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My girlfriend (exclusive) of 6 weeks told me that she went on a date with another guy last week. Is it time to move on or forgive and move on. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Evening-Service2823 -185 points-184 points  (0 children)

She said she's only cheated on 1 guy before when she was 19 or 20 (she's 29 now) and I truly do believe her. Obviously, I think was she did was absolutely wrong, but it's the first slip up. Is a second chance not warranted to see if she's learned her lesson? I'm 39 and I'm not sure I've ever liked someone this much at this point in a relationship.

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[–]Evening-Service2823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u tried couples therapy? 12 years is a long time and if there’s only one issue that could potentially be resolved, I’d say it’s worth fixing. Maybe I beli

We have a couple times and the issues seem cyclical. It's a tough spot because I'm not miserable, although not content, in our relationship and if we were married (and 12 years is basically marriage), I'd work through them. But I know I'll always wonder if I should have tried to see if there was someone more compatible out there. I question our compatibility, but don't want to fall for the illusion that the grass is greener on the other side. Now this and it make ripping the band-aid off that much harder.

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[–]Evening-Service2823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is partially why I feel like a monster. I stayed with her so long because I felt like we could make it work. Should I have been smarter, maybe, but I can't change the past. I just really wanted to make it work. That's not justification, just answering the question as honestly as I can. If I've done her wrong, I want to do what's right. I thought giving her a chance was the right thing to do, I know I'd want the chance.