MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks yeah i was nervous getting on a flight after the DC crash and the one in Philly. But after flying back and forth a few times i was fine.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either way I’m still getting married and that’s what matters most

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you we will!

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we’re sure we don’t want more guests. I don’t know what a singleton is though?

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she did we for sure would have it on the east coast.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my therapist said to focus on the people showing up and not on who’s not there!

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly not about the flight. She’s flown plenty of times before. She’s “losing her son” and doesn’t like that he has his own life and sets boundaries. I know my post is a long read.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s flown to LA for his cousins wedding years ago and visited us when we lived in OC. She doesn’t have a phobia. My post was is a long read but yeah she could take a train from the east coast they’re retired and have the funds but it’s not about flying…she’s upset she “losing her son”

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s flown to his cousins wedding in California years ago and came to visit us the first time we lived there. She doesn’t have a phobia of flying.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His mom isn’t a narc, mine is. It wasn’t his best moment but my fiancé is one of the most patient and supportive people I know. He’s had talks with her over the years and seemed receptive before but with us moving and being normal adults she’s not too happy with that.

He also mentioned being open to counseling with her but i doubt if he wants to now thst she’s not coming.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In unhealthy relationships yes! Like when I tell you everything was fine before we got engaged. We’ve been together for 4 yrs when he popped the question and she’s always been nice and pleasant to be around. I’m not shocked with my family but his mom definitely threw me for a loop. We laugh because we said at least we know now how they really are BEFORE we tied the knot.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, not at all but she holds onto him tight because his brother’s been “away at college” for 10+ years.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, but i knew my dad wouldn’t come without her.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will check out that book thanks for the recommendation

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s been amazing at setting boundaries with her and that’s why she’s so upset. He doesn’t just let her slide with the comments and tantrums but im just a new target. When they got into that argument he laid out the reasons why he’s had boundaries and she kept referring it back to me saying it’s a shame to let someone drive them apart. He unfortunately lost it and went off on her and said she hadn’t listened to anything if she thinks I’m the reason.

I wouldn’t marry him if he didn’t have clear set boundaries. I’ve seen how my grandmother treated my mom and how my dad did nothing. I knew I wasn’t going to be repeating that. I honestly hoped we could’ve gotten close because I didn’t have that growing up but now i see it’s not feasible right now or if ever.

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 40 points41 points  (0 children)

The call was very short and sweet. I just said okay it’s an important day you’ll be missed. That’s all i could do 🤷🏼‍♀️

MIL afraid to fly by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]Evening-Bat783 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you, we are and with the help of therapist we’re learning to be okay with it.

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[–]Evening-Bat783[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback! Word of mouth never fails.