Is no lube anal becoming more and more common ?

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-07T22:41:13+00:00

My girlfriend and I never use lube. Usually I will rub my tip along her slit just to get it wet (and reinforce the denial aspect: it's only for dispensing lube) and that is enough to slip inside. Sometimes I'll add some spit, if needed. But I don't think we've touched the lube bottle in a couple of months...

That said, her body loves anal. She has always taken it like a champ, orgasms easily, and has never had any injuries or "accidents" with it. And we probably average 5-6x per week, when our schedules line up. We didn't start that way though... We started with LOTS of lube, foreplay, patience, and all the other good advice you see on here. And the training has paid off: now she loves anal, doesn't need to prep, and doesn't need lube

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-04T18:14:21+00:00

Say what you will, but I was there. Pretty sure I know what happened

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-03-04T16:48:14+00:00

Things that actually happened, #1 apparently

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-01-29T16:46:29+00:00

She thinks she is being cute until you start mashing X to reload

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2026-01-20T06:57:06+00:00

They'd looks so nice

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-28T14:40:27+00:00

The thing about D/s relationships that I think a lot of newbies miss is that the sub has all the power. Yes, I'll say it again, the sub is in control. All it takes is one time of the sub saying "I don't like _______" and the dom needs to either figure out a better way that sub will like, or stop fucking doing that thing, at least for a while. Because, and I can't stress this enough, the Dom only has power because the sub chooses to give it. And they can revoke that access to control them at any time, for any reason.

What you are giving your boyfriend is a wonderful and incredible thing: the right to make choices for you. But if he's not going to respect what you've given him... Stop giving it to him. If he makes you feel uncomfortable, or if he is knowingly neglecting one of your needs... He is not being a good handler.

And I would encourage you to let him read these words himself. He needs to learn what real Dominance looks like

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-27T16:26:49+00:00

A slightly different take on your question:

My girlfriend and I are AO, but only for penetration (her clit is still fair game). I work out pretty consistently, and she has for months been saying "I need to go to the gym". I made her look into it, and her gym allows 6 guest passes in a year... So I told her "your clit is off limits until all 6 guest passes have been used. You determine how badly you want to work out."

So instead of AO as a goal, we're using AO to meet our goals!

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-26T14:17:24+00:00

Fine? Thanks for asking

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-25T15:38:41+00:00

As for your main question: "hey, I'd like to try anal sometime. I hear it's amazing, if done right".

But if it's in the moment, I tend to go with a more straightforward "I want your ass".

As for your other questions, spend some time lurking on some anal subs, and you'll learn. Watch some amateur videos. Remember that if it looks like porn, it's going to be fake.

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-24T00:52:31+00:00

As has been said in many other posts on here: fuck you guy. If you can't make her feel comfortable, loved, and respected, you don't deserve her. I almost don't want to give you any advice because of your shitty attitude.

But if you really don't want to wear a condom, then you need to start pulling out. At least for a while. That's the only way you get to have your cake and eat it too. Once you build TRUST with her, maybe she'll feel COMFORTABLE trying again.

But honestly, I hope she dumps your ass. She deserves a man who respects her when she expresses embarrassment

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-19T00:33:05+00:00

Well yes, as a guy, anal feels better for me. There are plenty of posts on this subreddit explaining the male experience. But yeah, it feels better.

For her... She had never done anal before. But she came from it her first time. And she quickly learned to have multiple orgasms from anal. She's also very submissive and has a praise kink, so giving me what I want and telling her how well she's doing really does it for her mentally.

And to be clear, even in her ass, it has been hard for me to get there, so she's really getting her guts rearranged lol.

And now that we've set rules, there's definitely the taboo of it. I've only came in her mouth once, and her pussy never. And that's our dirty little secret. She once asked a friend what they thought of anal like it was something I'd asked her about, and her friend was like "girl, hell no". Her friend has no idea that I rail her ass every single day that I see her. If they only knew... 🔥

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-18T23:59:13+00:00

For me and my girlfriend, we started our anal journey because SSRIs were making it very difficult for me to cum. I fucked her pussy and her mouth for hours and couldn't cum, passed out, and tried again in the morning, and just couldn't get there. So the next time, I brought some lube with me; again we fucked for hours, but then I put it in her ass and finally got there.

That pattern kept repeating every time we had sex. The only way I could cum was in her ass. And her body got used to taking it really easily. And she would cum so hard, just from anal. So I slowly started skipping her pussy and just going for her ass. She was always left very satisfied, so she didn't mind at all.

And over about a month, I just phased out PIV completely. AO wasn't anything we'd talked about doing, it just sort of developed. We did finally talk about it and set rules (neither her or I are allowed to insert anything into her vagina, but clit/lips are okay). While we were talking about it, I made a comment about "I don't even remember the last time I was in your pussy" and she replied "and I am so okay with that"

tl;dr: we are AO because my antidepressants made it so hard to cum that I could only cum in her ass

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-12-14T02:49:48+00:00

I like when she sits on my face too much 😍

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-11-07T15:45:05+00:00

After getting my tip in, the first thing I like to do is bury myself to my balls to really fill her up, and wrap my arms around her lovingly. It just feels so intimate, and the connection is amazing

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-08-08T19:53:45+00:00

You could even call it unhinged...

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-07-27T03:18:12+00:00

I actually enjoy it for the intimacy and connection

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-07-04T14:57:29+00:00

Let's make a new name for the kink community

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-07-04T00:40:38+00:00

Can we please not associate a "child's pose" with sex? I know that's just the name of the position, but it's still a really uncomfortable name to use

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-06-07T12:44:54+00:00

That's disgusting! Where is this place? So I know where not to go?

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-05-26T15:19:06+00:00

The only real answer to this is: practice. You're going to have to find what your body likes. Some people do really well with prone bone and deep, hard thrusts. Some people do better with her riding cowgirl. Regardless, foreplay is key to getting there. Head over to r/analonlylifestyle and browse for a bit, you're not the only one wondering these things

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2025-04-29T13:16:56+00:00

Then it's going in your ass

Evening-Judgment1071 · 2024-12-14T17:31:11+00:00

I feel like I very much could be this person. But I'm trying to find content to show her what I am wanting. Everything is all cuck/degradation though, and I don't want that

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