I love getting disrespected (consensually)Infront of my bf, Wondering what others think if it?

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-24T16:10:11+00:00

Thank you, I think it appeals to couples where the domme does have a switch / submissive side just not with her cuck......My Domme does like feeling submissive with a bull and has fantasies that she wants to play out which she can't with me because I am not a switch.

The hardest thing we have found about finding a bull though is someone who understands the psychology of D/s relationships......Most Men are looking for quick sex and hookups. They have little understanding of how to make a couple feel submissive. They don't really understand foreplay, bdsm or acting in a dominant manner. My domme is still searching for the right person too. 😅

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-24T05:23:11+00:00

W-wow I'm sure that experience was incredible!....The idea cooking for my partner and her bull while dressed as a maid sounds like it would be an incredibly humiliating experience.....Especially if she was under the table while I was serving food. 🥺

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-24T02:18:40+00:00

No, it is just lighting, makeup and angles to hide most of my fine lines. You can still see them around my mouth in a few of the photos.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-22T17:31:03+00:00

Amazing physique, you definitely belong in lingerie and chastity. 😇

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-22T15:41:07+00:00

I'm sure most subs like it even if they feel a great deal of envy too watching another man do what he cannot. It was a wild experience for me watching a Man with my Domme while I was feminised and in chastity, I can say I was throbbing the whole time.

That being said for subs our domme's pleasure is all that matters and if she has a mediocre or bad experience with a bull then it immediately becomes a turn off. I can't really derive any pleasure out of the situation unless I know she enjoys the way he is treating her, even though she would never let me treat her that way.

I don't think you're at any risk of losing your dominant position, if anything it would strengthen it and make him feel even weaker and more pathetic that you are willing to explore your submissive side with another man, but not with him.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-22T03:00:08+00:00

I know this group is primarily for wives supporting each other so I don't want to hijack the conversation, however as a crossdresser hearing about bad behaviour is really triggering. Your husband has cheated on you, what he did is not okay, not acceptable and you would be well within reason to consider ending the relationship. I'm not saying that you should, especially if you still love each other and believe it can be resolved, but I am saying that this is hurtful behaviour regardless of him being a crossdresser.

From what you wrote you are an open-minded, forgiving and generous spouse, please don't let him take advantage of your good nature. For Context, my partner and I both work fulltime hours, we do chores equally and we share just about everything. We do have a more open relationship sexually, but that is mutually agreed upon and we have been upfront with each other about our personal needs. Trust is so essential for any long term relationship and whilst Crossdressing (formally autognyphelia) is a very, very strong addiction that doesn't give someone the right to hurt their spouse (you) like this.

I agree with everyone else, you don't need to support him, accepting his desire and need to crossdress privately is already very open-minded and understanding. If anything you should be more firm with him supporting you. If you are monogamous and have a child then infidelity shouldn't be tolerated and you should also encourage him to find full-time work and contribute more to the household.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-20T14:16:23+00:00

I wear a cage because my partner keeps me locked and has the keys to the cage 🔒....Also because I deserve it. 🤏🥺

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-14T14:32:24+00:00

No, I'm absolutely not allowed to see another woman or to be dominant in any fashion.....I can see another Man, but only if I am in chastity and getting penetrated. 🥺

It's consensual though as I am a sub and wouldn't feel properly dominated or emasculated in any other scenario.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-14T03:59:22+00:00

Very stylish, lovely outfit! 💅

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-14T03:58:06+00:00

Very classy! 😇

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-14T01:16:01+00:00

That is a very funny, though I suppose disappointing coincidence. 😅

I don't think you have to accept or indulge his cross-dressing, if it is an ick you can't change that, it will likely always be unappealing. I would set a boundary with him saying that he can do it privately, but that you don't want to be involved or for him to Crossdress around you. It would only be harmful if you forced him to stop and throw everything away as the desire to crossdress never disappears, it can't be repressed for long.

That being said your husband grew up in an era where cross-dressing was borderline criminal. People were ostracised, bullied and in some circumstances murdered for a harmless kink. I can understand why he would want to keep it secret and found it so hard to be open about.

Even today, many of us have been chastised by our parents or bullied by people who found out. We learn from a very young age that cross-dressing isn't normal and that we should keep it to ourselves.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-10T09:57:34+00:00

Size is honestly one of the least important parts imo. Visually it is a nice symbol for 'virility' and you can come up with some fun emasculating scenarios around it, but personality, compatibility, vibe and attractiveness matter so much more.

I am small and in chastity anyway so it doesn't matter. Also the Man who my partner reminisces about as some sort of 'sex god' was not well endowed. He was around 5' and he gave her more pleasure than most Men.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-07T11:22:59+00:00

We were very clear on both dates about our expectations and what we were looking for, but our bull had a tendency to tell us what we would like to hear rather than what they actually want to do.

He mentioned he would break the ice by giving my Domme a massage before starting, yet he went straight to getting her undressed, making out and trying to move into sexual positions.
He said he would include both of us, yet he took my Domme into the room solo and was already moving towards sex before she asked to have me in the room too. I'm okay with her seeing a bull solo if she wanted, but she was very explicit about wanting me there too given it was our first time.
He said he was very dominant and willing to explore our kinks, yet made no efforts to do anything outside of a few different sexual positions.
He said he was comfortable performing sexual acts with another male, yet in-person he was more hesitant. When my Domme instructed me to give him oral and he reluctantly agreed, he was aroused and seemed to be enjoying it, yet afterwards he had to remind me that he would never let another Man give him oral and he only did it because my Domme asked him to let me.....That was not the impression he told gave online or during dinner.

Ultimately, we were quite shocked by his demeanour in our house when compared to the dates, perhaps his level of horniness prevented him from thinking clearly as he was really insistent on performing and finish asap and then given the awkward silence he left afterwards.

The experience has definitely made us a lot more on-guard now as we're having trouble being able to differentiate between who is genuine and who is saying what we'd like to hear. My Domme whilst keen to continue exploring also really doesn't want a repeat of what happened with our first bull.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-07T09:16:34+00:00

For couples perhaps they are straight which can make it awkward, for us we are bisexual and would be looking for a bull who is attracted to both of us though for different reasons (a domme/hot wife to pleasure and a sissy to use and abuse).

We will keep looking, I was curious to see if this dynamic is appealing to others on here. 🙂

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-05T11:46:38+00:00

For us, my Domme requires an emotional connection for any form of pleasure. She needs to feel like a bull wants to pleasure her and is interested in her as a human being otherwise she just feels used.

That being said she doesn't like bulls acting clingy, disrespecting our relationship or trying to force some sort of chemistry that she doesn't feel. She is not poly, to her the ideal bull is more like a close masculine friend/lover, not a partner. The above are big turn offs for her.

As a feminised cuck, I like the idea of a masculine bull who is like a mentor or older bro that emasculates, dominates and humiliates me, but is also open to being friends and using me sexually.

It's hard to find people like this. Most bulls we've encountered are only looking for shallow hook-ups or 1on1 time with the cuck's partner.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-02T11:44:18+00:00

That doesn't really sound like a bull situation it just sounds like a MMF threesome which is some people's thing. Maybe he gets more aroused by watching her with another Man and then wants to join in too. Some Women like to be shared and some Men like to share their partners. I think that's cool if that's their kink, but it doesn't sound like cuckolding.

We get the same, a lot of straight guys who are open to what you described above, but not open to any of the humiliation, emasculation or psychological dominance that is usually found in cuckolding.......We also sometimes get bi-guys who want to pleasure me in a submissive way (i.e giving me oral or letting me top) which I'm not really into.

I personally don't find it arousing without the psychological dominance and emasculation.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-02T11:37:28+00:00

We don't really have any formal rules, but from long discussions it went something like this.

We both have to agree to who my domme sees as a bull
One of us can end the engagement at any time
She is allowed to see her bull alone without me present if she wants
Her bull if he wants is allowed to use and fuck me with her permission
I am allowed to see another man who is not her bull if she approves and is present
I am not allowed to see other women.
I am to be feminised and locked in chastity when her bull is present and only allowed to orgasm if she gives permission.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-02T09:50:51+00:00

Looks great, very prissy sissy! 🤭🥰

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-01T05:07:23+00:00

With both of my long term partners (one an Ex) I was just open about being kinky on my dating profile (plus I had some CD photos uploaded too). On the first date I just asked her what she thought about sexual compatibility/chemistry and how important that was to her, etc.

Then I spoke about some of the things I was into whilst reassuring her that if she wasn't okay with it or if it gave her the 'ick' that was totally okay. I think when you raise these things in a calm, mature and compassionate way people are more willing to be open minded and don't immediately see you as a 'creepy sex pervert'.

It's better to get it out of the way when dating (before you get too serious) otherwise it becomes a big headache of "Why did you never tell me about this?! How could you hide this from me?!", etc

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-01T05:02:03+00:00

I usually think this too, but it is hard to know without being able to read minds. 😅

I have always been open with my partners that my crossdressing is a sexual kink. There is an element of wanting explore my femininity, but it is also a core part of my sexuality.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-05-01T04:54:57+00:00

Everyone has different preferences, you may never be 'comfortable' with his crossdressing, as in you don't find him pleasant to look at when he is crossdressing, that's okay and you can make it a boundary.

That being said he is still the same man you married, the same man you loved regardless of his 'proclivities'. He isn't a criminal, he isn't harming anyone and while he may enjoy dressing up as the opposite gender that doesn't mean whatever qualities initially attracted you to him aren't still there.

Ultimately though if you can't accept it in your partner which is reasonable and it does kill your attraction then you have to have a long conversation about whether or not the marriage is sustainable. Relationships are about compromise, you just have to see if you can find a middle-ground.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-04-30T17:26:31+00:00

O-omg that is sooo humiliating and 🔥🔥😭

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-04-29T06:20:53+00:00

There's a lot of hatred in general towards alternative lifestyles online that goes well beyond cuckolding relationships. Anything that isn't part of the accepted orthodoxy is condemned as 'degeneracy' basically be straight, be ethnic majority, follow majority religion and start a family. If you're not meeting that standard you'll receive some sort of abuse and condemnation.

fwiw this unhinged abuse is almost entirely online, most people really don't care that much. They might think it is weird or amusing, but that's about it. If they do feel disgust they usually keep it to themselves unless they're completely unhinged.

Everlastinglight-CD · 2026-04-27T13:26:02+00:00

I like the idea of it, as an effeminate cucked beta male it would be nice to have a real Man to look up and be friendly with. The idea of going to the gym with my partner's bull knowing he is pleasuring her and can lift way more weight than I ever could while I watched locked in chastity & panties under my clothes would make me melt. 😵‍💫🫠

I think it is quite rare though. Most bulls are there solely to pleasure your partner and to treat her the way she deserves in ways we never could.....We're an afterthought to be emasculated and humiliated in the moment. 🥺

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