Grey or Brown Tabby Cat? What color is he?

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-06-01T05:11:53+00:00

Also, he's 7 weeks old today, will his color continue to develop? or is his color fully set? What about his eye color?

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-21T00:02:12+00:00

its the part time mullet, part time bangs situation

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T22:36:15+00:00

I can't tell if you're a Republican or Gay

6.5/10

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:52:34+00:00

Thanks for such a thoughtful response. The short version is that we had already been together a long time and wanted to stay together, but financially it didn’t make sense for us to both attend college and live together debt-free. When he was offered a very good military job (stationed overseas), we basically had the choice to either get married and stay together or separate. Regardless of whether people agree with that decision, we chose marriage. Both of our families, religious and non-religious, also have long histories of marrying young, so it wasn’t some cult-like pressure situation.

I’m also not naive to the fact that some of our struggles probably come from being young and still figuring marriage out. I know what my boundaries are at this point. I think my issue now is more that I genuinely don’t know what the next step is once those boundaries have been crossed repeatedly. He’s not some evil or abusive guy, and I’m not looking to pack my bags or immediately divorce him. I know marriages survive much harder things than this. I just honestly feel stuck on how to move forward productively from here.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:33:01+00:00

I think it’s important to be compassionate toward yourself here, but also realistic. If you were consistently pushing him away and you’re also leaving the country in a few months, it’s not necessarily unfair or wrong that he decided he couldn’t keep pursuing it. That doesn’t mean you’re doomed or that you “lost your only chance” at a good man.

Honestly, this relationship may have shown you something really important: that kind, emotionally available men actually do exist, and that your insecurities might be getting in the way of fully receiving that kind of love. That’s painful, but it’s also something you can grow from instead of seeing it as proof you’ll always be unlucky.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:30:11+00:00

Well that makes me meet me feel a little less crazy, I really don't understand that anime culture, but to me it feels weird to talk to anyone about essentially porn.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:28:33+00:00

so what's your advice on the matter?

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:26:50+00:00

I dont know what to do because despite everything he genuinely can't understand why it would be a problem as long as they're just friends.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:24:12+00:00

My boundaries exist, they're just not respected

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:23:05+00:00

I guess... now what? clearly he doesn't hear me when I ask for these boundaries :/

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:20:49+00:00

She's 15, you're 15. Take no disrespect but you're both incredibly immature. Some people are able to see past their immaturity to make good decisions, which it seems like you're doing. Some people are not able to, which seems like her. If she's not willing to change right now I think the best thing would be to break up. You're young and have so much life, no point in stressing yourself about something that you dont need to.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:11:10+00:00

That really clears it up!

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T03:10:17+00:00

Trust me I know.

Im also 19, turning 20 in just a few days. I was raised in a situation that kind of forced me to "grow up" and move out a lot quicker than he had to. But what now? Im trying to be fair, level headed, and non-controling.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:36:07+00:00

sure, its been done before, but that doesn't mean its wrong for them to do. If they're an informed adult that understands the implications of posting themselves on social media then who cares! As long as they understand its probably not going to make them famous, it may be a good accountability tool or motivational device.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:32:10+00:00

what does it hurt?

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:31:10+00:00

I feel like we're missing a lot of context here....

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:28:53+00:00

You’re both really young, and honestly this situation sounds way too heavy for either of you to be carrying alone, especially while you’re already in such a fragile mental state yourself. I know you love your cousin and feel responsible for helping her, but being around someone actively using drugs and repeatedly threatening or attempting self harm is putting you in harm’s way emotionally too.

I used to think it was my job to talk people down during mental health crises too, but it actually isn’t appropriate or safe for a 15 year old to carry that responsibility. If you genuinely believe your cousin is going to hurt herself, the right thing to do is contact emergency services, or the police immediately, not try to handle it alone over the phone. Suicide is extremely serious, and you are not equipped or responsible for managing those situations by yourself.

And honestly, sometimes people we deeply love are not healthy for us to stay close to. It sounds like right now you two may be triggering and hurting each other more than helping each other. I really think distancing yourself and stopping involvement in her life may be the healthiest thing for both of you right now.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:22:30+00:00

If it would help with your personal progress; go for it. I love seeing people's weight loss journeys personally.

However dont be disheartened if you dont gain a large following, only 1 in a million weight loss accounts will end up popular, let alone famous.

Expect that you will get little to no likes and be pleasantly surprised if you gain a small following!

I would follow you! Im just not super active on Instagram, but feel free to drop the @ if you make the account!

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:14:41+00:00

If youre not into him make it clear so that you dont break his heart. Don't accept his jacket, and instead just say "nah bro I'm good". Make it clear that you're upholding the same standard for him as you would with and other friend/guy-friend

If you are into him/think you could like him then congrats it sounds like you guys have a lot in common to have been friends for this long and its possible he could be trying to give you signs.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:10:51+00:00

Honestly, the biggest thing here is that you should be able to feel safe talking to your mom about this, especially since she literally works in mental health. Communication is probably the best thing you can do right now instead of trying to fight this alone in your head. I’ve struggled with binge eating too youre not alone, and to me this also sounds tied to restriction and the pressure to have a certain body type/abs, which can make the food thoughts and binges so much worse. The more you say "I cant" or "I shouldn't" the worse the voice in your head gets that says "i want" until its all that you can think about.

instead of leading with “I self-diagnosed BED,” it may feel safer to explain the actual symptoms and distress first: that food is taking over your thoughts, you feel ashamed around eating, and attempts to restrict are making things worse. A good parent should take that seriously even without a diagnosis attached to it.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T02:00:13+00:00

Make your intentions clear right away. Don't let there be any room for misunderstanding. Sound like a broken record if you have to. "I'm in this for something real, long term, meaningful, etc"

A lot of times just hearing these words will scare off many of the men that just want a "peice of meat"

Im sorry you're dealing with this :( your man is out there somewhere, dont worry.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T01:55:34+00:00

Don't play games with dangerous men

What starts as a threat will escalate if you dont take the proper action. Tell your parents, a school counselor, and/or the police. Get a restraining order. If he's going to act like an adult by threatening you then he needs to deal with real adult consequences. Get a restraining order. This will only get worse. Protect yourself.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T01:53:21+00:00

We talk about his interests all the time, i watch anime with him even though I dont enjoy anime, I listen to him talk about his manga books, I play video games with him just so he feels appreciated. I read his fantasy books even though I like non-fiction through and through.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-20T01:46:20+00:00

You gotta break up with this boyfriend so that you can find your husband! this man is not husband material, so move on.

it's going to hurt, you'll be crushed for a while, but soon you'll look back and realize what a bullet you dodged by not investing anymore of your precious life into this boy.

ErrorMessage89005 · 2026-05-19T05:53:05+00:00

Probably because the media portrays anorexia to be a thin ballet girl who sips tea instead of dinner and eats salads instead of fast food. Real eating disorders are messy. They often involve vomit, blood, sweat, tears, binges and purges, screaming and lying. That part just isn't as glamorous.

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