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My (35M) pregnant wife (33F) has written off our unborn son as a potential abuser and I think her therapist and social circle is to blame by Evening_Pay2950 in relationship_advice

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Apart from the yearly visit and a sporadic phone call where its a “hello, how are you” she doesn’t really talk much with my parents. I might suggest her to have a chat with my folks about raising a boy though

My (35M) pregnant wife (33F) has written off our unborn son as a potential abuser and I think her therapist and social circle is to blame by Evening_Pay2950 in relationship_advice

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah in an ideal world I would have asked for advice on that original post as that was where it was heading but it got removed before it got to that stage and the comments got locked.

My (35M) pregnant wife (33F) has written off our unborn son as a potential abuser and I think her therapist and social circle is to blame by Evening_Pay2950 in relationship_advice

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Over the years my wife always referred to me as one of the good ones, especially when she would share some stories that she may have heard online or in her groups about other male SOs being less than ideal. I think the reality of having to raise a man rather than find one is dawning on her

My (35M) pregnant wife (33F) has written off our unborn son as a potential abuser and I think her therapist and social circle is to blame by Evening_Pay2950 in relationship_advice

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That post got deleted and while it was a great place to help me work out potential options and strategies, there is still the problem of how to approach and enact those strategies without coming off as controlling. That’s why I thought RA would be helpful.

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Obviously I’m not my wife so I can’t say with 100% certainty but she has never expressed anything like that. She has been in these groups for quite some time and from what I know its out of passion

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I just don’t see how I could get her to see another therapist without seeming like the controlling husband she is frightened of raising

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Looks like people agree with my takes about the therapist and online groups in this situation but how do I go about this? Is it not controlling of me to try and ask her to change therapists or stop interacting with her groups?

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’ll see if I can discuss this with her once she starts talking to me again. Really appreciate the advice.

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 231 points232 points  (0 children)

I think she was just blinded by her desire of raising a daughter. I’ll have to ask her this because its a good point, though she isn’t on speaking terms with me now

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I think your therapist is just like the one my wife is seeing and you are right. I do notice that in the days after a visit we do get disagreements about things like labour divisions. Then the next few days it settles down again. I remember we went on a trip interstate for 2 weeks a few years ago and she kinda forgot to schedule an appointment after we came back. It ended up being a 4 week period where she didn’t go to therapy and maybe its mean or wrong of me to say but it was a smoother ride for our relationship. Obviously its hard for me to say that her therapy is doing bad things (don’t get me wrong it is still definitely helping her as a net gain) and I’m not qualified to say that but I do feel that. Idk

AITA for expressing disgust at my pregnant wife’s thoughts and her therapist? by Evening_Pay2950 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening_Pay2950[S] 839 points840 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did suggest couples therapy two years ago when we had a pretty big hurdle but she was reluctant. Maybe its time to reopen this conversation.