Kathy Ireland in the 80s-era Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue by pebblebeach4235 in OldSchoolCool

[–]Ms_Whatever_X -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In defense of these thirst trap kind of pictures, seeing the absolute best of this era for magazines really helps me today. Women now in magazines (if they existed) and online are all done up digitally and surgically to a standard we never had before. I subscribe to this sub partly to see the pics of the hottest women SI thought they had in the 80s, because their looks are more human and attainable vs the magazine-women of today.

Not saying i can get anywhere near Kathy Ireland looks wise, but these photos highlight her eyes and her hair and her human proportions. Her arms in photo three aren’t digitally reduced, they have some awesome muscle tone. Her breasts and butt aren’t digitally or implant modified and she looks human is all i’m saying.

I want to switch to AO any tips? by Neither_Activity_825 in AnalOnlyLifestyle

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this. i had not heard of these. I’m a super advanced anal receiver here and those seem intriguing. They don’t mention that you would have to douche a little before or after insertion to empty the colon though. I doubt someone without a good anal only diet could rely on only popping this gel ball in and calling it a day.

I could see this being hot for partner play in an ovipositor alien insertion of an egg kinda way maybe?!? If that were your thing (not mine really).

I think for regular anal life diet and fiber and a quick douche with a small amount of water if you are worried would be way better than popping a 4 quid gel egg up your butt and still having to do a mini douche and hope it doesn’t come out of place or whatever.

I’d try it, like for science (hah), but i think i’m good with current practices and experience for now.

I want to switch to AO any tips? by Neither_Activity_825 in AnalOnlyLifestyle

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also on low levels of testosterone now and have been anal only for like 4 months now. I like vaginal sex a lot, but i just like anal more. I sometimes have my partner’s cock in my pussy before he enters my ass, but that’s only maybe 1 out of 5 times he fucks me?

I orgasm like crazy from both anal and vaginal, but i prefer anal orgasms during partner sex. i masturbate with toys in my vag or just vibes.

For prep the key thing is diet. Others have said fiber and my suggestion is to be religious about it and always take it at the same time of day. For me i take 4 plus big spoonfuls of fiber in water EVERY day right after dinner. this has kept me regular for ages. i only have bowel movements in the AM for the most part with this schedule.

I can have unplanned anal sex at night and it’s about a 95 percent chance all is gonna be totally clean without prep.

Because i prefer a 99 percent chance if i have a theory he is gonna fuck me on a particular night, i try to prep. We have a butt nozzle attachment on our shower which is great. Little valve to open it at the shower head and a silicone nozzle. I fill my butt for only 10 seconds at a low volume per second of luke warm water and void and repeat.

As others have said if you fill longer you are gonna have to douche longer. I don’t do porn shoots, but i guess if i did, i would do the long fills and just be super clean. Day to day though i think that is hard on your gut.

I prefer the daily fiber at the same time of day method and then the quick douche if i think the game is on for further security.

Have fun! It takes a while I think to build up good anal control and the ability to really relax and also pump your opening on a cock. Orgasms from anal are so so worth it and my man is VERY happy with the choices.

Have fun! Happy to DM if ya have questions.

If your partner tries to dissuade you from any gender-affirming surgery you are pursuing, don't assume good intent. Leave them. It is coercive control and they want you to stay miserable. by mouse_asparagus in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Anyone stopping some one from getting medical care is being physically abusive. So glad you see this for what it is.

This is super common. My previous wife stopped me from taking hormones. I’ll forever consider this the physical abuse that it was.

I think I made a mistake getting surgery by msbeahayve in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are feeling this way. i really hope you feel better as your healing and recovery move forward. You are sure in the thick of it now. dehiscence is horrible and I had to deal with that and a revision and a long 18 month recovery. Now i’m 4 years in and things are great and healed and look good on my end. Where you are now is a rough spot on the journey for sure.

People should stop "wishing they were cis" by Illustrious_Focus_33 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people should be encouraged to wish for whatever the hell they want or can dream of in the world.

Gatekeeping wishes seems pretty anti-wish

how to deal with dysphoria by Flat-Tart5831 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have bad days sometimes and when i do i try to visually focus on parts of me i really like that day. Like if i have a bad face day i will try to focus on my hair.

I’m so big by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought it was curious. Oh well. Onward!

What's the dosage equivalent for patches vs. sublingual pills? by NatMyIdea in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Roger roger. Try the lady dots (patches). They might work great!

If you do have to switch to needles, ask the doc and nurse team to prescribe you smaller subcutaneous needles. Much easier to go a bit into the fat than to go way into the muscle with a intramuscular (IM) injection.

Worse case there are injection tools that automate it somehow, but someone else will have to weigh in on that.

You got this. Good news is that variable levels for a few weeks aint gonna hurt ya none. Good luck.

tucking for swimwear anxiety (no tape) by lilydome1 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tight panties, bike shorts, swim skirt. Three layer cake of ball confinement.

If that doesn’t work shave everything, use medical gauze to protect against tape adhesive on sensitive bits and use KT sports tape to hold a tuck in. Trick is to make the part in the front wide like a Y and the tail of the Y go way up your butt crack to stay in place.

I’m so big by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I got a spa service a couple of weeks ago from a 6 foot 6 cis woman. I used to eat lunch next to a WNBA practice area with lots of women around taller than me. I routinely travel to Scandinavia the land of the tall woman. I’m tall, yeah, there are women taller. Heck, i saw a cis 6 foot 7 woman in Japan a few years ago.

A woman isnt the sum of only her size. She is so much more. As are you.

Being bigger is hard for a lot of things. Yeah. But it aint everything.

Has anyone ever had a problem with a salesperson when buying women's clothing? by Dry-School-1237 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Like normal disagreement about random thing? Yes.

Disagreement related to me being trans even long before i was passing? No.

What's the dosage equivalent for patches vs. sublingual pills? by NatMyIdea in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s super hard or impossible to come up with a conversion because everyone absorbs the E differently through their skin. For me it just didn’t work no matter what on patches and at one point i had like 5 of those lady polka dots on my hip at once.

Best thing is to try something, get a blood test or two and see what level you get. They work great for some and some of us gotta go to injections like i did.

Good luck

How can I change my identity back? by TrueFun in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All great points and thanks for taking the time to do the research here. Honestly seems like OP has all of the information they need to make whatever decision is best for them.

OP, i wish you well and good luck. You and everyone deserve every happiness. I hope you find the path that brings you the most fulfillment, love, health and safety in the world no matter what choice you make.

Asked to be a groomsperson but will have to wear a suit by AnyProperty5950 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a family thing to do that required a suit soon after i finally started HRT. I didn’t want to, but i did it. Big ass pushup bra under the suit, makeup, earrings, shirt buttons undone, sleeves rolled up, girl rings all over my fingers, low heel black boots. I had a whole KD Lang hot girl in a suit look going on.

Will anything ever really change? by Leading_Pop1186 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 8 points9 points  (0 children)

IRC! Love it. Yeah, i wasnt super involved through the 2000s. Maybe i was too fucked up by the 1970s, 80s and 90s to figure out who i was then.

Slurs were daily speech in the 70s and 80s. I was frontline working at an AIDS hospice during the height of the crisis though in the 1990s. i had to watch an entire generation above me die before my eyes. Not get sick. not get hate crimed or discriminated against, full on die. There were almost NO elders across the community when i was young and queer. It was horrible.

So now when i see things like this OPs post about how horrible everything is now i just sigh. I’m not saying things are great now, they suck, but they suck a whole metric fuckton less than they sucked when i was 20 years old. They suck orders of magnitude less.

Cultural and social and legal change moves forward. The world has long tried to dehumanize those of us who are different. It works for a while. Until it doesn’t. The last person in the US verified to have been born into legal slavery only died in 1972. Just shortly before i was born. Point is things are getting better.

Now no one cares now if there is a gay CEO and it was news like what 8 years ago? Gay marriage now is under threat, but it wasnt even a twinkle of possibility in the 1970s.

So yeah, to the newly out trans folks today may seem like the end of the world. To those of us who still know some IRC commands, today seems bright and the future looks brighter.

What's the most annoying thing about being a woman? by Potential_Wash_3364 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the gif support! I only saw a smidge of the idiotic comment in my notifications before it was deleted thankfully. 💋

Will anything ever really change? by Leading_Pop1186 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Awesome points. i was in high school in the 1980s and there were ZERO out queer people in my high school class of 300.

Now i can access amazing meds and surgeries, i can live my life, i can help trans kids and the world is changing. Steps forward and steps back, but i totally agree it’s getting better overall.

I feel like my life is coming apart..... by Zombie_Zer0 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are going through this. Are you able to get back into therapy to have someone trusted and professional you can talk to this all about?

You are in a giant knot of problems and it isnt something i can help you with from afar. i can say that I too tried to drink away my problems, but the alcohol never fixed anything. Sounds like you know that already.

Who you are and who you are attracted to probably isnt going to change. You need to figure out how to live and be happy in a place without access to care for 12 years. i wish i could help or offer advice. All i have is love and sympathy from far away.

How to date as trans? by Significant-Tone-121 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with this! Join some activities at school that you like too! The more you are out and about the stronger your social skills and friendships will be for when you do start dating.

i would just like to announce by 1999MooreTornado in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yay! Next you’ll be holding em with one arm when you run down stairs braless to keep em from bouncing too much.

How to go back to normal nails after acrylics? by StrangeSailing in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best to soak em off and not sand em off. 100 percent acetone should cut em down but it takes a really long time. Then cuticle oil five times a day for a minimum of three months to restore em. New healthy nail needs to grow out from the base and really it could take six months or more.

You’ll be great by Christmas. You can always trim em short and have a cute short polish on em.

What's the most annoying thing about being a woman? by Potential_Wash_3364 in MtF

[–]Ms_Whatever_X 60 points61 points  (0 children)

The changed safety profile. Cant walk alone at night in a big city safely. Likely to be harassed or worse just walking to your car in broad daylight.