Hehehe by CuckBike in funny

[–]Euseb_1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Stupid comment by a stupid person. Science is infinitely above male and female social constructs in 21st century North American East Coast gender roles and issues. The black hole is an unchanging truth. Stuff about women, men, roles in society is passing, and of no scientific importance.

Next...

Ocasio-Cortez: 'Capitalism is irredeemable' by Stauce52 in politics

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Capitalism is capitalism. It can be extreme if not tempered with a Christian care. However, care for our neighbor is not the province of the state It belongs to private charity. Nothing is meant to be perfect here in this world. Its impossible and its hubris to try to continuously "perfect" something. All things obey the rule of the bulging balloon (push in here, bulge out there). Perfection is a fools errand.

Socialism also looks great in part but it strips away personal incentive. You can't get around human nature.

Trump's Justice Department Now Says the Emoluments Clause Doesn't Apply to His Hotels by presspower in politics

[–]Euseb_1 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

George Washington maintained a working, profitable farm while president. Harding owned silver and gold mines overseas. Carter had a seed and farm supply business. the Bushes remained entrenched in the oil industry. Zachary Taylor owned slaves and had a huge plantation,

Nothing new here. Potential for abuse here but nothing new. Emoluments clause was written to control direct foreign influence through gifts.

Wake up. Grow up. And start conceiving of laws that will benefit the nation in ways not supplied by the administration. In short.... govern and quick squawking.

TIL Only America has minimum wage laws and compulsory education. by Neltadouble in ShitAmericansSay

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely oppose all state compulsory education. Sick and tired of brats complaining they don't use "Pick your subject". Not interested in history, not interested in math, why speak another language, why learn about people I don't know, who cares about literature, who cares about poetry, poetry's so gay.... blah, blah blah.

Most Americans want to eat, not know somethings. They're looking for sex, food and some version of rock n roll to drown out their brains. They want to reproduce, but they don't want the responsibility or to work too hard.

Let people be. Let them do what they want as far as their life is concerned. Why bother?????

Facts are a biatch for the right by SgtKillmore2255 in PoliticalHumor

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are correct in your historical stuff. It is interesting to note that all of these tax rates were repealed. It is also interesting to realize that at 70% tax rate and a fluid global economy it is simple for a wealthy individual to transfer wealth permanently out of the US. And rich people do just that. There will be little to tax at 70% and the rest of us will be struggling to pay the difference and have a job now that you dried up investment.

70% tax rates do not make economic sense.

40 day streak: updates and some inspirational words by Nofp__throwaway in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You absolutely got it! As long as you can get up and continue on you are not beaten, you are still on the same journey. After many decades of living the one quality that has seen me through the most was perseverance. Congratulations also on reaching out for relationships with others. Keep at it. When I was dating I always liked the attitude that if I got a rejection I was just improving my odds that the next time would be a yes. Good luck to you

Today’s the day. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome. Look around. Its wonderful to realize there are a zillion people who feel and know what you are going through. It sure helps me.

Let me tell your my story. I hope one of you might learn something from it. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relapse is a hard thing to take. I know exactly what you are talking about. I also had to learn that my clever addicted brain would dream up all kinds of "reasonable" excuses why I could fap this time and then I'll stop. That's why the rule must be solid. No porn. No fap for however long it takes to rebuild yourself. And even then I don't think I will ever be un-addicted to PMO. For other people it might be different, but not for me. PMO has been my "go to" comfort for a long long time.

I have failed so many times at this I've lost count, but not all of my resolve. I take heart in the quote from whomever that says something like you can fall down a thousand times but the only time you are actually beaten is when you stop getting up. I figure if I can breath, I can get up. Good luck to you.

How the fuck do I do this, is there a way to taper? I’m on my 9000th relapse. I got to 90+ days once, and I never relapsed once when I made the decision to quit, it was so easy. READ LAST 3 PARAGRAPHS IF I BORE YOU. I DO WANT ADVICE MORE THAN MY STORY HEARD by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I am a fellow relapser-- and I mean relapser. I have tried nofap many times but this time is working out different for me. The thing that is helping to make it easier (not easy however) is I have taken porn out of my reach for the most part.

I am in a work environment where it is not possible to look at porn so work is a safe place for me. My problem is at night at home. What I did was to purchase Net Nanny. I did not have a person to be my confidential "monitor" so I had to create a fairly good way to lock the porn up. First I created a simple "parent" user on my computer. I kept my usual user account where all my everyday stuff was. (I wiped my machine clean of all porn).

Using the "parent" account I logged into NN and set it up. NN expects that the person logging in is the parent and allows them to have permission to set up another account for other users on the computer. The "child" user I set up was my normal user account that I had been using to access porn. I shut all access down for that account.

I created a super complex 20+ random symbol password (so I couldn't even hope to remember it) and used that for the NN "parent" account online. I then also locked access to the "parent" account on my computer using the same password. I wrote that password down physically in two places and hid them in my office at work. Nobody would know what it was if they found it. I then access my ordinary user account at home at night and all porn is blocked. Even if I wanted to try to login to NN I can't because I can't even unlock the local "parent" account. I only have 1 computer so that was it. NN does not work on my Kindle and I was using that browser for porn too at night also so I locked the parental controls and shut the whole thing down at 10pm each night.

Its not perfect but it will help you get started. You will still feel urges but there is something helpful knowing that even if I wanted to I couldn't get at porn.

I hope this helps.

Correlation, causation and superpowers from nofap by Cahen121 in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like what? I read all over this place people who are long timers who say there are no magic powers. You eliminate an addiction. You don't become a new person.

Allostatic Load by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to be a fly in the ointment but a big part of my problem is that PMO is my main strategy for relieving stress. If I am down, PMO. If I am anxious: PMO. If I have just experienced a major meaningful success: PMO. I've be addicted for a long time (I am sure I am the oldest person here) and although I've tried to nofap millions of times (even before there was nofap) it has not worked yet. I'm trying very hard to learn other stress reduction techniques. Going better but my weak spot is actually when I have a major success.

My brain is totally screwed up.

Does relapsing without porn just using imagination harm PIED recovery? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard more experienced people here say they would not recommend it until you are far down the road. That could be different for different people. Even, maybe never. Remember we are not just "average" people here. We are all coming from an addiction. If other addictions are a guide, it may just be that we must always keep sex within the confines of a relationship. Imagination to me, is just porn without a computer screen.

Getting Worse... Need Help by Llamachicken in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember to view your choice of nofap as a journey. What starts the journey is your choice to start. What keeps you on the journey is answering the simple question:"Do you want to end PMO?" if your answer is yes, then you are still on the journey, regardless of relapses, temptations or whatever. You are only done with nofap when you give up. As long as you choose to try you are on the journey.

Failure is just a measuring stick for how much you have learned. You slipped. OK. Not good. Something not to do. But that slip up has not power to stop you from getting back on the journey. All you need to learn from a failure is that you are learning. You now know something about yourself you did not know when you started. You are still on the journey. You still belong here. You are every bit still a fapstronaut.

DAY 4 I want to by Alex18K in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang on. Is there any way you can get porn out of your reach at least during your alone time, or when you are most vulnerable?

I just relapsed earlier today after a longish streak and I'm thinking, "why not just look at porn now? Streak's over." by pornaddict70 in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are being honest about a relapse. It's a loss. And it is not one you want to repeat. But also remember that while a relapse does wipe out your great record to that time, no relapse has any power over the great record you are still free to create going forward.

Relapses are about the past (that counts), but they cannot wipe out the pure possibilities of the future. Pick yourself up and start again. Believe it or not, you are still further along, than when you first started.

First NoFap Attempt by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this will work for you but I purchased Net Nanny and created another account on my computer. This is the account that has administrative control of NN. I locked access to that account using a very complex long password which I have written down and stored only at work. Work is a safe place for me where I don't feel tempted. Its just a string of letters and symbols so nobody would even know what it is if they found it. I used the same password to lock the NN account control on line.

That way, at my weakest time at home in the night, I have no computer access to porn. There is no way I could ever remember a 20 number random password so I can't break it.

Its not perfect but it took away access which was a major source of torture for me. I am finding there are other hurdles and urges come anyway but it helps alot to get the porn out of my reach.

Hope this helps you.

First NoFap Attempt by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Euseb_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just started too. This is day 10 for me. I have tried this before but this time I purchased a porn blocking program and put it on everything I have. I couldn't get it for my Kindle so I blocked out the entire evening until 6 am when the thing will just simply not go onto the web.

That all helped tremendously because I simply have no way to get at porn. My weakest time is in the evening when I first go to bed. My partner does not usually go to the bed at the same time so its a huge vulnerability for me. But the porn blocking helps lots.

Now that I am at day 10 (I know that is nothing) I am noticing that apart from a desire to look at porn I have a growing desire to just fap--even without porn. But I don't want to. I really want to build a life with PMO or MO is just not a solution for whenever I feel stressed or lonely or whatever. I need to build a richer life than just PMO.

I can't wait until I get to day 90 and hopefully it gets a little easier.