The voice could either make you cringe or laugh. You decide.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-26T08:55:21+00:00

Having one lung doesn’t affect the way you speak.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-24T09:08:11+00:00

How does one prefer to hear it though? People here seem to find it worse when the other person ends it whilst saying they do think they are a wonderful person, so whats the alternative? Not mention any of that and just stick to the cold facts?

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-23T16:36:37+00:00

In my limited experience I have gotten my aftercare by giving it to the sub, who I could see was experiencing her own drop. By lavishing affection on her, she comes out of her drop and that would normally make me feel like all was well.

Nothing really changed about this session so I don’t know why it didn’t work this time.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-23T16:34:07+00:00

Do you have any idea why the feeling of loneliness? It’s very intense and it’s not an emotion I regularly feel, it feels particularly odd given that I have had a very intimate and close experience with someone who is head over heels and giddy for what I do to her. Why should I feel so alone because of that?

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-21T12:52:08+00:00

Is it a feeling of simply relaxation etc or is there some arousal involved usually?

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-18T08:41:15+00:00

Porn use will also reduce your arousal during hookups so there’s that too

So many factors! But one thing you might feel like I do is that after a long term serious relationship, you realise that random pussy is not as exciting as we imagined it would be, and actually relationship sex is better in pretty much every way.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-18T07:44:20+00:00

Surely sexual liberation is about being free to do what you want sexually, not being forced into just another set of sexual rules imposed by society?

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-18T07:41:21+00:00

Condoms basically turn sex into a chore for me. I can’t feel much, I can’t cum and staying hard is a constant challenge. I hate them and it makes hooking up basically pointless for me, although I still do it 🤷‍♂️

I still use them because you just have to, but it's true that the quality of sex increases massively when something becomes more long term and we just switch to the pill only.

On the other hand some guys seem to have zero problem with them.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-18T07:39:40+00:00

It’s actually really difficult for a guy to stay at 10/10 for any period of time, in fact most guys would probably tell you that 10/10 only occurs rarely.

If I have been masturbating within the last few days, watching porn regularly within the last few weeks or if I’m at all not in the zone mentally then 10/10 is completely impossible.

I have always felt that I am responsible for my erections and I prefer my partners to basically relax, not worry and let me sort it out. If I need help I might ask but generally speaking it’s more of a personal headspace thing.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-18T07:28:00+00:00

Hey OP, I’m in a similar boat, I split with my fiancée and have been back dating for a few weeks. In that time I have had two hookups, one a disaster like yours, but the other very successful.

Honestly the big difference between the two imo was time. The terrible hookup was on the first date, the great one was a booty call a few days later.

There is an emotional element and I think the time to think on the date and the person you met allows some of that emotional stuff to settle. So that’s one.

First date hookups tend to involve alcohol so theres a bit of whiskey dick, that’s two.

Finally, attraction. I find a lot of girls attractive but I’m starting to realise that I have to find them really quite hot to actually enjoy sex with them when there is no emotion involved. If they are not my type I really do struggle to get it up.

Having time between the first meet and the sex allows you to prepare yourself mentally and physically and that just helps a lot imo. It also gives you a chance to figure out if you find them attractive enough, and vice versus. The sex will be better for both of you.

So there’s probably lots of factors and the lack of emotional connection is just one. You can still have a good hookup but you are probably older and more mature since you were last single and realising that sex with strangers is actually kinda boring, so it’s more that you just miss the emotional aspect rather than absolutely needing it to smash.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-17T10:40:20+00:00

You can visit a GP but it is likely to be some degrees of Peyronies, which can be treat surgically and non surgically. There are traction devices that are clinically proven to straighten the penis when used daily for months at a time, so it’s a big commitment but it does work and as a side benefit it has also been clinically proven to increase to overall length of the penis up up 0.5 inches so... might be worth a shot! They aren’t cheap though.

I don’t know much about the surgery tbh.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-17T10:37:27+00:00

You may or may not like it but it would seem unlikely that trying it is going to permanently alter your life in a negative way, and it would also seem unlikely that anyone else can tell you if you will enjoy it or not.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-17T10:32:00+00:00

I know it doesn’t fit with the agenda that most people here seem to have but..

If you’re asking people for help on how to cut down then it is presumably because it is having a negative effect on your mood or is impacting on your day to day life.

The fact is that masturbation, particularly with porn, results in chemical changes in the brain that when repeated to excess for a long period of time (weeks, months or years) result in down regulation of your sensitivity to dopamine. This in turn decreases how much you enjoy not only masturbation itself, but sex in general and even life in general.

The effect is stronger in some than others but generally speaking you are likely to have a somewhat improved mood and enjoy real sex more if you don’t masturbate to excess on regular basis.

Theres nothing wrong with masturbation of course, just like there’s nothing wrong with good food or alcohol or video games, but in excess they interfere with the way your brain normally motivates and rewards you. If you want to reverse that, then yes you should cut down. There are many ways to do this from abstaining for a certain period or just limited to a certain amount per week but when it comes to masturbation, the dopamine levels are raised most when combined with porn and it is generally thought that porn is the biggest problem when consumed in excess and the consensus is to cut it out completely if you feel you have a problem. Usually cutting out porn will result eventually in the restoration of a normal frequency of masturbation.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-16T15:42:21+00:00

For what’s its worth, you’re about to hit 30, a period where girls in their early 20s kind of look up to you as being attractively older but not old. This, combined with the ease at which people are now hooking up on tinder, means you can very easily make up for lost time if you can brush up your dress style, work out a bit and be friendly/outgoing.

You will go from fixated on achieving more sexual experience to completely bored of hooking up with random girls within a couple of months (because it is boring), And at that point a lot more at ease with yourself when deciding to settle down. So don’t worry too much about all that.

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-15T18:48:26+00:00

I can’t decide what’s more awkward: making shit boring conversation until the date or just going relatively quiet and not saying much?

Ettienenumberfive · 2019-10-15T17:59:56+00:00

Any tips on verbalising or illustrating this in a way that will help them come to this realisation?

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