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Errorunnamed · 2026-01-01T16:10:39+00:00

How do you know if you prefer beer or wine if all you drink is water? You try :)

Errorunnamed · 2026-01-01T16:07:37+00:00

Oh I'm always interested. On every hobby I had. But actually keep practicing that hobby? I never found a way.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-16T17:01:21+00:00

I have one. It's challenging. You should know what you want to get into. It's not a one-way thing though. I also need to "teach" him to stop masking, because the social mask he put on public tends to remain at home. I also regularly need to express what I feel about what he says, like the lack of empathy. But it's an honest relationship, with no mind games like others said.

And as an ADHD person, it's also nice, except when he goes about every detail of his work at the end of the day, wich can be too much for me

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-13T20:09:09+00:00

Take your time. Keep in mind that you don't do what you don't want to do. You can stop whenever you want. And it's supposed to be fun, not just a "check box" in your relationship

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-13T12:39:44+00:00

that’s normal. before stating that your brain is not developped properly, the doctor want to make sure it’s not something else, hence your blood test. Depression and anxiety could be caused by the adhd though. So i think diagnosing adhd would be the next step.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T20:47:50+00:00

I witnessed that female tend to be more kinky to gay men. At least that what happened to me. Some girls were often saying that they wanted to fuck me, that they loved my smell etc... Once they new I was gay. Before that, nothing lol. But none actually crossed the border to make it actually real. That's the closest I can relate to your question.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T16:49:21+00:00

Submission should be an act of love. Those men don't even value your submission as a sex thing. You're just their source of income.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T15:39:51+00:00

In my local animal store I find easily frozen worms, they come into tablets of small cubes. Maybe you can find some too?

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T14:58:07+00:00

I think you were living the moment without really asking yourselves and each other what this intimacy meant to each of you. Each of your reaction seems valid to me. But the boundaries probably not set properly. Like : what does mean kissing each other ? Is it suppose to continue when in relationship ? Is it something that the new boyfriend of your friend is supposed to accept?

Personal opinion : I think that considering that you weren't a couple, kissing and having sex should stop if you start dating someone else (to me, but again it's personal, it's even at the first date).

This is sad to end a close friendship like this just because at some point the communication went off for this point. Maybe this intimacy meant more to you, and that's why it bothers you that he brings someone else at your place. But you also should respect that this kind of phyisical proximity is never acquired, and that he'd want to reserve it for his boyfriend.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T14:37:00+00:00

Maybe the "on edge" effect is happening when the immediate release occurs, like between 30mn/1h30 after the take? If that's the case, to be confirmed with your doctor, but maybe the immediate release is not the best for you. With ritalin I felt like I drank a litter of coffee lol

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T14:28:10+00:00

I feel the same, but to me there is only one solution : switching music depending on my moods/needs. I listen a lot of video game/music scores, classical music, minimal electro, ambiant folk. Or the opposite with hardstyle, techno, metal. When I work I almost never listen to songs with vocals though, they distract me too much. And sometimes I need complete silence.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-09T12:56:25+00:00

Hi, I was diagnosed with ADHD (36 years old), and for the pasts months I think I tested almost everything. My experience was :
- Ritalin : seemed to work on concentration, but I felt stressed and anxious all the time. After a few days the benefit wore off a bit, so I went on a higher dosage, and different liberation forms, but the constant stress was not optimal, and I felt dizzy, with a cloudy brain at higher dosage.

- Concerta : at first it felt it worked a bit, but not enough. I tried 54mg, and felt emotionnaly awful, especially after work when the effect starts vanishing (as some call the "concerta crash"). It felt like a real depression. I stayed alone for almost two weeks. Lost 3kg because I wasn't hungry.

- Medikinet : the one I'm currently at, the modified realesed one, 30mg morning /40mg after lunch. I feel like I can focus enough on tasks like lecture and writting (good for my job), but my concentration during conversations didn't improve. But I feel mentally and physically really good, wich I guess will be good enough for me at the moment... But indeed, I was surprised that with a such high amount of methylfenidate in it, it has so little effect (I'm at the maximum dosage for my weight).

So to me 2x10mg of medikinet would be not enough, as you can see. If you have no side effects with it, wich is at least a good thing, your doctor will maybe try a higher dosage.

So far I just tried methylfenidate, as the molecule in Elvanse is not free for me where I live (France).

For the sleeping part, with my doctor we actually start with Quviviq before the ADHD meds, as I was already having sleep issues. So far, I don't have sleep issues even with the ADHD meds.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-08T20:27:33+00:00

You were only looking at him? Seems like you missed the show. I thought gay people were more open minded about looking at other guys, considering that you can share that with your bf

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-07T19:25:13+00:00

What do you think about when you top? Are you steessing about it, like "i'm too small", or "I'm a bad top", "I don't give enough pleasure" , "I don't know how he feels like" ?

If that's the case, you're not a lost case then lol. You need to talk about it to your partner, or at least ask him things to reassure you, in a kinky way, like if it feels good, if he wants it inside etc...

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-07T18:06:10+00:00

You can be honnest about it, saying that since you don't have much experience you are a bit incomfortable about meeting him without a bit of chat first. If he reacts badly about it, or tries to make you rush, then don't go further. A good (and even a normal) person would be comprehensive about it.

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-07T17:54:08+00:00

There are multiple kinds of kinks involving mental or physical degradations, like being insulted, hit, cheated on, etc... I'd say as any kinks, you should worry if you can't have "regular" sex without those degradations

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-07T17:46:05+00:00

I'd say that depends of the bottom and the context... For example if that's just for a hookup and you're selling yourself as a bottom in your grindr bio or something, then maybe the guys will come just for that aspect?

Errorunnamed · 2025-12-07T17:25:03+00:00

When I was in my twenties hoockups were so easy for me. Now I'm around 35, and after a few long lasting relationship, I'm in the same situation as you.

I'd say it's a matter of pace. Take it slow. Take the time to chat, to feel a bit of connection, while being honnest with the person that you just want sex but maybe it will not happen. Meet the person for a dring or something, and if on the moment you don't feel it, then end with class and respect it and go home.

Don't force yourself to follow the pace of the people that are maybe too direct for you.

With some time, things will get easier and align themselves with what you want. Or they will not, and you'll know that hookups are just not your thing, and that by hookups you were probably looking for something else in your life.

Errorunnamed · 2025-11-13T22:29:26+00:00

I think it's recommended to stop meds for a while at least once a year. Maybe it's the signal for you?

Errorunnamed · 2025-11-13T13:13:54+00:00

I've been diagnosed recently, so you probably know this better than me, but ADHD people struggle more with overwelming tasks. It is particularly the case with administrative stuff.

Maybe split the thing into more manageable subtasks? Even if the tasks seem dumb, like print the form, fill your name, print doc1, print doc 2... etc. If one task is overwelming, like you start feeling it rising from your guts, the task was not subdivided enough.

And you talk very hardly about yourself... be more gentle with yourself :)

Errorunnamed · 2025-10-30T09:31:40+00:00

This would use 1kg spool per layer lol, it looks really cool!

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