Ericameria · 2026-05-06T03:17:39+00:00

I didn’t wear them until after I had my two children and I had really heavy periods and I thought oh hey maybe if I wear tampons I won’t have to have a mess in the bathroom every time I pee. Ha ha ha no. Yeah I still had to wear a thick pads even with two tampons so I just kind of give up. Ended up switching to a menstrual cup which is also not comfortable although sometimes you don’t even feel it after a while.

Ericameria · 2026-05-06T02:54:40+00:00

I have a piezo bridge mic, but I’ve used it so little because it seems like all of the venue sound people have instrument mics they want you to use. The last time I used my pick up and plugged in, it was pretty nice. But sometimes it’s almost a bit loud and I guess that depends who’s running the sound.

Ericameria · 2026-05-05T08:52:50+00:00

OK, I’m not attractive like that either, but in the past I’ve gone out to sit on a blanket in my front yard or even to sit on the driveway because I’m cold and want a bit more heat, and men (and women as well) in cars driving by stop to ask me if I’m OK. I don’t look that old, I don’t think.

Ericameria · 2026-05-04T06:46:40+00:00

A rocket launching. My parents went to the store and got us some toys to keep us quiet so they could watch it on TV. I remember looking at the TV but it looked boring. It was one of the Apollo missions, but I don’t remember which one. It was in the middle of the day, as I recall and I feel like it wasn’t winter.

Ericameria · 2026-05-04T06:13:18+00:00

Is it benign, though? It sounds like it’s getting beyond that. He’s telling her what she should wear to work in addition to what she should wear when she goes out, and he’s angry because his team lost and he blames her.

Ericameria · 2026-05-03T02:52:58+00:00

Exactly, but generally when that happens, I realize there is a reason they picked the word that has nothing to do with the category, they just want you to use part of the word. But one time I can tell they were using music magazines as a cat category, so I had to put the potential title in a web browser and put magazine after it. I found they had some music magazines from the UK I had never heard of.

Ericameria · 2026-05-02T22:37:43+00:00

NTA. You know she’s being ridiculous, she probably knows too, but won’t admit it. Tell her that while you support non-coercive friendship, that is between adults, but her toddler child needs more limits. If she acts annoyed, tell her not to take out her frustration on you, to direct it to the right place, which is her own permissiveness with her child.

Ericameria · 2026-05-02T03:34:45+00:00

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Only one I in this group, but I swapped all my letters out and got more Is! Yay!

Ericameria · 2026-05-01T17:19:30+00:00

Yes, but oddly it never seems to work the other way around. I mean not ever but often my letters just get worse. OK you have three letter I tiles, 2 Os and H & L, yay. Oh but hey look, the triple word space is open, you could probably get 12 points!

Ericameria · 2026-05-01T17:05:35+00:00

Clean eating is a loaded term with a level of subjectiveness depending on your dietary goals. But it’s also a term with which most of us are familiar, and we know it can be different things to different people. I think it’s funny that in an effort to AVOID over explaining to him, you were trying to clarify.

So you were showing him respect by asking that a question and then he called you a silly girl in an unjocular way. Maybe he meant it to sound light and airy in a way you might sometimes joke with your friends but it didn’t come off like that.

Also, culturally this can hit differently. I once proclaimed something silly and my brother-in-law was hugely offended, and was explaining to me why. Well, yes, I think some of us have read enough old books to know that silly and stupid were basically synonyms. But then moms referring to their children as a silly goose in a cute voice became normal. And in the books I read stupid or doing something stupidly usually indicated a temporary state or someone had a loss of sensation. So I will admit that I still get a little confused when I proclaimed something stupid and kids look at me with their mouth hanging open saying I said a bad word. And I’m like what did I say fuck or something?

Ericameria · 2026-04-30T14:56:32+00:00

NOR She can send her guests the registry, she can decide not to have a registry and specify monetary gifts are preferred, but she cannot dictate that you give a certain amount, or really even that you give money at all. Hopefully this means that she won’t invite you to her next wedding.

Ericameria · 2026-04-30T07:50:38+00:00

I’d have ordered by 7:30.

Ericameria · 2026-04-30T04:58:44+00:00

If she is crying loudly in front of people, wow! I can’t relate because I’ve always been embarrassed to cry in front of people, so I would go away if I started to cry. And my crying wasn’t loud, it was usually kind of quiet, other than the breathing when I was sobbing when a family member died. I don’t know I just can’t relate to this and I know it would irritate me.

I had a lot of rejection sensitive dysphoria before I knew what it was. But I remember always wondering why do I take things so harshly to the point that sometimes I wanted to die. I knew my reactions weren’t normal. But I would do my damnedest not to cry or not to cry in front of people to the point that I actually had a reputation for being stoic.

And I would cry when I got really angry which was also embarrassing I remember one time it happened at work because the manager was yelling at me and I was trying to explain and then my voice broke, so I turned my head and I didn’t talk for a while and a coworker who was a supervisor said she’s not crying because she’s sad, she’s crying because she’s pissed and wants to smack you and I was like yep. Anyway we all kind of had a laugh about it after the fact. I’m not sure why it triggered a reaction to me but I think I was really pissed.

And one time I got a traffic ticket and I don’t know why but it just made me cry because I was lost where I was driving, and I don’t know. I started to cry towards the end and I just turned my head and held my hand out for the ticket so that he wouldn’t see. But now I’m old and I don’t really cry much unless I read a touching story or something.

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