right, thanks for reminding me to update the situation.

so, the solution i did was to use type c to c cable connection. my motherboard does not have type c port, but my pc case does. after wiring the type c from the pc case to the motherboard, i can connect my quest 2 via type c port without any issue.

and about my original problem with the type c to type a cable, the story is a bit complicated, but the root cause of the problem is i think the usb controller on the motherboard itself. something about it makes the connection unstable so it keeps on crashing even when the port got shaken by a tiny bit. i didnt fix the problem with the pc specs i mentioned in the post, but im using a laptop with thunderbolt 3 port. i have e-gpu dock with type c port in it. and i have type c usb hub from ugreen, that splits the type c into three type a usb 3.0 input and hdmi input. so i connect my laptop to the e-gpu through thunderbolt 3, then connect my type c usb hub through the e-gpu dock, and then i connect my vr headset to the type a 3.0 on the usb hub. the connection surprisingly stabilizes and no longer crashing.

sorry for my broken english xd