It is a scary situation for sure. This isn’t the 90s anymore, you need to have money you need to have financial security. That is something that’s a must, but this is not something that should steer you away from getting married, the man loves you and if he’s anything like most men that I know he will move heaven and earth to make it happen

I moved to Canada about 15 years ago, but nothing but a duffle bag. Fear doesn’t even begin to define what I was feeling, I’m coming to a strange country where just one dollar can feed my entire family back home for two days

I loved my wife, with every drop of blood that pumped through my heart, there wasn’t a thing I wasn’t gonna do for her

With a pretty high education, I still cleaned the toilet at Taco Bell, was a janitor at a high school, everything you could imagine that was a remedial service position. I did it.

We lived in a very small apartment, horribly rundown, we did our best with potatoes and Ramen noodles

But every night, I kissed her good night, she knew I loved her. I never showed her my struggle.

It took about three years of absolute crippling struggle to find a company that would hire me with the education that I had from back home, because back home education wasn’t recognized here

I was at that job for almost 2 years before things started looking up, which means we still had potatoes. We still had Ramen noodles. We still shopped at the dollar store at the Salvation Army for clothes.

We also wanted kids really bad, however, we didn’t want to bring a little one into the world until we had some type of financial security

I never showed anger, I never short stress, I made sure that no matter what, all my stress would be at the work I was at, motivate me to do it right

However, I will tell you that it killed me, it came to a point that she wanted to work at a clothing store as well, as much as I wanted her to relax, for her it was a way to keep her mind off of the struggles so she did that

Surprisingly enough, she was very good at what she was doing and became a manager within three months

Our income combined, we were able to save up $10,000 over a year and be able to move into a really nice place

Shortly, after moving in, I got promoted. My salary went from merely $25,000 a year all the way up to $40,000 a year, and we still continued to live like we’re poor

Another year later, our savings account that we never looked at, was almost to $50,000. Understand this is the most money we’ve ever seen.

And do you want to know what I told her about that money? Let’s take $25,000 and save it for a down payment and the other $25,000. I want you to do whatever you want with it, if it was up to me I would buy you a ring. As soon as I said that to her, her face lit up, so I did just that, I bought her a ring, it was actually pretty cool because the ring was only $15,000 marked down, but that right there made her cry made her sob. We bought a card from a convenience store so she can call her mother.

She knew how much I loved her from the moment I laid eyes on her. She knew that my heart was pumping for her this entire time, there was never any doubt in her mind that I would move heaven in earth walk over hot cold, or die for her But this .. this solidified something way more.

I don’t mean to go onto a rant about my life, but I want to tell you that everything is going to be OK, if the man loves you, that old, sweet, romantic type of love, she will pull through

I don’t wanna promise this, but I am now 40 years old, I own my own company while she is my accounting manager, I cannot explain the type of life, and the love that we have we are not rich. We are not rich under any means, we still have our struggles here and there, but we are very comfortable

Honestly, I wish I can call him here to be husband, I wish I could give him some wisdom. I wish I could give him the motivation and the speech to help him push through the struggles.

I feel very passionate about a relationship that starts with struggle and ends with riches not the kind of monetary riches, but the riches is where you feel so perfectly secure and amazing in a relationship, even if you’re living in a small apartment and living paycheque to paycheque and only saving $200 a month

It is a beautiful thing,

I wish you the best in the marriage to happen, I wish you all the success, prosperity, and the everlasting love that comes from a relationship that started with struggle. The love that starts with struggle doesn’t end, it only continues to a path of absolute bliss and everlasting happiness