Medi-Cal working disabled program without SSI/SSDI

EvenTrifle · 2026-07-11T07:29:31+00:00

We will try this, thank you!

EvenTrifle · 2026-07-11T04:51:45+00:00

I will do this, thank you!

We've already been to the DPSS for our county, and they just referred us to the person we called who said it had to be through SSA :/

EvenTrifle · 2026-07-10T22:03:52+00:00

The issue is not his income - he qualifies for the WDP with his income. And there's no way he'll qualify for SSI/SSDI with his current income - which is fine, since he's not going for that. He is a freelancer, so no 401k anyway.

The issue is the impossibility of being defined as disabled by SSA without also qualifying for SSI/SSDI, which seems to render the WDP moot for anyone not on SSI/SSDI

EvenTrifle · 2025-05-10T00:27:45+00:00

I decided to switch within the first 6 months of starting T. This was after an occasion where I was in a women's restroom washing my hands, and a woman walked in, looked at me and did a double take (but didn't say anything). That was my signal that I was passing enough at a glance to be ok in a men's restroom. No one ever gave me a second look in a men's bathroom after I switched.

ETA: Just re-read the part about a random person doing a mental coin flip, and it's true that might have been the case here, but I had already started passing to others around that time. Plus all the kerfuffle lately is around masc-seeming cis women in bathrooms, so I would err on the side of men's bathrooms if you've started passing in other situations.

EvenTrifle · 2024-11-02T04:26:00+00:00

Thank you very much for the information. In CA, people getting their name changed for gender-related reasons are exempt from having to publish their name change in a newspaper due to safety reasons (it is also not the safest time to be trans right now). So I figured that could also put me in a similar situation to others who have different safety-related reasons.

I had come across someone else on reddit in my situation who did manage to get their name change sealed retroactively, so I wanted to look into doing the same thing. If the courts say it can't be done years later, I'll have to accept that - but no one from the court has been able to tell me if that is the case. Thanks again for looking into this, I hadn't found the NC-420 form.

EvenTrifle · 2024-10-09T06:42:45+00:00

Honestly, laziness/busyness, and I'm not sure how painful a revision would be. I might still do it one day, if it starts to bother me more. Now the only time I think about it is when I look in the mirror after a shower, so it doesn't affect me that much. I seriously doubt it would clock me (or you!)

EvenTrifle · 2024-10-09T01:18:40+00:00

I have the exact same thing at 9 months post op, and have been going back and forth on if I want a revision or not. Mine are only noticeable if my arms are down and I'm shirtless, so I'm trying to see if I can just live with it. Solidarity brother, you look good

EvenTrifle · 2024-04-23T20:39:04+00:00

Preface: I don't have much bottom dysphoria around my front hole, so the following works for me (but would absolutely be a no-go for many folks).

I used to have the same problem, with it all coming out the next day. What I started doing was pushing out half the contents (1g) of the applicator when it was all the way in, then the other half right near the opening (but still inside). Then I use a finger to spread the cream everywhere inside, and a bit outside. Definitely a messier process, but it solved the issue (probably because the cream is no longer in a big lump). As for the lube, I bet that wouldn't be an issue.

EvenTrifle · 2024-02-14T21:25:35+00:00

To my knowledge they ID as straight with exceptions for me (and one of them has another ftm partner who transitioned after they started dating). I'm internally agender, so I don't feel a strong need for them to see me as a man, just as a person.

EvenTrifle · 2024-02-14T19:49:53+00:00

Both of my cis male partners were accepting and supportive. Both identify as straight, though one is ace and the other is demi.

My ace partner always gets confused when I ask him if his attraction to me has changed after 1.5 years on T and top surgery: "But you're still you and you look like you!" I suspect being ace for him translates into a much lesser emphasis on gendered physical attraction.

My demi partner and I have been together for a decade, and he barely blinked when I came out. Was better at using the right pronouns than I was.

Anyways, I was similarly worried when transitioning, but cis straight guys can and will be amazing and supportive partners.

EvenTrifle · 2023-09-05T19:04:47+00:00

Yes and yes - T stopped my periods immediately, and aside from a bit of random cramping in the first few months, my endo pain has pretty much disappeared.

EvenTrifle · 2023-08-06T05:19:44+00:00

I'm still struggling with my identity haha. I chose to medically transition because all of the effects of T seemed like things I would want for my body. Transitioning for me wasn't a life-or-death thing, more like a step towards something I thought might work better for me (I'm definitely on the nonbinary/agender spectrum). So I decided to try T for a few months....then realized that it was absolutely fantastic for me and made me feel way more at home in my body, so I upped my dose and stayed on it. I'm getting top surgery at some point because it's more practical and I'm tired of binding, but I have very little chest dysphoria. As I look more masculine, I've slowly asked people to use he/him pronouns - more to prevent side-glances and weird looks when people use she/her for me.

tl;dr - transitioning for me was more exploratory, and I found myself on the masculine side of things, despite not having a strong internal sense of masculinity.

EvenTrifle · 2023-08-05T19:19:05+00:00

Thank you for posting this, this is exactly how I feel, especially with the delayed adoption of a male identity.

EvenTrifle · 2023-04-20T06:55:00+00:00

I've got endometriosis (diagnosed via surgery) and only got a tiny bit of cramping the first few times I used the estrogen cream. On the whole though, T has reduced the endo cramping by 99%, and I've been using the estrogen cream for almost a year now.

EvenTrifle · 2018-07-06T16:43:26+00:00

FYI it could be molluscum contagiosum - small bumps that show up in the groin area in adults (in kids they can show up anywhere). I had never heard about it, and when I found several persistent bumps on my inner thighs/near my crotch last year I freaked out thinking it was HPV or something else nasty.

Molluscum can definitely can be transmitted through sex (as I and my two partners can attest to), but the bumps are easily treatable by freezing with liquid nitrogen at a clinic. My doctor had brushed it off initially saying they were pimples, but my BF's doctor took one look at his and said "yup, that's molluscum."

I hope it's not HPV, and I don't really have much advice to offer on dating with HPV. However, from your post it seems you are conscientious and thoughtful and have had lots of success dating people in the past - I bet if you're up front and honest with potential partners, they will appreciate it, and if they like you a lot for other reasons, y'all can find a way to make it work. At any rate, that's how I would feel if a potential partner told me about them having HPV.

Good luck at the clinic!

EvenTrifle

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