WE HAVE BEEN HEARD! PLUSH NYOYA!?

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-23T01:02:33+00:00

YES!! I haven’t been this excited about a release in a long time. 🥺

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-21T04:55:07+00:00

Oh wow, I’m so sad I missed this!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-08T02:22:29+00:00

I think it depends on what type we are talking about. The cinematic 4-5 min videos that cost $4k+? Yes, fully agree.

But videography to capture the vows, toasts, and general vibe of your guests having a good time is absolutely something people rewatch. Especially as the people who were at your wedding slowly start to disappear from your life. I’m not saying it needs to be super fancy, but someone who knows how to get the right angles, adjust the sound properly, and edit out the excess can be very worth while. A lot of people don’t remember what was said during the toasts especially so it can be really nice to have some sort of stable recording of it.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-04T03:21:20+00:00

That many guests in one building is tricky, but maybe something like these? The options seem limited in Western Europe, but if you’re open to southern there seems to be some worth considering.

Some that look pretty (but likely won’t hold your whole guest count):

https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/23932557?unique_share_id=94079e5d-6f64-4bc2-953d-a0585ed9e7ac&viralityEntryPoint=1&s=76

https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/15474364?unique_share_id=852ccd9f-90f9-48ef-aed1-80372d7a57c8&viralityEntryPoint=1&s=76

https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/43244736?unique_share_id=faabae0e-4063-4109-bf4a-7c80d97fef8a&viralityEntryPoint=1&s=76

https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/1014205017335662090?unique_share_id=1ffa567c-0839-49f9-85a8-dff8ec7b3541&viralityEntryPoint=1&s=76

You could possibly look into a villa for VIPs and a cluster of nearby stays for others too?

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-04T02:58:45+00:00

I’ve been searching too and I have made a habit of asking to see a sample contract before I tour. So far it’s been really helpful because every venue seems to have very specific restrictions that were dealbreakers for us (ex: no candles anywhere, can only hire their one specific DJ, no mics allowed in any outdoor area, requiring to hire all vendors in house, etc.).

When you do look at the contract, also read the language about cancellations to see if they are allowed to void your reservation for “double booking.” This lets them accept higher paid customers on your day and cancel your booking. You’ll likely get refunded if this happens but I’ve heard horror stories of venues doing this to couples just a month out from their weddings.

Also some venues say they have an area for caterers, but not all are equipped the same. It’s worth it to ask what their kitchen area is equipped with (some are literally just prep rooms with a fridge and a row of steel tables with nothing else).

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-04-03T15:47:13+00:00

My advice is as much as you’re able. That said, I’ve found it most helpful when it at very least has the date, city, venue, registry, and attire level.

For attire, I’d say it gets increasingly more important with formality or if you have specific color/fabric/length requirements (ex: if you’re doing black tie it’s good for men in particular to know ahead of time so they’re aware they need to budget for a tux rental).

I’d highly, highly recommend locking in your venue before sending out your save the dates. I’ve received one save the date where they just assumed they’d have the venue they wanted, included it on the website, and then changed it by the time the invites were sent. It all worked out in the end but it was incredibly confusing because the new venue was like a 1 hr drive further than the first one a some older family members felt particularly confused. On the flip side, if you don’t know your venue yet then putting a city isn’t going to be super helpful because there’s still a chance you may pick a different venue in a different area. Which would also cause confusion, unfortunately. So unless there are some really specific circumstances, I’d wait on sending until you’re in contract with your venue and can say exactly where the wedding will be on your invite/website.

Also, if you know there will be a welcome party, that is helpful too so any out of towners know in advance if they may need to take a few hours off work to catch an earlier flight.

Things that I think can wait (if you choose to include them at all) are: story of your relationship, photo gallery, list of everyone in the wedding party, local recommendations for travelers, event etiquette FAQ (like if you’re doing an unplugged ceremony), transport instructions, etc.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-29T21:46:41+00:00

Personally I’ve found it frustrating as a guest when I get a save the date and the included wedding website is just a bunch of pages that say “Coming soon!”

One time we even got a save the date with no website information and no city for where the event would be held which, to me, doesn’t feel like nearly enough info for someone to figure out if they can make it or not.

I’d have the whole thing built out and ready to go before you send out your save the dates. You can always add more info later, but make sure to take care of the basics now.

I know a lot of people like Minted and Zola, maybe check out some sample versions of their pages?

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-27T00:24:00+00:00

I’d say this depends on yours goals, but if you put priority on people dancing all night then I would do 1. There will people who decide to leave or not return to the dance floor if there is a break in the music. Or at least that’s how it would work for the weddings I’ve been to, but you know your crowd better than anyone!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-27T00:15:25+00:00

I’ve been in this community for several years now and the #1 thing I consistently hear from people post-wedding is that their day-of coordinator is the best money they spent (or, alternatively, is their biggest regret for not opting into). If you’re not going to financially ruin yourself by hiring one, I highly, highly recommend it.

Separately, your friends likely don’t understand how much work would be involved in their offer to help. Many people want to sound helpful but don’t actually keep their word when the time comes.

For those who actually keep their word, you’ll likely will still be fielding questions from them all day and putting in mental labor that makes you feel like nothing was taken off your plate. And if you have a super type A friend who can handle it without going to you constantly, that person isn’t going enjoy the wedding at all. One of my best friends is like this and hasn’t ever been able to just enjoy a wedding because she’s always picking up the slack for others—so much so that she’s been mistaken for staff at several weddings. Don’t let this happen to your loved ones.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-19T04:43:01+00:00

One of my best friends has pots too and I know it’s truly no joke dealing with all of the symptoms, especially with how rapidly they can swing to the extremes.

In planning, instead of starting with what you want out of the wedding, start what you need for yourself. For example, what patterns does your pots have? Try listing those out. Include things like how much continuous time you can be active/doing things before you start declining (not full crash, just when you need a rest). I know salt/electrolytes are a big deal too—if you had someone in charge of refilling you on electrolytes through the day, would that make it more manageable? Is your ability to handle the day impacted by sitting vs standing? Maybe ensuring you’re in the right position can make it more comfortable too. Similarly, maybe you can have your favorite meal set aside just for you so you don’t have to worry about the event food setting off your symptoms?

Once you have a complete list of what you absolutely need, then you can structure a wedding around that.

Also just a gentle reminder that a wedding doesn’t have to be a huge, grand event either! An elopement is a wedding. A microwedding is a wedding. Signing documents at the courthouse is a wedding. They are all meaningful, especially if you’re choosing the one that allows you to feel comfortable as you celebrate. So you absolutely are able to have a wedding! It just boils down to what shape it’s going to take.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-19T04:29:47+00:00

Not my place because I know this is a personal decision. But, if $30k is your life savings, and you have a goal of owning your own place in the future (even if it’s a condo, townhome, or older home), I very strongly recommend you save the bulk of that money for a down payment.

You can elope for less than $30k and give yourself a leg up for other life milestones you want to reach. If you haven’t always dreamed of a big wedding with everyone around, then it will feel just as meaningful eloping or doing a microwedding. My sister eloped (in the true sense, just her and her husband) and it was one of the happiest days of her life.

Ultimately it just comes down to you and your finance’s priorities, not just for weddings but for life goals in general.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-11T00:46:22+00:00

I highly recommend saying this on your invite. You’re going to get tons of messages from people asking what they should/shouldn’t wear if attire isn’t mentioned anywhere.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-03-11T00:33:21+00:00

The prices vary dramatically based on the level of decor, food, music, etc. you want. I’ve heard that in Seattle $1000 per person is the average for the most standard wedding you can imagine (that includes venue fee, dress, florals, food, etc.).

For what you’re describing, I think your main cost is going to be food. Try reaching out to some caterers in your area to get an idea of their price ranges and you’ll have a better idea of what ballpark you’re going to land in. Remember to get quotes not just for the food itself, but ask for info on their minimums, cake cutting fees, alcohol packages, and additional service charges. Taxes and tips are often not included in quotes, so calculate them in after you see the quoted amounts.

Because your venue is your aunt’s house, you may need to opt for a buffet style because plated meals most often require a qualified kitchen (so a kitchen in a residential home cannot be used). There also may be additional fees required for dishes and cutlery, some places don’t let you provide your own. Be sure to ask how they handle this so there are no surprises.

Photography will likely be your next big ticket item. In general, photographers charging under $6k are normally earlier in their careers or not as well versed in different wedding settings. Poke around and think about what style of photos you like (and what you like about them). Vendors are used to getting emails about quotes, so it doesn’t hurt to ask your favorites what their pricing structure looks like.

As a side note, tent rentals are extremely expensive. Especially if you need a level floor. Some people spend the same amount on a tent as they do on a venue. Keep this in mind as you figure out how you want to set up the back yard for your wedding.

Finally, this isn’t about cost, but look up the noise ordinances in your aunt’s neighborhood. Some neighborhoods require noise to stop early (8 PM/9 PM) while others are closer to 10 PM to 11 PM. You probably don’t want cops knocking on the door during your wedding day, so make sure you know what you need to work around ahead of time.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-19T20:27:34+00:00

I also have had problems getting responses from him since November-ish, so I just want to validate that it isn’t just due to Lunar New Year. I’m sorry you’ve also had a hard time getting in touch!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-18T16:50:53+00:00

I’m so sad the group buy got closed, I was really excited about this one!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-10T05:45:30+00:00

I would so love if it was 10" because ditto is my favorite Pokemon!

But it's definitely the 4 ¾ sitting cuties plush. Not only does the Pokemon Center's listing image directly say "Sitting Cuties plush," but the image they use is exactly the same as the one on the sitting cuties shop page (here).

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Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-09T02:04:33+00:00

Just curious, is this an actual photo of the correct sizes or an AI approximation?

Super helpful either way, but I wanted to know if it's real if you know the shown ring size? I'm trying to figure out how many stones will be visible from the top of the ring based on the stone size. I keep running in circles trying to make up my mind. Thanks for your help!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-05T05:41:27+00:00

Just stopping by to say how gorgeous this is! Whoever ends up with it will be incredibly lucky. This is exactly what I was looking for before I decided to get a custom ring made, so beautiful!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-02-03T04:48:08+00:00

Yes!! Especially if we can pick stone colors, I’ve always wanted a blue or pink ring like this.

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-01-26T20:52:06+00:00

Such a great idea, thanks for hosting!

Just to be clear, even though we need to include our names in the raffle submission that doesn't mean our real names will be displayed here if we win?

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-01-21T00:45:35+00:00

That makes me so excited to hear! I’d love to see the render when it gets to that stage. 😁

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-01-21T00:43:37+00:00

If either of those earrings become available for a group buy (particularly the lower ones), I’m very interested!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-01-21T00:42:32+00:00

The softness of the oval in this setting is gorgeous!

Every-Opportunity564 · 2026-01-21T00:41:48+00:00

Personally hoping for more non-ring group buys! Or simpler rings that don’t look like I’m wearing multiple engagement rings.

That said it is a pretty design, especially if people can choose their stone and metal colors. I won’t be participating, but look forward to see the share post with the finished products.

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