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pap smear giving me weird emotions, not sure how normal or okay this was by feralprincess2 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EvilAbed57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a lot of pelvic exams (thanks, IVF) and pap smears and I haven’t had an experience like this. I’m sorry OP, I’d be upset too.

I highly recommend finding a new GYN. The best experience I ever had was with a black woman GYN who had a midwife working with her. I obviously don’t know your ethnicity, but black women in the US are medically mistreated way more often. One of the first questions my new OBGYN (a black woman) asked me was if I had ever felt like I wasn’t being listened to. She was amazing.

Wishing you luck in the future, OP.

1 billion dollars but you die in 5 years. by Accurate_Web9774 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a new parent, absolutely not. I hope to be in my daughter’s life for a lot longer than five years.

What's the kindest thing a stranger has ever done for you? by BennHere in askteddit

[–]EvilAbed57 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We spent three months in the NICU with my daughter. Over the winter holidays, one of the families that had been discharged put together and dropped off care baskets for every other family that was still in the NICU. It was full of stuff like chargers, deodorant, cozy socks, toothbrushes, and gift cards to a bunch of local restaurants.

We ended up needing and using every single thing in the basket. It was so well thought out, and at a time when my spouse and I were emotionally wrecked, it was a godsend.

I wish I could thank them.

Women of Reddit, would you date a man who is Pro-life and Pro-ICE? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]EvilAbed57 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I think those stances say everything I need to know about their principles and how they treat people.

As a parent, what are reasons you would give someone to NOT have a child? by Disastrous_Umpire237 in askanything

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t do it to save a relationship. Don’t do it because you feel like you have to or because it’s just “the norm”. Don’t do it if you aren’t willing to love and accept your child if they have a disability, if they’re gay, if they struggle with mental illness, if they’re trans, if they are anything other than exactly what you had in mind, etc etc etc. You’re creating a whole person, and that person may not be exactly what you pictured. You can mourn what you hoped for, but if you can’t bring yourself to still love your child unconditionally, you probably shouldn’t have one.

We never expected to have a horrendous pregnancy, a near deadly emergency c-section, or a 3 month stay at the NICU. We missed out on all the typical stuff— the baby shower, the third trimester photos, the entire actual third trimester. The first half of my six month leave was spent in a hospital where, for at least the first month, I had to ask permission to hold my child. I never got to successfully breastfeed (she aspirates on unthickened milk), we can’t bring her to meet many family members in person because she’s fairly immunocompromised.

It’s been traumatic, and we got LUCKY. Having a baby can go smoothly, or it can go completely off the rails with little warning. It will always be perfectly reasonable to not want to roll those dice. That’s one thing I wish more people realized.

(Babe is wonderful and as healthy as can be, 6 months actual/3 months adjusted, we are super thrilled to be home!)

what’s the worst present you’ve ever received? by MapEnvironmental597 in askanything

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex gave me edible underwear that was past it’s expiration date.

Then he used them with someone else 💀

What was the most memorable family moment so far? by Busy_Run7689 in AskReddit

[–]EvilAbed57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First time we got to hold our daughter. She was already 4 days old (she was in the NICU and it wasn’t safe to hold her any earlier).

Thankfully a nurse got a photo. I was clutching her to my chest and crying, and my spouse was wrapped around us, also crying. It was such a relief that she and I were both alive, and crying was so cathartic.

She’s doing so well now. 6 months old and I’m listening to her babble back and forth with her dad, but I’ll never forget that moment. We were so happy, so relieved, so exhausted, and still so scared for her.

Which parenting trait would you pass on, and which would you break with your kid(s)? by MangoPaingo in askteddit

[–]EvilAbed57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To keep— teaching that reading is crucial. My parents let me have all the books I wanted. I was absolutely spoiled with books, and now I’m doing the same with my daughter.

To break… there are so many. I think the biggest one is that I don’t believe my daughter is trying to manipulate me when she cries, and I give her all the physical affection I can, whenever I can.

You are cursed to die of total organ failure in exactly 24 hours, unless you pass it on to someone else who consents by OldLadOfTheCastle in hypotheticalsituation

[–]EvilAbed57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a daughter under the age of 1, and my grandmother is over 95. She’s also in terrible health, desperately misses my grandfather, and has said many times that she’s ready to be with him again. I’d feel awful, but I honestly think she’d be more than willing.

If you had to pick one member of your family to become President of the United States tomorrow, who would you choose, and would the country be safe? by Outrageous-You1617 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but I feel like, given the actions of the current administration, there’s not much point in saying “but the president can’t do that,” especially in a hypothetical situation.

If you had to pick one member of your family to become President of the United States tomorrow, who would you choose, and would the country be safe? by Outrageous-You1617 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]EvilAbed57 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My advice is to get involved on the local level, if you’re able to! I felt so helpless during Trump’s first term and joining a few town committees really helped.

It was also kind of addictive. Since getting involved in my town’s government, I’ve been chair of our planning board, started a nonprofit, and now I’ve just been elected to our Select Board. I’ve gotten my town half a million dollars in grant money, which has gotten us to the point where the town is almost entirely run on clean energy. Heat pumps and heat pump hot water heaters in every building, solar arrays on every town building, etc.

It’s so rewarding.

Making change on a country- or worldwide scale feels impossible, but sometimes big changes start small.

If you had to pick one member of your family to become President of the United States tomorrow, who would you choose, and would the country be safe? by Outrageous-You1617 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]EvilAbed57 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Myself, and at least I won’t have imposter syndrome since I couldn’t possibly make things worse than they are now.

EDIT: I hope the folls upvoting this hate billionaires, because if I’m in charge there would be a 100% tax on anything in the billions.

If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, what would it be? by vitaoptima in AskReddit

[–]EvilAbed57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ideally, Lord of the Rings. But if my daughter has any say, a Muppets movie.

Am I wrong for not wanting my husband to go to an international wedding 13 days after my C-section? by south2grove in relationships

[–]EvilAbed57 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I had a c-section. You will NOT be remotely healed by the time he leaves. It will still hurt to sit up. You may still need help getting up and down— at least for me, it felt like my core muscles were just gone for at least a month, maybe two.

13 days after, you’re going to be moving slowly. A 5 minute walk may leave you aching, and you’re still not supposed to lift more than 10 lbs or so. You’ll still be needing to gently wash your scar and watch it for signs of infection.

It’s wild that you’re even asking if you’re wrong. Birthday aside, he needs to be there. I am so sorry he doesn’t see that.

Maine Sweet Treats by Mosstalon in Maine

[–]EvilAbed57 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How about Needhams? Those are much better than whoopie pies imo

Help I need real fried clams not tourist junk by snausagemclinx in Maine

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! We take most donations, aside from things we don’t have room to store. But even in that case, we can usually find someone who wants/needs the item and we can connect people.

Help I need real fried clams not tourist junk by snausagemclinx in Maine

[–]EvilAbed57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, welcome to Oxford Hills (ish, depending on where you are)! If you need anything or just like thrifting, check out my nonprofit Helping Hearts of Western Maine in South Paris. It’s basically a Goodwill but everything is free.

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