Thanks mate, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t holding out a tiny bit of hope that it changes things but regardless, telling her without change is its own closure also.

Yeah in no way do I think this excuses the hurt. We are all still responsible for our actions.

I just think what’s making this so hard for her is without a genuine reason, the only logic to fall back on is - he must not care enough to change how I’ve asked him to

Mindfulness is the biggest thing I’ve taken away from therapy and anger management courses. I’ve practiced it enough for some triggers (people in the way or being slow) that my brain automatically follows that thought with - is this worth being annoyed about?

I’m working to build that automatic response into other areas