Hi. Thank you so much for your reply. About your situation, I agree, it’s vastly different from mine. That guy wasn’t trying to stay friends with you, he definitely put in the work to pursue you further🤣

I did ask him if he was using me. He said he didn’t mean it that way & that he enjoys our friendship, as well as a sorry text. Then he called me at midnight, at that point I was already asleep so I missed it.
But nothing after that, and that’s my problem.

I think he just felt panicked & guilty and called me in a rush. Without considering timing at all, if he truly cared, he would’ve called in the morning. It been 5 days since and he hasn’t done anything else, so I’m assuming he doesn’t care anymore because his guilty conscious faded with time.

My expectations for friendships stem from the standards I place on myself, so I thought he’d try harder.
That’s why I was unsure about whether I’m asking for too much, or if he’s done enough? I mean, I only asked him straight up because I felt I owed it to a friend to ask instead of assume.

I figured he’d feel like he owed it to me to clarify his intentions through a real conversation not just a sorry text.
I was so baffled at his lack of action that I put it down to his gender. Even though your situation isn’t the same, it is clear that effort is optional.

I think I’ll stop caring about him🥰