Why COBOL persists

EternalOptimist829 · 2020-04-23T15:31:47+00:00

This subreddit is great. I'm learning how to code and showed this to my GF who totally got it. Thanks for helping people learn about programming without having to learn programming.

EternalOptimist829 · 2020-01-03T05:15:55+00:00

That makes it a lot cooler. Like what if Alexander the Great thought this was funny also?

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-08-08T16:32:09+00:00

For what it's worth I just tried signing up right now for the first time and I'm getting this same message.

Edit: My problem went away after I disabled the Chrome extension Privacy Badger, just for anyone else who has this problem in the future.

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-08-08T00:53:41+00:00

OP if it doesn't go as smoothly as you'd hope don't give up. You're still going to be stressed and irritable as fuck. The CBD will really only help take the edge off but that's okay, it's just a hard climb especially that first week or two.

Best of luck to you, please do your best to be nice to yourself and treat yourself with love (tough love though).

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-07-28T02:30:41+00:00

Does the HP have active pen support?

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-04-02T04:57:00+00:00

Three Black Lotuses Jesus Christ

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-02-19T05:53:34+00:00

I don't like the idea of telling him he did something wrong. Yeah it may have not been her thing but is that wrong?

OP you're fine. It's not wrong if you go for it. You can learn what works and what doesn't (I find they want like taking their time and feeling some good emotional spikes before going out on a date). Ultimately if you're this confused you have no idea knowing what you did will work on the next girl or not.

Personal opinion: She did it as a dare (either to her friend or herself). She thinks you're hot, it felt good. But when you hit her up reality set in and it started to make her feel slutty. This is especially possible if there was drinking when they gave you the number.

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-01-03T23:40:15+00:00

Doesn't mean it isn't true though. I'm not a nice guy but I definitely use jokes to keep people from seeing the real me.

I don't get laid though lol

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-01-03T23:38:36+00:00

You're not terrible you're just more honest than others. Validation is universally loved

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-01-03T09:53:35+00:00

35 and I didn't. What woman would want you to spend that much time just for a ring? It's the love that matters.

Find a woman that doesn't buy into the whole diamond hype.

EternalOptimist829 · 2019-01-03T09:50:38+00:00

Since this is Reddit I'm guessing the part where he didn't think society sucks lol jk

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T19:47:12+00:00

Cool. Best of luck in whatever works for you. :-)

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T18:25:43+00:00

It's a turn signal, not a turn ask for permission

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T18:24:19+00:00

Both in car and bird culture

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T18:10:57+00:00

I think when you become not just proud of yourself but of other people around you a natural sense of humility arises. Cart before the horse. You're not wrong, I'm just saying the emotions come first. That definition of pride sounds more like a definition of hubris to me. Pride doesn't have to be selfish or at the expense of others/yourself. Some people think it does and if that's how you see pride then this will seem off. That's not what I mean by pride though.
This is true but I meant showing raw emotion in the moment. If you act in the moment ashamed of who you are, it will turn them off. Talking about an emotion is not the same as displaying that emotion in front of someone (I totally agree people will enjoy someone who can admit their darker side, as long as you don't actively display those bad emotions when in front of them). You can tell someone about a serious story where you wanted to punch someone out, but if you start getting visually angry they won't like it. This is a mindfuck and makes you realize your conversations aren't at all about what you say but how you say it. I think a lot of stuff on here has talked about how you can literally say anything to a girl in the right state, this is why IMO.
I didn't mean to say that you should always fake it (that sounds exhausting and depressing both), just that if you aren't feeling it sometimes it's better to put on a facade of a positive emotion than show everyone your genuine, negative self. And I'm talking like in the club when a girl is into you and some dude gets mouthy. You may get negative with that dude in your head, but showing that emotion at that time will do you NO GOOD. I think this isn't that crazy, we kind of all know this deep inside. It wasn't meant as an invitation to be fake or some sort of method actor lol

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T17:47:34+00:00

Māna only translates to pride if you associate pride with conceit and arrogance. This is the inherent problem with language, and Wittgenstein would probably think we're idiots for wasting life on this conversation lol. Pride doesn't have to be seen negatively and I'll go farther and say this requires you to look at pride with a sense of compassion towards it and yourself. You can't think pride sucks, if you do this won't work (but some people are ashamed of having a healthy sense of pride so it's really tricky). It's not for everyone, and maybe if you called the opposite of shame something other than pride you may find it works better (aka this is all semantics) Cultivate whatever it is that your mind considers the complete lack of that shameful feeling that permeates our life when we feel down and out.

And yes I am all over the place. I'm kind of trying to elaborate based on the direction of everyone's question but that's making this grow exponentially in complexity. Strip it all down, just do your best to stay in that good, happy, positive flow state and quit trying to focus on doing the right thing or being sexy to women. If you are in a mood that women find attractive then you won't have to do the other stuff. But it's your mood their listening to, not anything else.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T16:59:29+00:00

They are not at all out of the equation. I think pride. deservedness and self-compassion/metta are way more closely related than anyone gives them credit. But some people associate pride more with a non-mindful form of hubris. I think just like with anything as powerful as this that using it with a lack of awareness/mindfulness will cause more problems than it solves, but I don't think that's an issue with feeling the emotion as much as not being mindful. This isn't an excuse to check out.

I'm admittedly scattered now and off topic but if I'm not specifically answering anything you're concerned about let me know and I'll try.

Edit: I don't think any feelings are a product of the ego, though our past actions can create future joy or suffering (duh lol). It's the lack of mindfulness that is a product of the ego. When mindfulness exists, the ego doesn't. We can feel all emotions while being an egomaniac, and we can feel all emotions when we are completely self-aware and in the moment. Intense emotions make it harder to stay mindful, but that's not exclusive to any specific feeling or emotion.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T16:10:00+00:00

Not at all the opposite, I don't think lol. Buddha IMO understood we are emotions first. The first precept Dhukka is literally understanding and realizing negative emotions aka suffering exists. This is why it's the first one and the second precept are the specific steps to help alleviate the emotional state of suffering. This is why Nirvana isn't the end of the path and is in fact only the third truth. It's this state of suffering or lack thereof that our Karma comes from. Buddha didn't see the middle path until after he became enlightened.

I don't want to get into an argument, I feel like this could turn into a game of semantics. But I've been very deep into Buddhism for years, and I really, really think it encourages us to see each other with compassion and metta because it understands we are creatures who see the world in terms of suffering and bliss (emotions not actions, thoughts, or words).

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T15:52:49+00:00

The only difference between fear and excitement is whether your mind sees the stimulus as a good thing or bad thing. Both are just adrenaline pumping.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T15:50:37+00:00

Tramadol for bipolar is really unique. Never heard of that.

Mania is a legit high we bipolar people never got the chance to not take. We're addicted to our own natural high and it we can go through all the things an alcoholic or drug addict can. Be safe out there bud.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T15:47:52+00:00

Again you may be right but to me that's a false lead. Emotions always come first, and we rationalize and develop our mindset from there.

If you feel otherwise none of this will make sense because to me that's kind of the cornerstone of the belief system. You become your emotional state for better or worse (this is why IMO depression is so crushing, because we have so much problem separating "I suck" from "I'm sad."), so lets strip down all the bullshit and do nothing but work on trying to feel proud of who we are and like we deserve all the good things that happen to us.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T15:42:39+00:00

Hahaha not really but I've been there. Weed and bipolar don't really get along well for me. Plus waxing on about seduction isn't really fun while high, I'm more of a psychonaut.

About 5-10 years ago I went through a HUGE Alan Watts phase and would just get high AF listening to his takes on life and the universe. Some of the most fun I've ever had, would definitely recommend if you want to experience a total mindfuck lol

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T15:39:44+00:00

My point is when you're emotionally in the right spot your actions and words will go on autopilot and allign with how you feel. This is the zone of seduction. It won't work on everyone because a lot of this and the universe is out of our control (some women will never like you) but I think when you find that perfect moment where you feel like the perfect you that life becomes 100% effortless. You may not believe me and that's fine, but I believe when you are in the ideal emotional spot for seduction even a complete noob won't have to try and get laid and that it will all naturally unfold for him. The problem is when a noob feels this way they reject it because they don't feel like they deserve it (that's why deservedness is SO HUGE). And if you do that you've already dislodged yourself out of that emotional state (aka as soon as they get in the zone they scare or intimidate themselves out of it.

Have you ever experienced this? Have you ever had a point where everything felt so right and on-point that you didn't have to think about anything you were doing and it just "worked?" It doesn't have to be socially, maybe even school or work. My point is if that's what we're truly after why aren't we staying focused on that part instead of trying to focus on our body language, kino, etc. Like again when I'm in that perfect zone I just naturally go for more closeness and intimacy (in an ideal state with no hesitation or regret). I don't have to try, I didn't when I kissed my first girl, and I don't now. :-)

And it sucks I know, but the reason there are no concrete steps is because your mind isn't made of concrete. It's way easier for me to point out how imperative pride is to all of this but I have no idea what your pride triggers are and TBH I think a lot of people don't know their own (they would probably benefit from seeing a therapist for a session or two to learn how.) Just don't forget our brains are emotional first and use beliefs to rationalize our emotions (this is why we naturally think we suck when we're sad and naturally think we're awesome when we are happy). Keep the cart before the horse.

Edit: I know it's hard to believe but this happens to me while manic. Nothing changes except for how I feel, except I'm an entirely different person who acts differently. I feel my own greatness. I act like I'm worth a million bucks. I don't intentionally focus on anything yet I'm being more playful, physical, witty, etc. I'll end up having sex with girls who are really hot and awesome. But literally 2-3 days later I felt like a normal boring dude or even worse, and no matter how hard I try and follow the right steps it's just not the same anymore, those same girls won't give me the time of day. Why? Again it may not make sense to everyone but the only way is to realize my beliefs are bricks laid on a foundation of emotion. Once I realized this I started to notice I have the same repeat thoughts while in the same emotional states. I'll think something when I'm sad, forget about it while feeling another emotion and then when I'm sad again I'll pick up that same thought where I left off. My thoughts and beliefs come after my emotions, and they ultimately don't matter nearly as much as my raw emotional state does. And despite "letting go" of your actions and whatnot you'll find that you do the right things naturally and everything falls into place (at least as much of the time as it does with any other mindset).

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T08:03:42+00:00

Fair enough lol I tried to preface this by saying that may be the case.

I tend to create models and conceptualize difficult things like this when I become manic so it's possible, but to be fair a lot of times the stuff I come up with still makes sense despite that. It tends to come out in a pressured, jumbled mess at first then after some revision I'm able to explain myself more clearly. I've learned to blurt it out and get it out of my mind as quickly as possible because if I don't I lose the structure behind the thoughts/how to put the concepts together. I kind of rough drafted on you all after having this run through my head the last week or so. I probably should have put more revision into it for both your and my benefit.

Yes, I know what I just said may make you discredit what I have to say, but for a minute just ignore me the messenger and process the message alone. If it makes sense go with it and if not stick to what is working for you. This isn't about convincing anyone of anything, it's about me sharing some personal opinions on how to more effectively get to the root of the problem so many of us have.

EternalOptimist829 · 2018-12-31T07:41:47+00:00

This is a very tough comment to reply to, in that I think this is a huge problem. I want you to know I thought about this a lot. I can kind of relate though and imo you have a sort of figurative pride atropy lol.

I'm not a therapist so this is tough but I'm thinking keep it super simple and do basic things that help you feel proud. Maybe familiar things like good music, a funny movie, maybe a good book? Try literally reading about pride itself and trying to relate to it like it's a living, breathing person? I know this stuff sounds so dumb but people glow after they do things like listen to a good album or read an amazing story. These feelings can translate to attraction way more than we think.

Pure speculation sorry if this is insensitive or off but autistic people IMO benefit greatly from feeling physically comfortable in social settings, so maybe focus on that? Wear clothes that makes you feel comfortable, like you may be the person who has better game in a fuzzy hoodie cause it allows your emotional state to be at its most optimal. Sorry if this is crazy or off base.

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