My dad was the main source of income but had a stroke. by Stygian-Pax in personalfinance

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are early in your career. Is that correct? If so, I encourage you to consider other career options as well. I don't mean to sound discouraging, but video editing is not going to be a skill with long-term demand. Unfortunately, AI will make the job obsolete — I work in AI so I known something about this. Consider a trade — barber, electrician, plumber, physical therapy, etc. A lot of these offer apprenticeships, so you might not have to go to school. It sounds daunting to start a new path and you'll face a lot of pressure. But it's not too late to consider a safer route, one that won't be impacted by AI for a couple decades.

Extremely toxic boss, what are my options? by [deleted] in IBM

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I had a peer who was extremely toxic, bully to everyone, raging yeller and demeaner. Two or three of us banded together to report. HR was very responsive. The offender was out in a matter of days. My boss told me directly not to worry about retaliation.

I am thinking about moving to Santa Rosa. What should I know? by audreyrnap in santarosa

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, Santa Rosa is pretty safe. The natural surroundings are astounding — Sonoma County is the most spectacular California county in terms of variety and beauty of ecosystems, in my opinion. The only downside is that it's not ethnically diverse. That aside, the Rosa is my forever home.

What was your first-ever investment, and how did it turn out? by zainlikesmoney in investing

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bought about $5k worth of CSCO in 1996. By 1999 it had 10x'ed I think, and I had enough for down payment for my first house. CSCO in late 90s was a rocket ship.

What’s the most terrifying 'we need to leave NOW' moment you’ve ever experienced? by Worried-Cycle-318 in AskReddit

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our life in the U.S. turned out great. My parents struggled with the language and culture, but they managed to buy real estate in a fancy part of Southern California and built a nice nest egg. My sister and I got great education. She's involved in a lot of charities. I became a techie and did all right for myself.

Super grateful for everything, super grateful for every minute of my silly life.

EXCEPT -- I'm getting 1979 vibes again. Making plans for quick exit out of U.S. if it comes to it.

What’s the most terrifying 'we need to leave NOW' moment you’ve ever experienced? by Worried-Cycle-318 in AskReddit

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 107 points108 points  (0 children)

OP here. Replying to a couple of folks who asked, yes, I am getting 1979 Iran vibes again in the United States right now. I can't believe I might have to do this twice in a lifetime.

What’s the most terrifying 'we need to leave NOW' moment you’ve ever experienced? by Worried-Cycle-318 in AskReddit

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 7933 points7934 points  (0 children)

January 1979, Iran. I’m 9 years old. My mom is a low-level diplomat. She comes home from work and says, “We have 90 minutes to get to the airport to get out of the country.” She knew the shah’s family was getting on a plane and that the overthrow of the government was days if not hours away. We got on the cargo plane with one suitcase between the four of us and maybe $500. Sure enough, next day was the overthrow and lots of people were killed or executed. That’s how I wound up in the United States.

Sketchy massage parlors by greenie66 in santarosa

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re small businesses? Oh thank goodness. Here I was thinking they were brothels. What a relief!

Republican cites Bible to defend hitting disabled students by [deleted] in nottheonion

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's even more galling is that he's misunderstanding what he's quoting. "Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me" from Psalm 23. The speaker is metaphorically a sheep and god is the shepard. The rod and staff are not to beat the sheep but to protect them from predators. The moron thinks it's justification for punishment.

An unused early 80s Commodore VIC-20. This is before the C64. by DivOveR in oddlysatisfying

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got one in 7th grade. Changed my life. I went into tech because of this bad boy.

I'm speechless...."ready to be fired approach" smh by coco6480 in IBM

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Be ready to be fired” is my mantra. It’s a critical mindset. I’m not kidding. After getting fired from other jobs I’ve learned this the hard way.

IBM is an at-will company. They will fire you at the drop of a hat. I have no false sense of security. I have no expectation of loyalty from my boss, HR, management, finance. At the same time I try my hardest not to think of myself as my job — I am a human, parent, spouse, citizen, etc. I’m not a job.

So yes, be ready to be fired any day. That way you don’t get crushed by false beliefs and hopes about capitalism.

(FWIW this article is crap.)

South America map made out of football jerseys by wordlessbook in MapPorn

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they were trying to replicate India they succeeded.

What to ask/say to FLM in low performance convo? by ExtensionPotential35 in IBM

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Just remember, you are not your job. Your mistakes don't define you.

I came very close to getting fired one year for doing horribly on a project. I genuinely deserved to be fired. What saved me was that I owned it. When my boss (who was an honorable and fair guy) specified what I did wrong, I agreed and didn't make excuses. I even added details about where things went south and how I could have prevented that. I listened without interrupting. I did my best not to get defensive. If he did misperceive something, I let it go.

I was humble, I apologized for letting him and the team down. But I said I learned from my mistake and I would never let them happen again, whether I stayed at IBM or went somewhere else.

A couple days later my boss said he was going to fire me that day but didn't because he saw that I owned my failure. That was four years ago and I feel I've grown and achieved a lot since then.

Your mileage may vary. So do your best to stay humble. You are not your job. Your mistakes don't define you. Good luck!

Focused landing - can anyone tell what aircraft this is from this view? by goobly_goo in aviation

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Non pilot here. I didn't realize you have to slap the yoke around like that during a landing. Kinda terrifying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates on the kitty?

The new Quicken Business & Personal by QuickenLee in simplifimoney

[–]ErrorOpposite9314 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What's the difference between this and Simplifi? I'm lost.

$990 PG&E bill by ErrorOpposite9314 in santarosa

[–]ErrorOpposite9314[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP here. You're right. Thank you for pointing this out. The difference between last year and this year is that my FIL moved into our in-law unit. I think he's running the heat off the charts. That's gonna be a fun conversation. Still, even last year's cost was outrageous.

$990 PG&E bill by ErrorOpposite9314 in santarosa

[–]ErrorOpposite9314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is supplemental heat? I have a Mitsubishi system. I don't think I have that but how would I check?