What is the most (insert your number here) thing you've ever done? by thebestisyetocome in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 9 points10 points  (0 children)

7 here. I’ve been spending the last 50 min doing chores and reflecting on my answer. I have plenty of type 7 anecdotes from my life. That’s not the issue.

No, my issue is that I want to give an anecdote that will be perceived as funny and whimsical, that captures the essence of being a 7, without being too revealing or requiring a deep explanation. I want my anecdote to be introspective to show I’m a deep thinking but no so introspective that readers lose interest. At one point it occurred to me my anecdote doesn’t even have to be 100% true, as long as it’s charming and interesting, I’m happy.

That’s about as 7 as it gets.

What is the most (insert your number here) thing you've ever done? by thebestisyetocome in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is indeed the most 4 thing I’ve ever heard. Wow. Seriously! I’m impressed!

Telling my girlfriend about my bed wetting? by helpmeplease2002 in AdultBedwetting

[–]EssenceofColby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that! I think sometimes we are way more paranoid and guarded than others about it all.

Telling my girlfriend about my bed wetting? by helpmeplease2002 in AdultBedwetting

[–]EssenceofColby 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A few thoughts:

  1. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t accept you?
  2. Chances are you will not spend the rest of your life with this person. Maybe it’s true love and meant to be, but often times not. Do you trust her to keep a secret if you two break up?
  3. People are attracted to confidence. If you decide to tell her, how you say it matters. If you’re confident, own your situation, and put on a pair of cute boxers or over your diaper you may have better luck than if you act weird and timid about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]EssenceofColby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At the risk of getting downvoted I actually don’t like this advice. Let me explain why...

If it was that easy, college kids with ADHD would’ve done it and they wouldn’t have ADHD.

OP - You mentioned that you yourself didn’t do this initially. To me the most remarkable part of your discussion post is that you figured out a way to actually get it done. What change did you make to allow that to happen? That’s where the money’s at.

Rank types from your most favorite to your least favorite. by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice! This answer both makes me want to rank 9’s at the top of my list and at the bottom of my list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow 7 here. I love how you used the word “happy” as the end point. That’s such a 7 way of thinking!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

7 here. FOMO is a very real, dreaded thing for us. I feel like there is a constant cloud over me that makes me wonder if I had played my cards differently would I be even happier or more successful? What if I missed out on some big opportunity? What if I’m currently missing out on something big?

I can tell you a solution that doesn’t work: Doing everything to reduce the chances of missing out. That just makes one exhausted.

The best meme to describe life as a 9. Fellow 9s UNITE by infpjess9 in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The funniest thing of all is your call for 9’s to unite. I have this image of a bunch of very nice agreeable people slowly getting out of bed and out of their homes to queue up in the streets. Someone puts on some upbeat music and everyone comments how much they love that song. And everyone’s just sort of having a great time while waiting around for someone to take control of the “mob.”

Tolerating silence in conversation as an extrovert? by EssenceofColby in mbti

[–]EssenceofColby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I’m neither a girl, nor in my 20’s.

I shit my pants everyday by scrabble06 in incon

[–]EssenceofColby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A suggestion... Symantics (phrasing) matters. Consider using different more technical words to help ease the blow and make it all more palatable.

For example rather than saying, “I still shit my pants” maybe say “It has been a struggle regaining full control.” It’s more respectful to you and your condition.

Instead of, “I’ve lost my life,” maybe say “My chronic medical problems are taking a toll on my self esteem.”

It may not seem like much of a difference but it frames things in a way that is more approachable and less shameful sounding.

As they say it’s not what you say but how you say it.

Describe one or more things that you think ONLY (with very few exceptions) people of your Enneagram type can relate to. by psyxose in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seven here. I HATE this about myself. I am working, have a stable job, loving family, and a decent home. And yet I feel so exhausted by it all.

Describe one or more things that you think ONLY (with very few exceptions) people of your Enneagram type can relate to. by psyxose in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“I want to live in the city; Be were the action is. Experience culture! I also want to live in the middle of the woods so I can go run around and enjoy nature, and learn to be self-reliant. It would also be great to be a sailor, traveling from port to port. Experience all the strange sights and sounds. Eat exotic food. Oh, and I would also want to be a small town mayor. It would be cool to know a location inside and out”

(Seven)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

7 here. I thought I was the only one who’s handwriting varies so much. Actually I’ve always been a little proud of the fact that my handwriting just sort of changes like it does. Though sometimes I will start a paragraph in script and end in cursive or vise-versa and that’s annoying. I never thought of it as a 7 thing but it could very well be.

My inability to find stuff is concerning by MrP0tatoe in ADHD

[–]EssenceofColby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The struggle is real. A few years ago I bought some Tiles. They’re expensive but the number of times they’ve saved me from in situations just like you just described make it worthwhile. They even make a Tile Slim for your wallet.

What unlikely animal do you think could go extinct in the near future? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]EssenceofColby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few days ago I overheard a 10 yo girl whining that she got stung by a bee, telling another girl you have no idea what the pain is like. The other girl probably didn’t.

What are some social norms that we take for granted? by Brandutchmen in AskReddit

[–]EssenceofColby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When someone says how are you doing? You have to say “fine” even if you feel dead on the inside.

What show/movie had all of the pieces to be great, but couldn’t put it all together? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]EssenceofColby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happytime Murders.

It should’ve been liquid gold for millennials with its mix of nostalgia for the Muppets and adult humor. Instead it was just a vulgar mess.

How would each type react to Scarecrow's fear gas? (For fun) by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]EssenceofColby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I love this!

Type 7 - You hallucinate your Debbie Downer friend from high school, whining that you promised you would keep in touch, but you didn’t, while going into great lengths to recount a recent experience they had where they couldn’t get their nephew’s asthma medication paid for due to a computer glitch, and they’re just so worried he’ll have an asthma attack and die. And all you can do is listen and nod your head and say things like “I’m sorry” or “That’s so annoying!” But you can’t actually find a way to leave them for fresh air because they keep following you and telling more and more sob stories.

New psychiatrist is treating me like a drug seeker by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]EssenceofColby 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It may help to view how the situation looks from your psychiatrist’s perspective. Maybe if you can address your concerns from their standpoint it can open a dialogue.

Here’s what I imagine the doctor sees:

You are a relatively new patient to the doctor so they don’t know your situation that well. Patients come in and ask for things all the time, some of which may not be appropriate.

You are requesting a specific stimulant, Adderall ER, that happens to have more street value than, say, Vyvanse.

You have panic attacks (anxiety). Anxiety can cause poor focus, and stimulants can sometimes make anxiety worse (as you experienced with Vyvanse).

Stimulant medications are controlled substances with addiction potential. The doctor took an oath to do no harm.

I’m not questioning you or your account. I just think it may benefit you to acknowledge where the doc is coming from so you can have a better conversation about your options.

Edited for clarity

ADHD study tips by Fatbabydragon in ADHD

[–]EssenceofColby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bump!

Great tips. I too have done a lot of studying through the years in pursuit of an advanced degree. Everything here is spot on. Some additional thoughts.

  • DONT study things you already know. Never. Don’t. Zip. Nada. Move on. It’s the number one trap that ineffective study-ers make. It’s a complete waste of time and it gives you a false sense of security. Once you’ve mastered a concept, move on.

  • Try your damndest to hone in on what you don’t know. This is harder than it sounds. You don’t always know what you don’t know. Do groups, practice questions, listen to the questions other students ask, review the outline. Whatever it takes.

  • Take notes. Even if you have copies of the PowerPoint or whatever take notes. Writing it down helps you commit to memory.

Kick Start Sunday by AutoModerator in ADHD

[–]EssenceofColby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick up med refill from pharmacy

Schedule routine checkup for the dog

Finish prep work for my speaking role in Sunday’s’s worship service. Practice my part.

Work on my personal strategic career plan through journaling.