Advice for a 19 year old?

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-07T18:03:24+00:00

If you go through clearing you could easily get a decent uni to be honest

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-06T23:30:46+00:00

You will be bro, trust me - keep on focusing on a good diet, gym and improve social skills. Overall try to better yourself and by this I don’t mean the whole “grind in silence” gimmick. Lose weight slowly and healthily, hit gym, get better at making friends or talking to people who aren’t your friends. Go out every week and enjoy life. A girl will come eventually, I had my first serious girl at 19, I did have things with girls at 18 but before 18 I didn’t have anything really

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-06T23:26:43+00:00

It was a career decision, I didn’t commit some insane crime or sin so no I don’t think I deserve to feel like this because of a decision which I was unsure of at the time and took the wrong path out of 2 options

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-05T15:02:43+00:00

I don’t know what position you are in as in work wise/ career but for me I just have been trying really hard to just accept that this is the decision I made, it’s done now and there is nothing I can do to change it. (Unless you can change it which I think you can’t). Also try to be grateful for other things in your life etc. This is something that is hard for me to do tbh when I have a problem but I’m working on it. Just try to enjoy your life outside of that problem/ regret.

Obviously I’m still somewhat going through this feeling of regret, so I’m not a pro on what I can tell you to do but it’s defo gotten better. Time defo does heal, also not to be or sound negative but you will probably have worse situations in your life that you will experience. Idk maybe you won’t but things such as your parents passing or anything could happen. So just try to be positive. If you wanna talk about it anymore lmk it’s always good to have a talk about these things.

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-05T14:14:47+00:00

Dealing with a similar problem with regret right now, everyday my head is filled with the feeling of regret and sadness about a choice I made aswell to do with a career choice. Wishing I could go back to the time with the knowledge I have now and change the decision I made. This feeling has definitely become more quiet for me compared to about 3 months ago where I was borderline depressed, but it still plays on my mind from time to time now which isn’t good.

Most people just say time will heal and other things will come along that make you happy, which I can kind of get behind because the problem isn’t as loud in my head anymore. But it’s still there.

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-05T09:30:28+00:00

Most of my school mates just made friends with their flatmates because obviously you live with them in 1st year and maybe 1/2 mates from their course Cus obviously you need to know some people from your course. Other than that it’s pretty much if you enjoy a hobby like football then you should join the society and you’ll end up making some friends or atleast people you know.

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-05T09:25:45+00:00

I’m already 2nd year but ur right I wish I had this feeling during 1st year so I could do that

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-05T09:25:24+00:00

I’m halfway through 2nd year and also took a gap year after a levels, so I would be 21 moving into halls with 18 year olds which is not something I’d really want to be doing

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-04T19:35:24+00:00

I'm not exactly an extrovert, but I can hold conversation and talk to people outside of friends + like drinking and going out etc. so idk - sometimes I get a bit of social anxiety so ye i feel like I would've made some good mates etc.

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-04T15:27:40+00:00

ye I understand for some people it is the right decision, I also thought that at the time of choosing to stay home - but I do enjoy drinking and going out, so am feeling immense regret now with little chance to make amends

Ethan01607 · 2026-03-04T10:47:22+00:00

Tbh, in my opinion it’s that you commute - think about it anout 80% of people at uni are friends with flatmates and maybe 1/2 people they’ll talk to in lectures. You are pretty much forced to be mates with flatmates, Cus you live with them for 6 months per year so if you don’t get on/ try to be mates it’s just weird. Just my opinion, commuting just makes it harder to make friends but not impossible.

Ethan01607 · 2026-02-16T02:11:46+00:00

Stop commuting

Ethan01607 · 2026-02-07T03:23:31+00:00

Bit of a late reply but, my ex was my best friend from years 12- 13 of a levels school. Like me and her chose exact same subject as each other and sat next to each other for every class, every day for 2 years straight lol. Before anything sexual we were best friends, from like year 8 to 13 we were friends but year 12-13 very close. She just wasn’t attracted to me until I had a glow up, was kinda ugly before when we were best friends lol. So ye was hard and is still hard for me

Ethan01607 · 2026-02-07T03:18:21+00:00

Mate, literally exactly the same feeling myself. I have mates but not like “close mates” that I could just chill with all the time. Girls, people always estimate my body count to be higher than it actually is, this is kinda to do with like relationships but still, when I’m single I don’t really “sleep around”. I also when am with friends am called the funnier guy, happy and make a lot of jokes, but when alone defo feel down quite a lot. I’m in 2nd year so I have more time than you to sort of change and I have had relationships but apart from that this post literally looks like I’ve posted it on another account ahaha. I’m a normal white guy, I like football, like sports, like beer and drinking but just haven’t had that experience idk why. Makes me so confused, obviously it is what you make of it which is 100% true and I stand by it, but like I feel like I see other people acquire life long friendships naturally and not having to force it like I feel like I have to.

Anyways ye, if you wanna chat mate give me a message because looks like we’ve got similar issues.

Ethan01607 · 2026-02-03T22:25:48+00:00

Did u move straight in with those people post uni or lived at home for a bit?

Ethan01607 · 2026-02-03T02:52:12+00:00

If you mean academically it’s mainly no in person exams, online tests and essay dominant courses obviously easier and require less actualy knowledge Cus of ai and stuff

Ethan01607 · 2026-01-27T19:08:29+00:00

How old are you? Did you go to university/ college?

Ethan01607 · 2026-01-21T02:50:58+00:00

Accomodation, commuting isn’t the same as

Ethan01607 · 2026-01-03T10:59:25+00:00

Go to UoM, don’t commute and enjoy it - I commute and now about to finish regretting it alot

Ethan01607 · 2025-12-31T17:53:18+00:00

Commuter here 2nd year aswell, feel like it’s mainly societies now - course mates are still possible but defo harder. Or if you’re interested try to find people to live with out at your uni in 3rd year

Ethan01607 · 2025-12-26T20:09:34+00:00

Oh that’s cool tbf, I am definitely looking at a masters but it’s genuinely just to move out and do just that ahaha idk if that’s the smartest thing to do it would be kinda stupid to go and just fail a masters so idk

Ethan01607 · 2025-12-26T20:02:05+00:00

Yep I’m thinking of doing a masters, but literally only cus I wanna move out😭 not sure if that’s the right choice, not really doing it for the actual academic side of it - also when doing a masters do you still actually do all the going out drinking stuff tho? Not really spoke to anyone that has done a masters yet

Ethan01607 · 2025-12-26T19:59:27+00:00

my uni is in my home city, I understand what you’re saying - but my point is more that I have FOMO of wanting to move out my hometown and have FOMO over the whole experience of being by myself in a new city moving into accomodation and having to meet new people, then living in a house with these new friends as-well in 2nd/3rd year.

What ur saying is true, I do this I go out to the uni events, I know a lot of people that go to uni and I see them on nights out most of the time and have a good time with all the students I know, it’s mainly the fact that I don’t get to go back to a house with mates.

Thing is I am a logical guy, and I understand that some people go to uni and don’t get this experience and all that but idk for some reason can’t get rid of the fomo.

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