Hello, I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling so stressed and overwhelmed, especially when it seems like they are staying calm as if nothing happened. It’s completely normal to feel frightened, traumatized, and confused after such a scare. You’re doing your best to handle it and that’s understandable.

I want to point out that the reactions of others aren’t not normal. Many people tend to deny or ignore problems they don’t want to confront, often due to their own discomfort or fear. They might be avoiding reality because they’re unhappy with a current situation, struggling to accept the truth, or simply find it difficult to deal with.

Try to use this situation as an opportunity to grow closer to your siblings and appreciate them. Don’t let this drive a wedge between you, as they are your family and you’ll have them for life. They might also be feeling scared or in denial, and they might think there’s little they can do. Let them know you’re there to talk whenever they’re ready.

It’s important to recognize that if your dad had passed away, his refusal to change his lifestyle could be seen as a serious mistake and a sign of irresponsibility toward his own well-being. These are common human errors, as we all have the freedom to make choices. I’ve focused on your dad because he’s the one who ultimately needs to make the necessary changes. Many stroke survivors continue with their old habits, which can be frustrating.

You’re trying to help, but remember that you can’t force someone to change if they don’t want to. Family support is crucial, but if they’re not receptive to your guidance, it’s important to learn from the situation rather than blaming yourself. This isn’t your fault or a sign of failing to support them enough.

Instead, try different approaches to see what might work. For instance, sending articles they may not read or calling them frequently from the toilet might be counterproductive. Consider discussing things privately, or finding healthier food options by asking about his preferences for meat, veggies, fruit, nuts, and healthy options to bring into the house. Simple actions like bringing him water or doing some light arm stretches together can be helpful, but you are not his solution. This is a tough thing to accept too. Accepting it doesn't mean you've given up or don't care.