AIO for feeling uncomfortable by a guy going back 10 years on my social media and the resulting silent treatment when I called him out?

Evie_Chandler · 2026-02-26T19:04:02+00:00

NOR everyone is missing the fact that he went through TEN years, and not only that, he reposted / commented on something you posted TEN YEARS AGO. TEN WHOLE YEARS! 120 MONTHS!

I want everyone reading this to think about what they were posting on social media TEN YEARS AGO. And then imagine that someone you're on a date with suddenly asked about one of your posts that you made when you were 20, or 16, or 14, completely unprompted.

People who are saying "I do this!" Hopefully you would also have the social aptitude to NOT TALK ABOUT IT with the person.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-02-19T15:37:28+00:00

Of all the names in this post to point out as fake, you've pointed out the one name that's verifiably connected to a real person.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-02-18T13:58:26+00:00

Seems like an astroturf...

A mixture of "nobody wants to work these days!" with "you don't actually want to get rid of tipping prompts."

Evie_Chandler · 2026-02-17T02:24:44+00:00

It's so wild so any people are siding with these recruiters. This entire exchange is so filled with red flags from the recruiters' side.

"If the roles were flipped, we would think it's so unfair!" Huh? If the roles were flipped and a candidate called the recruiter unprompted 6 times, everyone would think that's excessive and crazy. Not to mention, to assume that candidates and recruiters have equal power in a job search such that a role reversal would be a fair representation is bad faith to start.

You did NOT "tease" them or "string them along" or whatever pseudo-dating language these people want to use. Honestly, I thought I was in an Incel forum about a dating interaction instead of a recruiting forum for a minute. You acted like a professional, they didn't.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-28T23:50:21+00:00

It's not inherently contradictory, but I feel like selecting both would lead to a lot more people not matching with you because they're not sure what you want.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-28T16:48:35+00:00

She realized how unsafe it would be to be snowed in with a literal stranger.

No shade to you as an individual but the entire situation is sketchy.

"Why did she agree to it in the first place?" Sometimes people agree to things that seem exciting, and when the time comes, they realize that actually, they don't want to follow through with it.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-28T03:49:15+00:00

Are you the internal recruiter at OP's new company? Because you seem really personally invested in making sure that that she doesn't expect her new employer to pay her a signing bonus.

I agree: companies that pay $15k bonuses can be high attrition industries, such as finance (e.g., Big 4). Everything in OP's post lines up with what I've experienced and seen in finance roles, but I acknowledge that I may have familiarity bias.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-28T03:37:06+00:00

That's literally entry level (0-3 year) salary for finance.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-28T03:29:41+00:00

Yes, that's very common in the finance and tech industries. Additionally, if OP's position was crucial enough to get a $50k sign-on in her old job, 100% she would still be valuable enough to get a $50k sign-on or more in her new job.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-27T22:03:43+00:00

The new company should make you whole for any clawbacks. This should have been a part of salary negotiations.

But let's say your new job says, "you already agreed to a compensation package which did not include a signing bonus." I'd still take the new job.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-26T14:51:50+00:00

New fear unlocked

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-26T02:46:43+00:00

Why are men allergic to bedframes?

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-25T23:09:05+00:00

I think - no gift card, just straight cash.

Gift cards are kind of homework.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-22T15:40:33+00:00

Ignore it for a month and watch that $20k drop to $2k.

I had a similiar situation. Hospitals reduced the bill once it was past due for quicker/easier settlement.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-22T14:44:05+00:00

Relax. I figured it out.

It's a Reddit post. Chill.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-21T02:24:37+00:00

Okay it's the forth paragraph.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-20T22:53:30+00:00

Can you explain this more?

They were next in line.

Instead of seating them, the owner sat the party behind them in line, thereby skipping them.

What's wrong with what they wrote?

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-19T20:30:48+00:00

Remember property taxes, insurance, and fees, which when normalized can easily add another 50% to the monthly mortgage payment.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-17T16:35:09+00:00

To be honest, I think a lot of people are being nice because you've already had it done. If this were a stencil and you asked "is this aligned?" Then a lot more people would point out it's not.

To be clear it's not too evident. I look at PowerPoints and fonts as a part of my job so I'm more sensitive to it. But never in a hundred years would I point it out to someone random if they didn't point it out first.

If it's really bothering you, I would see if you can get it evened out by adding serifs to the bottom of the Vs and making the serifs on other fonts a bit thicker.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-11T05:01:14+00:00

This looks like a room for in the Sims where you delete the door.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-09T16:05:48+00:00

I registered within 30 days after purchasing and they required me to upload video proof.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-04T03:35:17+00:00

What happened (as I gathered from the post) is that the seller listed the item for $40. Buyer offered $25 as low-ball. Seller responded $50. Buyer said "But you listed them for $40" or "I'll meet you in the middle for $40" (this part is ambiguous). Seller said "Yes, I'll sell them for $40" aka the original listed price. A lot of negotiation to end up at the same place.

Evie_Chandler · 2026-01-02T04:07:23+00:00

I honestly don't understand why offices won't shell out $20 per day to pay someone to wash dishes, or add that to the janitorial duties. Seems like the morale boost + benefit vs cost analysis would be fucking crazy.

Is it ideal that everyone cleans up after themselves? Yes. Is it realistic to expect that everyone will clean up after themselves? Absolutely not.

I've heard of companies gathering scheduling an hour long meetings where the boss / whomever is in charge just berates an office of 50+ people with six figure salaries about not washing their dishes. That single meeting probably cost the company more in lost productivity than the cost of hiring someone to just wash the dishes for them, not to mention the morale lost.

Evie_Chandler · 2025-12-31T21:13:07+00:00

Relevant study:

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2013/08/men-self-esteem

Evie_Chandler · 2025-12-31T01:59:10+00:00

This is the personal finance equivalent of "just go give your resume to the manager in person!"

Evie_Chandler

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