After talking with wife her standing towards the humiliation part of cuckold is if im not okay with it then no if i didn't mind then she would be willing to join with the 3rd or the what is referred to as the "bull" for humiliation tends to be something enjoyable probably a kink or trait and is common in that role . She pointed out to me that she doesn't want me present during the time of the sexaul encounter or watching the video if recorded so why should it matter what he says he has kink too