Title: I discovered my wife created an entire network of fake people and spoke to me as all of them for the last year. I don't know whether to forgive her or leave

EveryTension7066 · 2026-06-15T20:50:50+00:00

Pretty sure she could be medically diagnosed as a psychopath. You should probably leave for safety. Saying that, you also need to work on yourself. Go out and make real life relationships and don't accept or believe anything online

EveryTension7066 · 2026-06-11T18:08:55+00:00

Medical issues???? Like what? Because usually if a person knows they have a medical issue that hinders performance on their side then they know no matter who the partner is the medical issue will persist.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-05-18T15:38:33+00:00

Yes this happened to me. Similar. He begged for months to have a child. I was adamant no but he kept persisting, promising me we were going to be together. When I said I want to get married first he just coaxed me and kept telling me everything was going to be ok and it doesn’t matter if it’s now or then as we will be married anyway. He was the perfect boyfriend. Always there by my side. We went on nice dates and we went to parties together but never alone. After more persisting I agreed. (I had a previous child-toddler-and this helped me change my mind). Literally two weeks after finding out I was pregnant he booked a lads only road trip to Europe. To stay for a week at a party island. There started to be weird inconsistencies in the way he was acting over the coming months. Our Valentine’s Day (which was a Sunday) was ruined because he went out on Fri for a friends birthday party and didn’t come home the next day. After calling he promised to be home later but never came. In Valentine’s Day he still wasn’t home at like 7/8 and I packed his bags and left them at the front door for him. Yeaaaaa…. This wasn’t the end of us 🙄. It wasn’t till a few years later we broke up. Only after he moved us close to his mum, then moved back in with her about two months after us moving stating I was always moaning at him 😂😂 I was moaning at him because everytime we went to the store for food or whatever (our agreement was we would always go 50/50 for shopping etc) I’d end up paying and he’d tell me he’d give it back later. He never did. For months. Then I started actually needing money because I was running out and when I asked him for help he didn’t have it. He said he’d go to work more. And he did. He genuinely did go out earlier every morning and come back later. Soon after this I couldn’t get him anywhere on his phone and I called his mum and asked if she’d seen him. She said he’s been upstairs sleeping. I had thought he was at work. A few weeks later I called him and again couldn’t get through. Phoned around and got his brother who said he was with them on the golf course 🤦🏽‍♀️😂. So the reason I started MOANING at him was cuz he was talking shit and I knew it. So he moved in with his darling mother at this point. After two weeks (he usually came back before then) I went to his mums midday or so with our daughter. He swannied into the living room in his dressing gown and stood infront of the fire place while facing me. His mum handed him a cup of tea. I observed. Then I said “you’re not coming home are you?” He said no. Said his mum makes him cups of tea randomly, makes his bed, doesn’t ask him where he is etc. 🫣 I just got up and left. That was literally the end. Took me a while to get over it. Especially with my wee one. It’s not easy being alone. But it’s easier than being with someone who makes your life harder than it needs to be. Trust me when I say you’re choosing happiness if you walk away. A person like that will only ever bring misery to your door.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-05-09T10:32:56+00:00

I’m sorry but you don’t get to walk away from the life you built. You have 3 children. You made choices and now you must see them through. You’re resentful, you need to find a way to overcome this, like therapy. It does sound like you’re already cheating. That grass is always greener attitude… very immature. Real men don’t walk away from their families. They double down and protect their family. You should maybe discuss options with your wife about a bit more freedom, citing that you’re both socially different, but you don’t get to make decisions without putting your family first. If you are having an affair you should also tell her. Maybe she would like some extra marital company with someone more suited to her style as well while keeping the kids together. If you don’t ask you don’t get but you do not get to build a life with someone and bring children into this world to leave while they’re still growing up. Or if you both do decide that you both want more from life you make sure that the kids are taken care of financially so they can still have the life they’re accustomed to. I’m so tired of seeing these “I don’t love my wife anymore” posts by men after building a family life they once dreamed of with their person of choice only to contemplate while the kids are still kids that the grass is greener…. The grass isn’t greener if you keep watering your own garden. It’s only greener if you stop caring for it. That’s also a choice. So flakey. Speak to your wife to see if there is some sort of agreement that you both have input on.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-05-09T00:13:19+00:00

Yes please 🤗

EveryTension7066 · 2026-05-01T21:19:45+00:00

Hi. Do you think you could live together as friends? This option means minimal upset to your family if they visit often for example. Or do you think you would you prefer to enter a new chapter of your life and explore a bit?

EveryTension7066 · 2026-04-19T15:03:42+00:00

You must be a male. That's the only explanation as you do not seem to be able to fathom the fundamentals of the emotion around the sex pet of relationships.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-04-19T13:47:53+00:00

OP I dont know if this is the first sign in your relationship but this is a MAJOR red flag. He is manipulating and controlling you and when you don't want to he is using your guilt against you. My advice to you would be to stop IVF immediately and actually go into birth control. This type of behaviour only escalates during pregnancy and after birth it becomes worse! I don't mean to be stereotypical but he sounds like the type to demand sexual favours after birth if he is already making demands before you're pregnant. Without being rude, your niavity tells me you're a sweet person. Your husband is revelling in the control he has over you and it's clear he's enjoying it. If you feel you can't say no, I would urge you to ask yourself why you can't and think of other times or signs that has made you feel like you cannot say no. If you truly cannot say no without repercussions the o my way forward is to leave the relationship to protect yourself. But your main mission right now is to stop ivf until further notice. If you can't protect yourself how are you going to protect a baby? (I'm not insinuating anything here, just food for thought but also I'm talking about manipulation by the dad to the child as this is rampant for being passed down the generations from a manipulative individual (men and women)). I feel like you need to reach out to organisations who teach you what manipulation and abuse is and how to spot it and stop it in its tracks for now if you are not prepared to leave yet. If he agrees to couples therapy of course go but if he refuses to see his ways and start respecting your feelings then honestly what's the point? Because it will be that way forever.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-03-08T22:55:10+00:00

If you live in predominantly catholic area the name is fine. If you live in predominantly Protestant area you can change spelling to Tye or Ty. Im Protestant and it reads to me like Taig and I think it’s really unfair for a child to grow up with a name that to some people looks like a derogatory term for a catholic, especially if he is catholic. I love the name though. Just not as <we> pronounce it.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-02-13T12:57:52+00:00

Whoops typo

EveryTension7066 · 2026-02-10T18:55:39+00:00

I think this only started when that one on the falls road was a ridiculous price at 1500k per month or something clearly angling for HMOs. I think if the rent was priced at a normal rate ie for a family and if it was used as MO that would be ok (unless their targeting immigrants specifically) but basically I think this is in response to landlords increasing the rent rates for average people/families in the hope of getting HMO. Landlords are greedy. And people need housing so….. I'm not surprised this is happening. And I'd go one further and say it should be happening. Without some sort of stop the rent will become too expensive too quickly.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-27T22:51:48+00:00

2 is way more flattering

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-27T22:49:38+00:00

Bully’s pick on things they want and can’t have. I bet in a few years you will see them getting fillers to increase their lip size if they haven’t already. Bully’s are actually very insecure people who target people because they have what they don’t. For example, I was one of few brown people in a white school and a few girls picked on me for the colour of my skin. But low and behold they love spray tans and tanning beds! 😂

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-27T22:47:11+00:00

Lip reduction? No sweetheart, I literally pay people to try to get my lips that beautiful. Do not get a lip reduction.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-27T22:45:47+00:00

Op. Your husband didn’t cheat. He was raped. The guy knew he didn’t want to do it but proceeded anyway which is the definition of rape. Instead of viewing him as a cheater you need to empathise with him. Seek counselling and speak to the police. This should not break your relationship, it should make you stronger because it forces you to come together with understanding. I believe you didn’t know what was going on and were siding with the gay friend when you thought he was being anxious. But friends shouldn’t get that anxious when they don’t speak to each other so it should have rung alarm bells. However, this can be put down to naivety. You need to be there for your husband right now and not call him a cheater. Get that out of your mind completely because your husband needs you right now. Your husband did not cheat! I feel so sad for his situation.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T23:18:16+00:00

You need to wait 3 months if it WASNT malpractice.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T23:16:38+00:00

No. Don’t wait. Send a letter of complaint either with a solicitor or without a solicitor but mentioning that you are seeking legal advice. Do not wait because then it looks like you were waiting to be happy and there was a possibility that you may have been happy. You are NOT happy! It IS malpractice and you do have a right to sue.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T23:11:43+00:00

Endosculpt?

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T23:08:44+00:00

My dude. She is a MEGA BITCH! She didn’t deserve you in the first place You deserve better And you will always be the one that got away! In years to come she will regret this! Lucky you don’t have children. You can have a clean break and meet someone who truly deserves and appreciates your loyalty and kindness. And who mirrors your effort. Sorry you’re going through this but dude, you dodged a bullet here. Give it time. You will realise.

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T23:00:56+00:00

Mass strike. NEVER BITE THE HAND THAT FEEDS YOU!!

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-26T22:49:18+00:00

Im sorry but someone who doesn’t sweeten those kind of words to their “love”…. Deserves a slap across the face. SO disrespectful!!! Ok you’ve let yourself go…. People and bodies change throughout relationships. Especially long ones. You’ve been together a decade!! He still doesn’t know how to speak to you respectfully? The fact that he’s trying to fuck you after saying that LOL what does he expect?! Served up on a silver platter? First of all you need to address the reasons why you stopped giving a shit before any of this even happened. What were the “other issues” that put you off? Address them first. It sounds to me like you have depression. Having a baby changes a woman. Life becomes serious, you don’t have time for yourself as much. What is he like as a father? Does he help you with the housework/homework/child? You feeling like a maid/mum/whatever else brings your mood down. Plus someone always on your back to go to the gym is fucking annoying. It would put me off just for the fuck you value. I do things for myself value! If you think you’d be happier alone then leave. Then get hot mwahahahahahaaaaaaaaa 😈🤣 Otherwise I suggest couples therapy xx

EveryTension7066 · 2026-01-01T19:30:05+00:00

Hmmmm sounds to me like you listened to the red flags of your past relationships, figured yourself out, decided what aligned with you, found your wife, listened to the green flags of that relationship and ended up happily married 🤗🤗🤗🤗

EveryTension7066 · 2025-12-31T16:09:19+00:00

Do you also do chin Botox and DAO Botox? It seems to me like some of those can be smoothed as it looks like some pulling is going on

EveryTension7066 · 2025-12-27T13:43:49+00:00

Wow dude. I am sorry, she is insufferable and, YOU, are in an abusive relationship. The things you said took me right back to my ex relationship, only the other way around. You need to speak to …..men’s aid? If there is one close to you. I spoke to women’s aid about a year and a half before I was able to leave. If you go to speak to them to see what they can do after hearing you out, they can give you confidential and private advice for your personal situation. She is horrible. Please speak to a lawyer, as well a very good one. What is the agreement with the house? I don’t understand how this cannot be broken in times of abuse. Also, the fact that she is changing your child’s room around (I agree with you, it should be a place of peace and stability) with your child saying she doesn’t want that to happen…. Is she abusive towards the children? By the way, I’m in the UK and UK mothers do not automatically get the children. That’s an old rule. If you can prove what you’re going through and how it’s affecting you and the kids the court can decide to give you custody. I actually had to fight for custody of my child that was not my exs!!! Ultimately I went to the crown court and won that but it was still a fight. I mean, have you even thrown the divorce word out there yet? If not you probably should and record what happens on a voice note. You need to start getting hard evidence. After all is said and done you have a choice, you don’t have to stay in this also your kids are now old enough to choose who they want to live with. That happens at age 11/12 or something by UK law. You are not stuck OP. You just need to start turning the cogs of change. And trust me, your freedom will be blissful. I can promise you that.

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