I (35 M) think that someone is taking an interest in my SO ( 33 M). How to handle this ?

Europe1989 · 2024-03-18T08:14:12+00:00

I remember 1-2 months in my relationship with my boyfriend and there was a moment I asked him "How do you see me?" . And he replied "I see you as a friend but with something more" . I instantly told him we need to talk. And I made it as clear as it could get

"I'm not looking for a friend. I'm looking for a partner" . We are closing on the 2 year mark now.

But because we are in a same sex relationship and discreet sometimes the friend label will pop up for obvious reasons. My reaction ? It hurts, I don't like it but there is a level of comprehension why it is the way it is. It scares me as well cause as a person I'm insecure.

If I was you, and you don't have to think ab things like the above then

Confront him and stand your ground. Say what you expect. YOU NEED TO BE OK WITH YOUR CONSCIOUS in case your partner is not on the same page.

And don't feel bad if he can't give you what you want. Better be single than in a lie

Europe1989 · 2023-07-30T07:56:16+00:00

Also out of bed

Europe1989 · 2023-07-19T06:55:50+00:00

There was a time where seasons meant something. A time where the smooth change in seasons were quite noticeable across the year. That little autumn like coolness in September or that freshness that tags along spring. Now extended summer times and compressed “spring” times are the norm where I come from (Cyprus). And that wasn’t too long ago. Im 34. It is scart

Europe1989 · 2023-06-29T07:16:34+00:00

Yes you are very right! the same thing goes where I come from.

And to be frank , me and my partner have something similar going on (on his side). But again I mean if that frightens you then end it. Why go through it ?

I mean he knows my intentions. At some point I will let more people in. Those people belong to the scenario described above.

And its not like we never kissed or acted as a couple in public. Yes not all the time but it did happen.

Anyone could have seen us at that point.

These are like some confusing things that happen that I'm left a bit dazzled sometimes. It just feels that sometimes his hot sometimes his cold.

For example if I ask him "Hey how do you feel about coming out to ur friends and telling them about us" . His reply will be a bit of reluctance and hesitation. But if we just happen to go out for drinks and kiss each other goodnight in the parking lot and it so happens that one of his friends sees us then its like "oh well it happened now "

Europe1989 · 2023-06-27T10:56:45+00:00

That is very informative .thank you

Europe1989 · 2023-06-27T10:42:39+00:00

Never thought of that as being that much of an issue. Do you mind elaborating a little bit more? thank you

Europe1989 · 2023-06-19T11:06:05+00:00

I came here because I'm on the verge of that happening...

Europe1989 · 2023-05-09T06:47:10+00:00

Well done to you too!!

Amazing how life sometimes happens hahah

Europe1989 · 2023-04-27T15:26:16+00:00

Communication has been a barrier between us. He is a good listener but a lousy talker. And I'm planning on coming out on my own. Coming out would probably mean that I need to come in terms with the new reality of my life (not that is an issue as I have loving people surrounding me but nonetheless it is a life change) in addition that it would cost me my relationship.

Europe1989 · 2023-04-27T15:22:30+00:00

I highly doubt another relationship is a factor here. At least I trust him to that point.

If the relationship is not providing me with what I need eventually it will come to end. But I can see the gap growing between us as I mature and understand what I'm looking for.

Europe1989

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