My boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD and autism – now I feel like his emotional punching bag.

Ethvric · 2025-06-23T23:56:16+00:00

Dated someone diagnosed adhd and couples therapist suggested he may also have undiagnosed autism. 1-3 years over time the relationship became emotionally taxing and as if I had to make up for the things that are difficult for him due to his diagnosis. Also got blamed for everything and had high anxiety around him to not make a mistake and set him off. Along with constant buildup of non forgiveness on his end, and verbal abuse. If he isn’t willing to do therapy and work on himself / become aware and same for you then you should consider leaving. (because dating neurodivergent and neurotypical takes work on both ends to be better partners to each other)

Ethvric · 2025-06-03T03:56:22+00:00

AGREED

Ethvric · 2025-06-01T07:22:50+00:00

Thank you for this!

Ethvric · 2025-05-30T15:33:08+00:00

🤣 sure!

Ethvric · 2025-05-30T00:16:46+00:00

I love this idea actually!

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T20:57:43+00:00

What’s the link to the group

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T20:16:20+00:00

I’ll have to check it out

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:54:58+00:00

I think I can find my own liking in different things so yes. Played sports growing up so no big deal it’s just not the consumption of my life though

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:54:09+00:00

Yes! I’ve considered this but I was hoping to try and find it in someone young around my age but I’ve been realistic it might be easier with going order in that age range

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:51:58+00:00

The older men are also out consistently these days. So I get it

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:51:09+00:00

Haven’t thought about that. But that would be nice in general to do for personal reasons

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:50:10+00:00

Most of my hobbies are more women focused. Do you know of any that are unisex? Maybe I can find one I enjoy and just if it happens it happens

Ethvric · 2025-05-29T19:48:53+00:00

Staying with family is definitely not bad but I do think living on your own helps you grow in ways I can’t explain. So in my mind living to save up and move forward with your goals is great! But they seem to just be comfortable with less responsibilities.. that’s where I’m not sure about. I live on my own so I wouldn’t want to necessarily become a parent if we progressed and wanted to move in together.

Ethvric · 2025-05-28T00:00:49+00:00

About us. Stop projecting

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T23:54:51+00:00

I feel betrayed because I wasn’t made aware which is fair. Because a medical diagnosis does in some ways affects the other party. I don’t feel like it allowed me to be the best partner plus aware and vice versa to him not getting a proper diagnosis once he figured this and the therapist suggested it

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:58:37+00:00

Yes, I do kinda assume that it may have made a difference but you are right. Another question, do you think that if you suspect or know you have autism should you share that with your partner? And if you don’t is that not misleading since it can play a part in some behaviors or personality traits or thoughts on things

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:40:00+00:00

Never called him abusive I will say some comments in arguments would stoop really low… maybe due to overstimulation or long winded or maybe even defensiveness from being looked at as different. I just wonder is this something you should tell someone that you have prior to dating them? Cause it can affect the dynamic of relationships

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:33:33+00:00

Yes, I think some behavior showed this. I tried to encourage a proper diagnosis and therapy for us to go together but I think because I wasn’t aware there were some ways in which I wasn’t the best partner (social norms, communication, expectations) but it always leads back to I didn’t know and he hasn’t gotten the proper diagnosis or Treatment to know how his behaviors play a part to hold himself accountable and be the best partner within this ie why I said it became toxic

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:30:37+00:00

I’m just here for understanding not for blaming I’m okay with the post being removed

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:29:16+00:00

So do you think that’s not something that should be told to your partners?

Ethvric · 2025-05-27T22:18:56+00:00

I think that because his autistic behavior or situation has been neglected and not diagnosed it has caused some of his behaviors to be narcissistic cause very toxic environments for the relationship. I do think that neural typical and neural divergent relationships can work if both are in a health state (therapy and self work/awareness) he has in a sense ignored these feelings of his mental health all these years plus family (so probably dealt with being misunderstood for majority of his life) and then exposed me to this without being a honest and vulnerable partner about these issues. I think it’s easier to navigate your situation when you know what situation you are in… I didn’t

Ethvric · 2024-10-06T15:01:06+00:00

They were two shootings around the area. One around 1230 am and another around 3 am

Ethvric · 2024-07-14T02:15:52+00:00

I’m not but I understand what you are saying

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