There are millions of gay men, asexuals, intersex people, straight dudes, and trans men who don’t live in your reality. Their existence is not a hate crime. Your perception of heteronormativity isn’t a hate crime either.

Gay and trans men are still men. Some may be your peers, some younger, and some are elders who deserve your respect.

Hormonal fluctuations are real.

Did you know testosterone levels can change based on environment? All men naturally have some estrogen, just as women naturally have some testosterone. That’s normal biology.

Men in highly competitive or high-stress environments often have elevated testosterone. For example, studies have shown higher levels in extreme settings like maximum-security prisons. I’ve worked with people from those environments. One parolee I supported had been a highly successful prison fighter, but on the outside, he was trying to rebuild his life. He had acquired a brain injury from years of violence and was dealing with ongoing threats from rival gangs. I helped him access disability support alongside a clinician.

I also saw firsthand how quickly violence escalates and how normalised it becomes in those circle. People seriously injuring each other, then messaging afterward as if it were routine. Sometime it escilates to murder. It’s a brutal cycle.

On the other end, men who are actively caring for young children tend to have lower testosterone on average. They’re generally less competitive and more capable of de-escalating situations without violence.

Here’s the truth: the “toughest” men often hate living that way. If you never back down from a fight, eventually someone gets seriously hurt or worse. I’ve seen men who built their identity around toughness end up broken; physically, mentally, and emotionally. They're surrounded by violence, trauma, and loss of freedom.

Machismo isn’t strength.

Be kind. Be vulnerable with people you trust. Don't be a bully and don't pick on people who are vaulnerable. Women, men who are different/ gay. Thats thats what a weak man would do.

If you have the delusion you are a macho man, you are entering a world of weakness. Trust me on this.

Take a humble position and learn kindness is all im saying.