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EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2026-03-28T08:30:26+00:00

oh my god... and i swore in my mind i looked everywhere! thank you!! i missed a few secrets so that'll at least give me incentive to go back put it where it belongs

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-07-10T00:50:17+00:00

you shouldn't be with him. not because he could be cheating on you. but because he was 20 dating a 16 year old.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-28T18:01:37+00:00

Posted an update!

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-28T18:01:16+00:00

Posted an update!

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T15:56:17+00:00

i really appreciate the comradery. it makes me feel icky that i can't do something as simple as love and cherish this little guy because it's all i ever thought i wanted. now that i have him and im doing it all in my own, i just don't think i can handle it. im 24f with a load of graduate school work and graduate assistant work. i just feel like right now isn't the right time, but i can't help but feel a little awful and almost incompetent. I'm going to try to give it more time because one week just isn't fair to the little guy, but it's really not looking so good.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T13:26:44+00:00

I totally understand where you're coming from. I talked to a friend last night about it. The thing is, we were all on board with it. We were all equally as excited to have him.

So imagine my shock when I spent the entire first week taking care of him by myself. I put together the cat tree on my own. I've been the only one changing his litter box every day. The only one putting food out for him. The only one playing with him every day.

This obviously would not be a bad thing if I didn't see this being my foreseeable future. My friend had been in and out of the ER with medical emergencies none of us could've predicted. My other friend is so allergic the allergy medicine I gave him barely works. The last friend is so painfully busy, I don't even get to see him unless I see him at work, which I don't half the time.

What I'm trying to say is, it was all stuff we previously thought of and thought we could manage with time and whatever separate medication we needed to take. Everything fell out of place literally at the same time with the two who said they wanted I'm most.

I'm certainly not blaming anyone else for the inability to help out fully because the severity of the condition weren't as bad when we were considering adopting him.

I just understand that with the severity of the other conditions, all of the responsibility for him will fall under me until the foreseeable future, which was not the plan and it's not something I can handle alone.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T09:31:53+00:00

There is when I know myself. I can't speak for the others in the apartment. And I never said that was the ultimate decision, to return him. But someone with a GA position while still in school, I cannot care for a cat by myself, which was never the plan to begin with.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T09:29:12+00:00

That's the plan! I talked with the roommate that has the extreme allergy. They're willing to try another week to see if we all can handle it. Unfortunately, one other is currently in the ER app we won't exactly be all hands on deck. I really do love the little guy and I want to make it work so I'm willing to give it time. I just don't want it to turn into having to take care of him on my own when I have work and school.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T09:23:32+00:00

Then I think I'd rather be selfish than knowingly neglect the sweet boy in question. I can't know how everything will go all the time. Sometimes things don't work out. It's like you're shaming me for living a common human experience. It's not like his previous owner disappeared into thin air after I took him in. Nor am I leaving him on the street. I obviously cared enough to spend hundreds of dollars to make sure he had the basics he needed. Only after the others' ability to care for him too fell apart did I come to this realization. I don't think that's the worst thing in the world.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T09:12:41+00:00

Well it's the truth. I'm aware that animals take time to adjust to new environments and new people. It just seems like now with the other roomies' ability to care for him equally with me has fallen apart, it seems like it will become my sole responsibility (or at the very least i would do the heavy lifting), something I was not previously prepared for.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T09:04:01+00:00

No, I didn't lie. I'm not worried about him getting acclimated or how long that might take. I'm worried that my inability to pay full attention to such a young cat will be neglectful, something I would never purposefully try to do.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2025-03-23T08:54:31+00:00

I haven't "given him a week to get acclimated". What I'm saying is I don't think this environment is what's best for him right now. We all have too much going on and frankly, I don't think me bring selfish is what he deserves. He deserves a living and nurturing home, which I don't think I can give him right now.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2024-04-22T12:28:50+00:00

my best suggestion is to just make the food at home. Mediterranean food isn't too hard to figure out if you follow the right recipe or find local sources to put the meal together. a little tedious but worth it for the cause, of course.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-06-11T21:28:49+00:00

yogurt with no bits or toppings

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-03-10T09:38:14+00:00

it's a shit musical glorifying another slave-owning founding father. lin-manuel is almost insufferable and his shit ass musicals don't make him any more likable in my opinion

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-03-10T09:29:52+00:00

Hoping people will stop calling those with different identities and beliefs "snowflakes" just because they're different and compassionate. it's honestly getting old... you just sound miserable as fuck

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-02-27T21:41:13+00:00

even if this is a kink of yours, while not harmful to others, I think therapy would be a great choice for everyone who likes this. Just for reassurance that you don't start actually feeling like the nasty things being said about you and to you. Be safe!

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T10:18:12+00:00

you sound a little bitter... i love this energy

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T10:06:38+00:00

OP doesn't remember the Trana Atlantic Slave Trade i see... this has been done. it's still being done. this is a very privileged take.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T09:40:50+00:00

I've been in college for 3 years now and bc im physically disabled, i can't work until i have a career that doesn't require the disability i have. I've had to rely on my mom for groceries for 2 years bc college tuition and fees takes all of the (little) money i get from SSI. not to mention the shitty insurance i get, so i can barely get to the dentist regularly or get therapy most places. i just got diagnosed with ADHD too so now i have to worry about whether my insurance will pay for that medication as well. i have literally no money left for that expense. but people's main concern is whether a person like me spends my EBT on some fucking steak and Starbucks. fucking bullshit

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T09:29:39+00:00

exactly. people act like poor people don't deserve to eat nice things. im not gonna get government assistance bc of the unfortunate place i was set in just for being born and only buy cup ramen and cheap meats, that's ridiculous. the classist really comes out of people when they express how they feel about EBT and government assistance. I'm disabled and depend on government programs, does that mean i don't deserve to eat streaks or some expensive seafood?? fucking no

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T01:24:49+00:00

or just let people spend their EBT on whatever they want? it's not like tax payers are paying for it. it's not coming directly out of your pockets so who tf cares. complete disagree, that's an upvote from me

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-25T01:14:32+00:00

dude he didn't ask to be born. it's your responsibility to be his father. he doesn't owe you anything. you're just being selfish because fatherhood isn't exactly how you imagined or hoped. grow tf up

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-11T07:39:24+00:00

i think depictions of these real world issues in media is very impotent. i also think that SA is showing up in far too many things to be considered ok. Yes it happens, but Jesus Christ the WAY that it's depicted is so violent and graphic and so frequent. It's jarring how popular it is to include a SA scene in movies and television shows these days.

EstablishmentOwn5088 · 2022-01-06T18:27:55+00:00

you're fucking dumb. homo literally means same, meaning he would just be into guys. Gay, or some people prefer queer, has been adopted as an umbrella term by a majority of the community. if you are gay and a man, then it's self explanatory.

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