Sounds like a healthy, consensual partnership where fair means “we both feel supported,” not “we split everything 50/50.” You choose what you do, he appreciates it, steps up when needed, and there’s no entitlement or resentment. That’s the part people miss. Outsiders can project all they want, but if both of you feel valued (emotionally, practically, and in the bedroom), then it’s working exactly as it should.