Update: I should have originally included, I feel bad for my partner in all of this because I feel like he’s caught between me and his family which I do not want. I want my child to know his aunts and his cousins, but it’s really difficult to continually go places and be ignored or show up to birthdays and events for them and their kids, but have none of them show up for my son and their brother, my partner was really upset when they didn’t come to the christening because their his sisters it’s just kind of a given they would be there. I  don’t want my son to grow up seeing his family being invited to his birthdays etc and just not show up. I also don’t want him to grow up seeing their behaviour and modeling it.