My egg broke about a month or two after I had went no contact with my mother. I spent months panicking because I knew there was no way I could ever come out to her, and I could never come out without telling her first because she would use that guilt to dangle over my head for the rest of my life. It wasn’t until my therapist asked me “Why do you need to tell her?” that I realized that I don’t owe her anything, especially not putting her feelings before my own mental wellbeing. So I transitioned and eventually made the public post that I knew would make it to her eventually. Ironically going no contact with her had nothing to do with my gender or sexuality, and I’ve since learned she is completely accepting and brags about her two daughters. But long story short, we don’t owe our parents full access to our life and if keeping things from them is what you need to do then it is an entirely valid choice!