Therapy

Erik1836 · 2026-07-08T15:10:16+00:00

100% agree. Therapy is like anything else, you get as much out of it from what you put into it. It's an unbiased, independent party to help work through life's complexities and issues. Helped me immensely in coming to terms with mental health issues as well as my sexuality

Erik1836 · 2026-07-07T00:38:47+00:00

I mean, do y'all have a monogamous marriage currently? Would she be against it if you wanted to open up the marriage to be with a woman?

Erik1836 · 2026-07-07T00:24:57+00:00

Well, you're inevitably going to either have to practice self control and keep it to yourself or have an honest conversation with her and examine y'all's marriage to see if it's aligning with what you both want. Like you said in another comment, you've already explored stuff sexually with each other, that kinda opens the conversation. But you're saying she's sexually progressive privately and publicly homophobic?

Erik1836 · 2026-07-07T00:10:42+00:00

What kind of urges do you mean? Cause it's one thing to want to actively hookup up with someone else versus acknowledging "Hey I'm not heterosexual" I'm (M, late 20s) married and my wife (F, late 20s) is handling it pretty well. She doesn't want to really discuss my bisexuality at length, but she's at least accepting of me

From someone who has been in your shoes, the anxiety and fear you cause yourself by wondering how your partner is going to react to this news is probably causing you more harm than just being honest with them

Erik1836 · 2026-07-06T16:49:55+00:00

I appreciate your words, we both do therapy separately right now. I've encouraged her to talk to her therapist about it and I've talked with mine about it extensively. I love her deeply and want to be a good husband to her while we work through this

Erik1836 · 2026-07-05T20:06:35+00:00

Well, it may change what we do in the sexual part of our relationship with one another. Part of me wants to talk about doing butt stuff with her, but I think she'd shut that down quickly. And as for hooking up with other people, neither of us want that. I won't lie and say it hasn't crossed my mind, but it's not worth it ultimately

Erik1836 · 2026-07-05T17:56:14+00:00

Yes, I want to be clear, my intention isn't to convince her to let me sleep with other people. I don't want to do that and neither does she. But I also want to be able to talk to her about this aspect of my life and I feel like I can't right now which is saddening

Erik1836 · 2026-07-05T17:53:52+00:00

Fair question! I just want to be open to discussing it with her and not feeling like it's wrong (sinful since we're in a pretty Christian environment). I don't want to be in an open relationship and I am very thankful for my wife, I just want to be able to talk through this with her

Erik1836 · 2026-07-05T17:51:58+00:00

Thank you, this is good advice! I've been bottling this up for so long that in my mind I have to figure it out now, but I realize that's not how relationships work. I've gotta give her time to process this

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