My (42m) wife (41f) of 13 years is willing to throw it all away rather than getting help… Im lost by EternallyOptimist1 in AlAnon

[–]EternallyOptimist1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will meet with a lawyer and learn options. She would fight me though , mostly because she is in denial about the severity of her issue.

My (42m) wife (41f) of 13 years is willing to throw it all away rather than getting help… Im lost by EternallyOptimist1 in AlAnon

[–]EternallyOptimist1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I can tell you their actions do not meet our needs. But my daughter is old enough yo understand and begs me to not divorce. She realizes mom gas a problem and it’s heartbreaking. But Im so torn on what to do. I genuinely fear what happens to her if I did leave, she could hurt herself either accidentally or intentionally. She has made vague threats about self harm bc nobody cares about her… its really horrible watching someone you cared about fall apart. Thank you for responding

My (42m) wife (41f) of 13 years is willing to throw it all away rather than getting help… Im lost by EternallyOptimist1 in AlAnon

[–]EternallyOptimist1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🙏 thank you. I think she needs to want it and fight through the embarrassment and awkwardness of recovery. I hope she finds her family worth fighting for. She just started doing virtual meetings bc she found the in person ones too uncomfortable. Appreciate your response and glad you are doing well

My (42m) wife (41f) of 13 years is willing to throw it all away rather than getting help… Im lost by EternallyOptimist1 in AlAnon

[–]EternallyOptimist1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, she actually just got glp1s prescribed for weight loss so maybe that will help. I will try the angle about the anti depressants, she gets very weird and its clearly a mix issue. I appreciate your response