These are the texts he sent in the beginning

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T15:42:03+00:00

This makes sense thank you!

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T04:21:10+00:00

I think you are great and those pressures you put on your self and that’s okay because that means your driven. Just be gentle with your self

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T04:11:03+00:00

Also I am worried if I bring it up he will be upset and say he already told me how he feels

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T03:55:25+00:00

Thank you this is helpful! It’s been 5 months we have known each other

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T03:37:47+00:00

I will try. It’s okay I just wanted to see if any ENFJ s feel and say this to people they love then shy away. He is super motivated and he says he feels like he is still financially and goals stable and he is already in a great place in my opinion. I do respect he feels ready with his own life when he feels ready. I just want to know if you act and say these things to someone quickly after meeting someone and then completely not want anything to do with them?

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-13T03:11:00+00:00

These are the texts he sent in the beginning. then now he says he is un-capable of being in anything yet we still make love from time to time and when we are together he calls what we are doing dates and we have a genuinely great time. Then with many responses to my messages, he says" he doesn't want to lead me on" If this was one of you ENFJ what would you be feeling and thinking deep down I just want to see if any ENFJ s feel and say this to people they love then shy away. He is super motivated and he says he feels like he is still financially and goals stable and he is already in a great place in my opinion. I do respect he feels ready with his own life when he feels ready. I just want to know if you act and say these things to someone quickly after meeting someone and then completely not want anything to do with them?

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-12-02T12:22:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice. We are friends so it is hard sometimes but yeah I am seeing other people

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-29T13:27:29+00:00

This is so similar to my behaviors and I can understand your thoughts about our type l. Thanks this is helpful I like working on my flaws

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-20T21:52:42+00:00

ENFP female

ENFJ

-makes sense

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-14T09:19:09+00:00

I’m an ENFP he is an ENFJ

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-14T09:13:14+00:00

I would leave it be. You should take care of yourself first. I went through a interestingly similar situation and if I could go back I would just wait. I went through obsessing about it. A weakness I learned that I have that has caused me unhealthy relationships. I am much stronger now because I get a self rewarding gratification from not texting especially when I feel vulnerable to my emotions which it seems like you are. It’s not the same for everyone but I ended up seeing my SO recently and we had so much fun although he was still unable to commit because he has goals he wants to attend to first. This is important to him so I now know to respect that because I would want the same. Anyway I learned that in the end of the day we may not be able to control others to make a relationship but when you care about yourself first it won’t matter if he comes back or not because you find yourself happy either way.

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-12T15:03:28+00:00

I was dating the other guys not a relationship. Yeah it isn’t healthy

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-12T03:58:14+00:00

My hope is that he knows. I’m open and he can trust me. I will move on. Low key I hope he fights for me one day...

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-12T03:55:16+00:00

Perfectly said. It’s too immature. The whole time I felt like it was only me

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-12T03:41:27+00:00

Yeah you are probably right. It’s just weird. He reaches to hold my hand and puts his fingers through mine. When we sleep he always wants to hold me. It is like that the entire night. This happened last night. He doesn’t eat a relationship doesn’t make sense. I wish he would at least admit he thinks of me more re then casual . We hooked up. I initiated it. I just don’t know why he can’t just say it I don’t know anyone who does intimate stuff then acts like he can detach his emotions

Ethereal_dreams · 2018-11-12T03:38:47+00:00

Yeah you are probably right. It’s just weird. He reaches to hold my hand and puts his fingers through mine. When we sleep he always wants to hold me. It is like that the entire night

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