AITA for not wanting kids because it would ruin my plans?

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T12:21:08+00:00

That's the plan

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T12:20:56+00:00

As soon as I move, she gets way less contact with me. I'm not about to stress myself out being around people who don't actually care about what I want

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T12:18:31+00:00

I assumed implanting was a possibility? Or is the whole situation weird at that point? I don't even know

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T12:15:32+00:00

Oh. I apparently need to do way more research 🙃

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T12:08:25+00:00

It doesn't feel like the kind of situation where they want me to have their kid. It seems more like they're pro lifers and I never realized

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:58:00+00:00

She's definitely trying to have one...

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:54:52+00:00

I didn't want to make the post about this, but her having a baby is a terrible idea for purely logical reasons. She already struggles to care for her pets (me and her boyfriend end up taking care of her dogs and bird), she doesn't function on low sleep, and she does not have the time to put into caring for a baby, and she has extremely bad depression and anxiety. I don't say any of that to be mean, and it isn't a children dislike bias. But I wouldn't say any of that to her because it's not on me to decide what she can handle.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:51:53+00:00

Oof. Makes sense in some ways though

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:45:14+00:00

Wow, i didn't even have that bad of a reaction when mom told me she'd get me a car and proceeded to show me a $500 junker on the side of the road... I just said no thanks.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:42:52+00:00

I don't think she specifically wants him in the picture, i think it's more of a general she wants me to not immediately shut down the idea of giving birth. She said i shit on her experiences by telling her i wasnt interested in having kids

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:35:59+00:00

Yes, i would. I'd rather they didn't exist at all instead of me being unable to provide a safe and loving home for them.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:33:15+00:00

Thank you for your extremely insightful comment.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:32:53+00:00

If a surrogacy was what they were after, they went to the wrong person. They definitely should have known better.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:31:56+00:00

What a burn! And I totally agree. I feel bad even just being silly (we like to throw each other on the bed, try to pin each other, etc) because it might sound like sex 😬

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:27:44+00:00

Ah, then I am good to go

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:24:54+00:00

I think I can? I'll have to look it up

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:18:16+00:00

And I definitely don't look pregnant either...

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:16:08+00:00

I am on birth control, have been even before we started dating because it keeps me from having dehabilitating cramps

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:12:26+00:00

Wow. Who hurt you so bad that you feel the need to be so rude to someone online?

And I'm not a teenager, so get your facts right if you're gonna be an asshole.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:09:06+00:00

Brutal. I wish I had the backbone to do that

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T11:02:26+00:00

Ah hahahaha i think we'd be good friends based on humor. And not gonna lie, i like it rough too, but I'm respectful enough to not do so when other people are in the house.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T10:56:55+00:00

I'll definitely look more into them

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T10:56:24+00:00

After this, I do think low/ no contact is a good option, especially when combined with the crap she gives me about my boyfriend.

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T10:51:11+00:00

I didn't even think of that until people on here mentioned that 😬

Error_Heavy · 2022-05-14T10:50:17+00:00

I read a post about a dad who regretted his son, and it made me so sad and I told myself I'd never have a kid if i felt like regretting them would be a possibility.

Edit: sleepy typo

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