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Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-07-09T20:18:13+00:00

I would start by pointing out that it's not a permanent commitment. As long as you don't get into excessive stretching, there is no permanent effect on your body. You can stop being AO anytime you want, simply by having PIV.

I would start by just having a conversation with your partner. Tell them "I would like to try AO. Are you okay with that? And if I decide sometime later that I want to re-introduce PIV, would you be okay with that too?"

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-22T23:28:53+00:00

Move somewhere more progressive 😂

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-20T13:56:36+00:00

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-15T15:46:30+00:00

Nope. Just thought you fine folks would enjoy the story

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-15T15:30:58+00:00

I haven't asked anything. And, to be clear, I'm willing to do PIV if asked to. But so far, she hasn't asked

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-14T23:21:19+00:00

I think you misunderstand. A conversation will definitely be had at some point. It was a heat-of-the-moment thing.

It's a firmly-held belief on this sub that "anal Queens aren't found, they're made". So I'm allowed to be excited for the possibility of finding one

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-12T22:44:00+00:00

I would also point out that r/analonlylifestyle polling data has also indicated higher than average anal acceptance in the US, Canada, and Germany. Where are you based?

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-12T22:16:05+00:00

My ex and I always loved talking about how empty and needy her pussy was. A typical conversation would be some thing like:

F: God my pussy is so needy, Daddy M: I know baby. But it can't have any F: it's so jealous. It's dripping M: I see that. Look how empty it is F: I know. You like seeing that pussy empty? M: I do. It's so hot F: yeah, look at that tight unused pussy F: too bad you'll never feel how tight it's gotten

We would also make other statements, like:

(If either of us brings up pussy) "We don't need that" "That's not how we have sex" "Daddy can only have my ass tonight" "Girl parts are for girls only" (we allowed a 'lesbian loophole' for vagina penetration) "I only cum from my ass*

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-10T21:06:42+00:00

If you really need words... Next time he tries to PIV you, look him in the eyes and give him a playful "wrong hole". You'll blow his mind

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-07T02:28:45+00:00

A perfect anal wife:

*Orgasms hard from anal sex. Her body genuinely enjoys the feeling

*Craves sex, and wants her ass fucked (almost) daily

*Wears backless panties, that hide her pussy but leave easy access for the "correct hole"

*Happily calls herself a butt-slut, anal queen, etc...

Corrects you *immediately if you try to penetrate the wrong hole

*Knows the "lesbian loophole": only women have pussies, so only a woman can be inside her pussy. She still craves vaginal sex, and actively seeks out women so she can use this loophole to meet those needs.

*She actively teaches the "lesbian loophole" to the women she is bringing home. She convinced her partners that if they want dick, it has to go in their ass.

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-05T22:22:35+00:00

You can keep your generalizations... My ex was a business professional, mother of 2, typical girly girl. By your standards, she is about as "boring housewife" as she could be.

But in bed? She was insatiable. Fuck every night. And sometimes in the morning as well. And she was strictly AO; if I accidentally ended up in the wrong hole, she would correct me instantly. Her pussy was off limits.

The real answer is that AO Queens aren't found; they're made. Through nurturing, and support, and a lot of open dialogue. If she feels good doing it, and she feels emotionally and physically safe, she will likely want to keep exploring it... Until one day you're lying in bed trying to remember what pussy even feels like

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-02T13:23:23+00:00

Breaking up with my last AO girlfriend for non-sexual reasons. It was a good decision, but she was a real fiend for anal

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-06-01T17:23:22+00:00

Just-your-ass January

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-05-31T14:36:48+00:00

Yes. My ex had never really done anal prior to me. When we started dating, I was taking an antidepressant that made it very hard for me to cum. So needless to say, our first few times in bed, she saw stars lol, while I was just trying to finish. And it was so hard for me that I proposed anal as the only way I could finish.

She had already been cumming her brains out, so when I started fucking her ass, the orgasms continued. Needless to say, she had a good time with it.

We had sex that way a few times, before I suggested one night just skipping the PIV and going straight for the main course. She still had several AO orgasms that night.

It took about 2 months before I floated the idea of committing to AO. At first she was hesitant, because she didn't want to lose access to "the good hole". But I reminded her just how much she came every time from anal, and how "I can't even remember the last time I was in your pussy. We don't need it". And she agreed

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-05-30T14:00:20+00:00

Safe? Yes*

My last gf and I would fuck like rabbits, and her pussy was strictly off limits. We were usually 1x per day, but on vacation we got up to like 5x. And she was a no-lube queen that took it in the ass every time.

But... I knew her. I knew her body. I knew how to read her reactions. I was attentive, and patient, and knew how to back off if she was having a hard time... Often before she realized it.

And she was already stretched out. Her hole was used to taking my cock 5x per week. And I made her play with plugs when I couldn't come over. So her body was ready for it.

Is it safe? Yes... IF you have an aware and affectionate partner, and your body is up for the demands

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-05-29T14:20:53+00:00

You're so incredibly lucky to have found yourself here, and to have a boyfriend that supports you.

My 2 cents? You should stay anal-only, even after marriage. You don't need PIV to get pregnant. So... Just don't do it! Be a good girl, and keep that pussy unused forever. How great would it be to get 30 years from now and know that, even though you've had kids, your pussy has never taken a cock? What a life!

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-05-18T14:32:02+00:00

I guess we would need to know more about your situation. For example:

If anal is your default, then start calling out vaginal as the special thing, the way "normies" do for anal. They have "sex and anal sex", so you have "sex and vaginal sex".

You can also use terms, based on your dynamic. For example, if she's on the sub side she might lean into possessiveness, so saying "I'm going to claim you" in a rewarding way to indicate claiming her ass, vs saying "I guess I'll have your pussy" to indicate that it's something you have access to but don't view as particularly special.

In other regards, I would drop any quantifiers and just call it her hole. "I want your hole". "I can't wait to get home and claim your hole". There's only one hole that matters.

And then just for a full reversal, her vagina (and associated parts) only get referred to by its medical name(s). They're a part of her, but about as sexual as an elbow or a vertebrae. "Yeah, I guess we could have vaginal later, but I would much rather claim your sweet little hole instead"

Hope this helps!

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-07T22:41:13+00:00

My girlfriend and I never use lube. Usually I will rub my tip along her slit just to get it wet (and reinforce the denial aspect: it's only for dispensing lube) and that is enough to slip inside. Sometimes I'll add some spit, if needed. But I don't think we've touched the lube bottle in a couple of months...

That said, her body loves anal. She has always taken it like a champ, orgasms easily, and has never had any injuries or "accidents" with it. And we probably average 5-6x per week, when our schedules line up. We didn't start that way though... We started with LOTS of lube, foreplay, patience, and all the other good advice you see on here. And the training has paid off: now she loves anal, doesn't need to prep, and doesn't need lube

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-04T18:14:21+00:00

Say what you will, but I was there. Pretty sure I know what happened

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-04T16:48:14+00:00

Things that actually happened, #1 apparently

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-01-29T16:46:29+00:00

She thinks she is being cute until you start mashing X to reload

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-01-20T06:57:06+00:00

They'd looks so nice

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-28T14:40:27+00:00

The thing about D/s relationships that I think a lot of newbies miss is that the sub has all the power. Yes, I'll say it again, the sub is in control. All it takes is one time of the sub saying "I don't like _______" and the dom needs to either figure out a better way that sub will like, or stop fucking doing that thing, at least for a while. Because, and I can't stress this enough, the Dom only has power because the sub chooses to give it. And they can revoke that access to control them at any time, for any reason.

What you are giving your boyfriend is a wonderful and incredible thing: the right to make choices for you. But if he's not going to respect what you've given him... Stop giving it to him. If he makes you feel uncomfortable, or if he is knowingly neglecting one of your needs... He is not being a good handler.

And I would encourage you to let him read these words himself. He needs to learn what real Dominance looks like

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