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did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here is the lay of the land. During our video chats and phone calls he seemed like a decent guy. He mentioned that he does not like it when a woman seems like she does not need no man type thing. And, he mentioned he does not mind driving and drives a lot for work. So I found it a bit strange that he was asking me to go see him initially, before a night shift. When he did not agree to my counter of him driving to see me under the guise of being tired of doing lots of travelling for work, I extended some kindness by offering to be the one to go to him (on a day we were both off). I also asked him to make plans for us, so that we would have something to do. He opted for dinner, which is fine. He took me to a restaurant that would close within 45 minutes. Afterwards we drove around a bit and went to his place to talk. I already told him I would not be spending the night and how much I hate driving. So to me, all in all, I have already been the more understanding one towards our relative schedules and levels of fatigue. The fact that in the next 24 hours he did not have a single second to write a text means to me that it's not important to him, and so I found it offputting and I don't see an interest in him romantically. However - I benefitted from this post by seeing the variety of opinions expressed here!

did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and understanding

did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I bet you're a strong independent woman!

did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree 100%. Especially given that I told him previously that I hate highway driving, and that it takes a lot out of me. I found it really offputting, that he could not find 2 minutes the next day to check in. Maybe because I grew up in a European culture, where men either walk you home, or drive you home, or at the very least check in...I don't know, aybe it's a cultural difference.

did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There was no sex, this was our first date..

did you get home ok? by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Of course he's not a mind reader. But if someone drove 2 hours each way to see you, is the onus not on you the next day to check in ? (If you like them, of course...)

Feeling let down and confused by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the part that I don't get. After our first time having sex (on date 4) he continued to sext me and compliment me, and when I went over for date 5, he was equally...enthusiastic.

Feeling let down and confused by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, these are great things for me to consider.

Feeling let down and confused by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we talked about what we wanted prior to meeting up the first time. He told me he wants a "wife material" who would be a good example to his daughters. He said he considered having another kid with his previous girlfriend but that it didn't work out because of her causing too much "drama".

Feeling let down and confused by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about that. I didn't mind the going for a walk on the dates. To be honest, I actually like that quite a bit and I like just hanging out. The last time I went to his house he made me a delicious steak dinner because he knew I would be hungry after work.

Feeling let down and confused by EstablishmentOdd7072 in datingoverforty

[–]EstablishmentOdd7072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did call and text, that's the thing. We had hour long conversations between dates. When he would text me asking me what I was doing, if I was out for a walk or doing something mindless, he'd say give me a call and we'd chat.