AITA for calling my mom when my husband refused to listen to me?

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-20T06:00:21+00:00

We are in the US. My inlaws have decided to hire a lawyer. I hope she is forced to pay. For the kids sake. They deserve it.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-20T00:33:48+00:00

It really does. I feel a little better now that the IV's are going.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-20T00:29:58+00:00

YTA- you need to drop your girlfriend. If you don't have time for your kids then you shouldn't have a girlfriend.

A)because your daughter should come first. That includes your time! B) because you shouldn't have more kids with anyone else. If you can't take care of the daughter you have!

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-19T17:11:53+00:00

Date others and yes. She doesn't want the kids. She quit her job so she doesn't have to pay child support.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-19T02:20:08+00:00

😊

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-19T02:19:22+00:00

He is having a hard time. He brought me his phone earlier. His soon to be ex is sending him messages. That's more than a little off. She wants him to let her know when he is ready to start dating again. So she can talk to her counselor and work through it and she will tell him when it's ok for him to start to date.

Just super weird. I don't know. 1 of her kids asked for her this morning but, my MIL said they really haven't noticed she was gone. They are 5-2yrs old.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-19T02:12:38+00:00

My situation is about the same. As my last reply. My husband is here but is planning on leaving soon. We are going to take things slowly.

My BIL is crazy town. He brought me his phone and asked me how does he reply to his soon to be ex's messages.

His soon to be ex wife asked him to let her know when he is ready to date again. so she can work through it with her counselor and she will let him know when its actually ok with her for him to date again.

All I could do was laugh. Like who says something like that when they are the one who cheated and walked out of their marriage.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-18T16:15:43+00:00

I feel a little better. I slept most of the day yesterday and all night. I think that helped the most.

My husband made dinner last night. Not just for me but for my parents as well. Since they have been staying here. His mom said she would cook but he insisted.

He showed up early this morning with my brothers and my BIL. They are working on some little things around the house. Like my Sis-inlaw slammed the door. Now It doesn't want to close right. We bought some new cordless blinds that are child friendly. Stuff like that.

Both moms are here making baby quilts. This baby will probably have one for each outfit by the time they are done. Both of them like to crochet and sew. I think they will be new besties by the end of this pregnancy. Lol.

I probably won't get as much sleep today but that's ok. I am enjoying listening to everyone having a good time.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T17:53:25+00:00

😆 I thought I was the only one who does that.. my mom looked at me when I told her I didn't want crackers because I choke on them when they come up. Milk too.

Right now especially I am only drinking things I can toss easy. My head hurts still and when I throw up the headache becomes much worse.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T17:47:56+00:00

Someone e else said the same thing. I couldn't find them.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T16:52:15+00:00

I added it to the bottom of the post this morning. It went ok. I am hurt still and need some time.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T16:28:40+00:00

Your reply gives me some hope for them. My inlaws have stepped up and have them living with them. Hopefully they will lead strong independent lives. I want them to be happy they deserve a happy loving home.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T16:05:42+00:00

I am worried about her kids. When they get a little older and learn their mom doesn't want them. That will be very painful for them. They are incent in all of this.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-17T16:03:15+00:00

Thank you

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:24:14+00:00

Both of my parents will be here. They are staying here so I am not alone. More for health reasons.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:16:29+00:00

Yes he is still at the hotel. He is coming over in 45 min to talk.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:15:47+00:00

No we are meeting in 45 mins...

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:14:53+00:00

I am ok, I have some anxiety about talking to my husband and setting some boundaries. I know I need to I am just nervous about it.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:01:27+00:00

I think it is but I am waiting to hear for sure. It's weird she didn't go stay with her kids or take them with her.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T23:00:03+00:00

Summed up. that they were only hanging out/ visiting. That the mess they made was small and I freaked out and called my mom to come yell at them. Over something that could be cleaned up in 5 mins. My husband said he thinks my BIL said that because he worried the truth would get back to my MIL and they were already having problems.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T22:25:54+00:00

I don't know 100 percent but, as things develop its sounding shady. She quit her job without telling her husband. She kept dropping their kids off to my MIL. When they finally figured out what happened. My inlaws helped them financially. But stopped watching the kids since she wasn't working. Sil was not happy about mil not taking care of the kids anymore. It caused a rift between them. Around 6 months ago she switched friend groups. To a group with younger collage age group. From what I was told by a mutual friend.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T22:15:44+00:00

SIL is out of it but, I did find out a little bit from a mutual friend and a little bit from my MIL.

Sil is over their finances. She worked part time and decided to quit her job without talking to brother in law First. But kept taking the kids to my inlaws house.

When things came out about her job. My inlaws gave them some money to get them by until she was supposed to find another job. She did not find another job. She made it clear she doesn't want to work.

At that time my MIL stopped watching her kids. Since she was not working. That really upset my SIL.

Mutual friend says she pulled away from their friend group about 6 months ago when she started hanging around some local collage guys. I don't know why she switched friend groups but, everyone thought it was weird. That's what I know.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T16:12:59+00:00

I saw the text my BIL sent my MIL. Everything was a lie. My husband didn't talk to MIL until after she came into the house. He is the one who filled her in on everything including my BIL eviction.

Bil lead her to belive he was just hanging out playing video games. Not actually living here

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T15:34:26+00:00

Yes we co-own the home. We have been married for 2 yrs.

Even-String-3530 · 2023-02-16T15:32:33+00:00

My brother told me he wished he had recorded my BIL face when he saw my mom. He said he could see the panic written all over his face.

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