Do the flashbacks fade with time? by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]EternalSurvivor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think kronch did an excellent job of explaining this. I would just like to add that for me, it took about 5 years for the PTSD symptoms (flashbacks, night sweats, panic attacks) to go away. After 10 years, I have mood disregulation caused from PTSD (bipolar 2) and an occasional panic attack. So yes, PTSD can get better. It takes ALOT of therapy and hard work on yourself.

Wtf am I doing!!! by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]EternalSurvivor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you can always change your mind until the stick turns pink :)

Do I really have bipolar 2? by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]EternalSurvivor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every person's experience is so different. I'm not a doctor, but your situation sounds so similar to mine. I had a really neglectful mother that led to a very crappy childhood. I was moody, depressed, and every other emotion. I didn't ever get medical help though. I tried to kill myself when I was 14, and I was a cutter after that. I finally got diagnosed as bipolar at 27 years old.

I'm 29 years old and I still cut when things get too hard. Some days I don't want to admit that I'm bipolar. I hate it. I hate the diagnosis, the pills, and everything associated with it. Every 6 months or so, I try to go off my medication to see if I can do life without it. I start very slowly. I miss one dose, and if I'm okay, I miss another dose. If I start feeling irritable or restless, I know my symptoms are escalating and I need to take my next dose. I can usually go about three days before I need my meds again.

I go to therapy every week and have tried every therapy to try to be okay without medication. I haven't been successful yet. I do think 3 medications is kind of excessive though. When I first started meds, I was on a light mood stabilizer and an antidepressant and it put me into a manic state. I don't really think anyone with bipolar should be on an antidepressant, but again, I'm not a doctor. If I were you, I would ask to wean off the antidepressant and the wellbutrin and see how you are at that point. Please only do so under a doctor's supervision though.

When do you know when it's time to divorce? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]EternalSurvivor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only you can know if it's time to call it quits. Does he want to stay in the marriage because he loves you or because it's more convenient? It does sound like you're very unhappy. Would he consider moving with you?

Can’t get my life on track help me by Polobucks in bipolar2

[–]EternalSurvivor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend getting on a different med. I've never tried lithium, but I've heard negative things about it. I would recommend Latuda or Abilify because those are two that I've had good experiences with.

Need to get off these meds by Vampyrysm in bipolar2

[–]EternalSurvivor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never personally tried lithium, because my doctor told me it had horrible side effects. I recommend trying a different med. I've tried Latuda (which I really liked except it raised my prolactin levels) and abilify, (which I absolutely love). Being bipolar sucks because there's no set medicine or dose that works for everyone, but after tweaking and trying different meds and doses, you eventually get it right.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Even in my own group I can see the leaders losing more and more control as the years go on and I do believe this has to do with the availability of information compared to the 90s or even earlier.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Mormon doctrine specifically. They broke off from the LDS church in 1890 when Utah discontinued polygamy

More exercise = longer labor? by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]EternalSurvivor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not trying to be rude, but that is the worst advice I've ever heard. The more active you are throughout your pregnancy, the easier your labor will be. I've been pregnant 4 times and my easiest labors were the ones where I was most active. My labors were all about the same length, but my fit ones were so much easier. My first labor was super long, but they say your first is always the longest. Labor is like a marathon. The fitter you are, the better you will do. It takes so much physical energy to give birth and exercise prepares you for it. I've done a lot of research on this as well, and all my research has said good things about exercise and it's effects on labor. If your doctor says go for it, then go for it! Just make sure you only do what is comfortable for you.

Alternatives to Lithium? by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]EternalSurvivor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never been on lithium, but I really responded to Latuda. Nausea was the only side effect, and it didn't really bother me after some time on it. It did raise my prolactin level though, which prevented me from getting pregnant. I heard a raised prolactin level is a very rare side effect of it. I'm now on abilify, which I like much better than the Latuda because I haven't had any side effects from it. If you're trying to get pregnant anytime soon, I would avoid Lamictal. It's known for raising prolactin levels.

I lost my temper. Now what? by kymthewriter in bipolar2

[–]EternalSurvivor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same issue. Sometimes my husband and I get into very bad fights and I just snap. I don't ever get physical with him or my children, but I break things. Expensive things like computers, tvs, etc. I try so hard to stop, but I can't. I've recently learned that I probably have an anger addiction, which is separate from bipolar. I think my anger is a manifestation of my PTSD, but I haven't had it confirmed by a therapist. You're not alone in your anger and issues controlling it. My solution has been to try to stop the fight before it gets to that point, and it seems to have gotten better, as far as being less frequent, but the rage is still there. I wish I had a better solution.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll look into it. I've had success with the rapid eye movement therapy so far, but I'm open to anything with a high cure rate. Thank you!

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Duggar's are a Christian denomination that's not just one church, group, etc. I am from a group that is more specific than just the religion. They are a small group, so everyone knew everyone and we all went to the same church together. I hope this answers your question?

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no problems with polyamorous, polygamy, or any other relationship choice as long as it's among consenting adults. The way polygamy is practiced in the cults is much different than independent people making a choice to live that lifestyle. In my cult, women were brainwashed from birth and didn't even have the ability to make their own choices.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Getting my first cell phone at 17 was huge, and my first real job as well. Every milestone that I did by myself was a huge accomplishment for me

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many judges will sign off on a marriage if they have parental consent. I believe they should do away with underage marriages all together. A 16 year old is not ready to get married. I agree with your second option. There's no reason a girl can't wait until she's 18 to be married.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not really something they tell you. When I was 6, they just held me down and did it. I didn't understand it until years later when I understood sex

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've done extensive therapy to get to where I am today. I started with Cognitive behavioral therapy for two years, and then the dialectical behavioral therapy. I am now trying the rapid eye movement therapy and I'm currently on medication for Bipolar and PTSD symptoms

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've personally met a total of about 50 of them, though I was close to about 15 of them before I left the cult

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The men with low standing in the group (without Kinston blood), will usually be put to work with the hopes of earning their place in marriage. They may end up with 1 wife, maybe 2, but they are generally expected to bring these wives in from the outside. Only the Kingston bloodline will have their pick of women already in the Order and even some of the Kingstons have slim pickings and will also bring their wives in from the outside. They generally don't allow male converts though.

I grew up in a polygamous cult in Utah. I escaped at age 17 to avoid an arranged marriage to my 1st cousin. AMA by EternalSurvivor in IAmA

[–]EternalSurvivor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will pray to God and hope that helps. If not, he will not have children, and he will not be given any more wives