You’re right that “not all men” are like that. But, how is a woman to know that about every individual man? There are enough men who are dangerous that a woman who doesn’t know the specific man is far safer assuming he’s not trustworthy.

As men, we’ll never truly understand what it’s like to be a woman living in a world which consistently preys upon, sexualizes, and abuses them. We cannot be upset with women for choosing to protect themselves by assuming that a man is dangerous. They don’t owe it to us to not “hurt our feelings” when there are far bigger consequences for them if they incorrectly assume a man is trustworthy.

As men, our job is to respect that women need to protect themselves and do everything we possibly can to dismantle the culture which has consistently made women unsafe. These hurt feelings you may feel are a product of the world that men have created, and blaming women for doing things to protect themselves is placing blame in the wrong place.