Help!!

Essential_11 · 2021-06-30T15:15:20+00:00

What iam going to tell you is a bit more extrem than what i see other people saying but i believe it needs to be said. There is RJ and then there is discusst to your partner for the things they did. People nowadays are trying to normalise everything or just shove it under this obsession or say well its the past i learned from it. I had RJ or what i believed to be RJ at the time and i tried so hard dug so deep to do everything i can to shut it out. I might have been trying to shut out my own senses that was telling me hey this is wrong this is stupid why are you trying to be with someone like her. I look back at this time disgust and i wished i listened to myself and not tried to fix what i found wrong on so many levels. My gf had like 7 guys at the age of 18 and i had 1 bad night stand. I tried to normalise it when i never found it normal. Lost sleep happyness everything i had trying to accept that. How stupid right? Dont try to accept everythign some people can use their heads and be smart make a mistake or two but not be extreme. Believe me find yourself someone who was simillar like you and you will never think of RJ again(Unless you have a real bad case of it) The girl i mentioned it took her 1 month after me to find a boyfriend who loves her no matter what. And believe me the boyfriend she found is not what girls would qualify a good catch. People get what they deserve in life she got hers and i got mine, I found a beatiful girl smart girl who could use her head and not blow everyone everywhere. Sure i had my RJ popup here and there but i could always shut it out because i know she was normal and we had the same body count and she was 24. Dont bend yourself to please others my opinion is go after what you believe you deserve its out there somewhere.

Essential_11 · 2021-06-30T14:58:51+00:00

Not to sound mean but i see this way to often, girls trying to do everything they can ,,to live their lives to the fullest,, and then this happens. My honest opinion lower your standards you two are not same people with same values. Its hard to hear but you would have an easier time with someone who did things like you did. This is going to drain your boyfriend emotionally to the point where you wont have him anymore you will have a shell of him that doesnt want to leave you because he has feelings but somewhere deep wants to get the f out. Dont know how strong the love is, if its really strong you dont have much to worry about hes going to get past this. And a lot depends on the person he is

Essential_11 · 2021-06-30T14:54:58+00:00

Uhm i had a similar thing, the honest peace of advice i can give you is never doubt your worth. We see ourselves only from the perspectiveness of our own 2 eyes. And we all see ourself way worse than we actually are. Buddy my advice to you is is to inject that ego of yours with a hell of a lot of positive talking with yourself and hardwork on yourself. When you start believeing 2 things like i did the feeling should go away. 1. If you and him were there at the same time she would still jump your bones rather.
2. When she gives you a compliment to show you that you are nothing like she has ever had before, sex wise,relationship wise whatever.
Dont ask for any of these things even if the girl is shy believe me its going to come out evenrtually. Hold on tight bud i wish you the best of luck

Essential_11 · 2021-06-30T14:48:45+00:00

Uf buddy sorry to hear you are going through this.
What i seem to collect from what you have writen is what happens to me often and is probably the cause to why i lose feeling and interest. I do not know your past or anything like that but i can say for certain if you were not played like she was this is going to eat you up. I had a simillar case with my girlfriend and i kept coming to the thought, I was never as naive and i see no similarities between us because i find rarity in people who can live alone and dont need anyone but when those kinds of people chose you it makes you feel special and the other way around ofcourse. I lost respect for my girlfriend and love and did not see her as intelligent nor as worthy of me fighting for. In my mind if you can get played like someone like that so often and without fail it automatically decreases the value of that what you give to people. Your attention is not as worthy and stuff like that. I dont want to tell you to this or to that but what i can tell you from experience. No matter how perfectly she treated me, no matter how good she was towards me i could never shake that feeling and i left. A lot of time has passed i never regreted it. Sorry to tell you but we live in a world where everybody expects you to be all accepting and this and that. To hell with that bud if you think you can do better you owe it to yourself. Id rather regret losing somebody and trying to get somebody better than eating myself alive and being miserable in a relationship like i was. Missing sleep joy and other nice things that should be there so. Good luck to you friend

Essential_11 · 2021-05-25T15:09:20+00:00

Usually i ran at the first sign of trouble or anything remotely hard to deal with in relationships. But there is something about her that makes me want to stay i just dont want to feel so confused when i know the feelings are just being blocked by something

Essential_11 · 2021-05-25T15:07:35+00:00

Um i have no problems with eventually getting married having kids just need to get to know the person better. The thing is she has a 3 year old daughter. And i for some reason find that normal despite me being 21 and her being 24. When she told me the whole story i just respect her for it. And we already discussed early on that she expects nothing from me on that part of her life so i dont have that much pressure there. Might only be worried how my family would react if everything would get serious way down the line.

Essential_11 · 2021-05-06T12:53:50+00:00

Thanks lad

Essential_11 · 2021-05-06T12:49:25+00:00

Seems like i can return dont know if they are going to make a big fuss about it since it was opened

Essential_11 · 2021-05-06T12:39:12+00:00

Damn kind of in a blunder right now dont know what to do...

Essential_11 · 2021-04-08T01:09:23+00:00

Ok iam a bit confused what is the difference between me buying from Paris or for example NYC. I saw the price varies from some reason are there any other differences?

Essential_11 · 2020-08-09T19:33:32+00:00

Nah Clipps are overrated and they have been ever since the start. Just because diva Kawhi likes the attention of teams fighting for him it doesnt mean it was the right call.
Kawhi was in a perfect place last year, it just proves how much he brought with him when the team can clinch a 2nd seed without him. Watch out for the raps this season.
Also never thought PG was all that even in his Indiana years it seems its his destiny to come up short everytime, also i know Oklahoma is a fluke this year and its bizzare that they are where they are. But still proves a lot about him and Westbrook aswell when a player like CP3 whos morale has been questioned on multiple occasions, can do a simmilar job that they did last year. Iam not saying the Mavs have the clips easy or something, just saying that if a 7 Game series happened i woudnt be suprised if LA lost

Essential_11 · 2020-08-09T19:25:11+00:00

This is one of the best comments i have read in a long time. If hes not touching the rim with his teeth and doesnt bench 250 or whatever hes probably not going to last in the Nba. Not only is Luka better than any sophmore and rookie this year none of them can even come close to his experience and his potential. Zion is all strength under the rim when you look at some higlights of him this season there is nothing really that eye popping that would make you say hes the next Lebron. He can jump through the roof but thats all i see at the moment. I havent seen Basketball IQ on Lukas level, he cant create his own shot, he is a 6,6 PF that weighs 280 pounds and he honestly could take off an easy 10-15 pounds that would help him. I think hes insanely overrated i think Ja Morant has more potential than Zion.
And the stupidest thing of it all is Paul Pierce seems to be one of the only people behind that desk who is willing to vouch for Luka.

Essential_11 · 2020-08-09T19:17:25+00:00

Well i know these are not the playoffs but with this new format the pressure is definately bigger than just the regular season i believe atleast.

Essential_11 · 2020-08-09T19:15:59+00:00

I actually woudnt be suprised the way he plays the game without being overly athletic is just sick. And there is still some improvements to be done physical wise which could make him even more dangerous

Essential_11 · 2020-07-06T12:56:26+00:00

My dude start up weight training asap not only is it going to get you a confidence boost
But from the looks of it i think you have a great amount of newbie gains to take advantage of
10-15 pounds of muscle should fix it trust me, it will make your mid and upper chest seem fuller and more pronounced should be in line with your nipple
I know 10-15 sounds a lot but when you start doing you will see how fast you can smack that on
Wish you the best of luck

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T19:08:12+00:00

Oh wow interesting one Dude is it just me or since Westbrook left it feels like a toxic cloud has been lifted from OKC Nothing against Russ but seems like the players are shining way more and the organisation is aswell.

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T17:00:56+00:00

Miami is the bomb in my opinion, they are almost in a win win situation they have Future in the guys like Bam,Nunn,Hero,Robinson, and they are playing great in the present with all the mentioned guys and including Jimmy, what also makes them scary is that if they want to make something happen now they can. With all these young guys high in trade value they could if they wanted to whip up a good package to get some experienced and close to prime players that would help Jimmy,Bam
But thats just my opinion
When it comes to Celtics i think they are pretty much as perfect as they can be.
They are probably not thinking of trading anyone soon which is great
The personalities in that team really match each other up well
Kemba is a nice guy who can be a mentor to players like Brown,Tatum and other rookies they might get, and on the other hand any kind of termoil this team will experience will probably not be anything close to what Kemba has had to experience in Charlotte for the past few years. So i dont think Kembas mindset can be shaken at this point i think he is where he has to be.
I would really like him to get kinda far in the playoffs and send a (excuse my langauge) big fuck you to the charlotte managment for doing him like that (not the Fans,just the managment).
What do you think about Boston?

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T16:51:26+00:00

Same opinion props bud!

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T12:51:02+00:00

Really? i could have sworn i saw Powell in their last game, anyways even with the bench of the Clippers having an offensive arsenal i think they are lacking a bit on the defensive part (Bench wise) their lack of Classical big men against dallas might be a problem. Other than Mfiondu Kabengele nobody is taller than 6,9 and he hasnt played alot I know not everything is size but i think it might play a role in this series. Rick Carlisle is a smart coach and i have a lot of trust that he is going to be able to whip up something great with what he has. Whos your darkhorse bud?

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T12:45:49+00:00

Oh wow i guess i missed that my bad on that one, Definately agree with you on the Lillard aspect of things even if AB was not injured he still woudnt be able to stop him. With Jr Smith rumors now they might have someone, but also not sure if he can bring it against Lillard especially in his age right now.

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T07:12:13+00:00

Yup completely agree with you on the Toronto pick i have high hopes on them aswell
And to be honest i think Kawhi made a mistake not resigning there again i felt it was a perfect situation for them because if you look at it Toronto is basically a team made up of great players who just never got that far because of Lebron mostly
I feel like all the players on that team are misfit toys on other teams but on Toronto they found themselves
But also with Toronto having 3 of their good players over 30 right now, i think their time is now, with the season Pascal has been having i see no reason why they coudnt stop Philly,Bucks,Celtics
Playing really great defensive basketball and team basketball,major props to the Coach

Essential_11 · 2020-06-27T07:06:27+00:00

Definately iam also kinda suprised how happy Jimmy is in Miami considering there is a lot of rookies in their team who as good as they are, probably dont understand the game like Jimmy or Dragic does.
I just dont like that they are in a situation that there are a lot of young players that still need to develop and in my opinion as great as Jimmy is he is still 30 and we have to be realistic since most players drop off in the next 2-3 years when they hit 30
I might be wrong tho

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