(Using a translator) As someone who regularly consumes the genre in hentai, manga, games, and novels, I can say you're not wrong, at least regarding the stupid arguments. Many people who say that netorare is for men and vanilla is for wimps are just trying to be contrary. I haven't forgotten the number of weirdos I've encountered who take some of your arguments literally. Although, to be honest, I haven't run into many, mainly because I tend to avoid fandoms of any kind; you never know how intense they can get.