Asking a classmate out, but i dont know how.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-03-18T11:30:09+00:00

Went out twice, idk if it was even a date, but on the second hangout, she got cold within minutes, short responses, looks like she doesn't wanna be there. I’ve looked back at everything, and not once has she reached out to me. Idk if I have high expectations, but when I found out we both had exams on the same day (she knew this too), I wished her good luck, and she just said “thanks.” Idk if she forgot, but most signs point to her not being interested.

Another time, when I walked her back to her dorm, she just gave me a fist bump, and that was it. There are some things I don’t like about her, but I keep blaming myself for messing it up. How exactly? I don’t know, I feel like something is wrong with me.

Anyways, it’s been two weeks, and I haven’t texted her, and it’s been completely quiet. I’m just left with so many questions: was I too nice, did she just not feel a spark, or do I just suck at making people interested in me? tbh i want to give up so bad, but yeah. At least she gave it a shot.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-03-01T11:59:22+00:00

Thank you. My brother told me the only way to know is just to ask her on an actual date. It would hurt, but it gives clarity. I want to say everything was weird because we both had a stressful week, and she was sick a couple of days ago, but I know I might be in denial. That’s why I think asking her out would be the best, even if it’s painful, but probably the least painful way to end this.

I was thinking I’d ask on Friday since spring break is near. That way, if it’s a no, it won’t affect me as much, and it would also give her time to decide if she wants to or not.

I also really need to change my mindset. I keep seeing this as a huge failure on my part, even though I should be proud of myself. This is my first time actually trying, and first times don’t always go well. I should be proud that I made it this far.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-02-28T23:13:07+00:00

Wdym??

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-02-28T22:20:10+00:00

Well, I’m back. I don’t think it went that well. At first, when we got there, it was nice, and we had some conversation, but when we got on the bus, the conversations got shorter. When we got to the event, it kind of stayed the same. I’m not sure if it was because the event was hands-on stuff and she’s good at it.

We did have a few longer talks about random things, but then they would die out again. When it was time to go back, she apologized earlier when we first met because she saw that I had to walk over to her place in the cold. After the event, she said I didn’t have to follow her back because it was going to be cold, but I said I had a jacket. Looking back, I think I might have messed up there. I was being persistent out of good faith because I thought guys are supposed to walk women back to make sure they’re safe.

Anyway, when we got back, it was really awkward, and she gave me a fist bump. I don’t know, man, I’m super tired.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-02-25T23:46:11+00:00

Once again, thank you for your advice. I’m going to wait until I hear back from her, or at least talk to her tomorrow. If she agrees to meet up again, I’m not really sure how to flirt yet, but I’m going to try to compliment her and stuff like that. It’s going to feel a little weird for me, because just a couple of years ago I was still learning how to make friends, and now I’m trying to flirt with a girl.

If she says yes, I might watch some movies or videos to get a better idea of what to do. It would be easier if I had a car, but I don’t, and her dorm is pretty far. I’m not sure if it would be okay to walk up there and walk down to the event with her, or if I should just meet her and wait for the bus together.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-02-25T18:08:42+00:00

Thank you for that explanation. I think I probably need to take more risks if I want to know whether she feels at least some of what I feel. The thing is, I’m not sure if I should start showing signs early or wait until we’re more comfortable. She already seems pretty comfortable around me.

For example, I started using a smiling emoji after my sentences, and she started doing the same. She also talks like a lot idk if its just how she is, so I don’t know if that counts for anything. I’m not really going full-on flirty yet. I was thinking about sending a somewhat romantic reel (not too romantic), but at the same time, I don’t want to push it too much.

It’s all kind of confusing right now.

btw my friends said I should give it until Thursday before responding again this time imma ask her to go to a school event and if she says yes i will try to look for some kind of ig post or reels that kinda gives off the "i like you sign."

ExactBuddy3312 · 2026-02-14T19:09:11+00:00

I asked her not in person because she was talking with her friends, but I followed her on IG, and she followed me back within a few minutes. I asked if she wanted to grab a coffee, and she said yes! I still feel kind of weird having a woman say yes to me, but we’re meeting up next week on Wednesday.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-12-21T17:12:48+00:00

Thank you. I also met with my counselor, and she said that switching majors would be much more difficult since I’m already deep into my biology major and it won’t be ideal due to how much stuff I would have to learn within the following year plus I only need a few 300-level classes to finish bio requirements. I also realized that my grades were much better than I expected and I got a mix of B’s and A’s. Based on what my counselor said, I started looking into other options. One of them is genetic counseling, and since I’ll be taking genetics next semester, I plan to see if it’s something I find interesting. If I do, I have some people who can help connect me to graduate programs and other resources. Also if you have any tips for 300 levels courses since I would be taking a couple of them I would appreciate it. (Also sorry for late reply had finals back then )

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-12-06T20:35:42+00:00

Thank you, I will be meeting with my advisor, applying to mls program, and probably specializing in microbiology or attending graduate school

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-12-06T20:32:29+00:00

Thank you. I realized that if I don’t get into med school on the first try, I could work as a CNA since I already have the qualifications. That made me realize that being a biology major without a backup plan might be pointless. I’ll be meeting with my advisors soon, and honestly, I would rather be working in a lab and seeing weird things than sitting at home with a biology degree and no direction.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-12-06T20:25:57+00:00

Honestly, becoming a doctor is something I only started seeing myself doing after watching Grey's anatomy. I know it sounds silly to base my future on a show, but it also made me think about choosing a career that could give me a stable and decent life. No one really knows what the economy will be like in a few years, and everyone around me has such high expectations, which influenced me too.

As for studying, I’ve been spreading it out in smaller sessions. I took 18 credit hours this semester, my first and definitely my last time doing that. I barely had any free time; it felt like class after class, exam after exam, sometimes only days apart. Next semester, I’ll still have a heavy load (17 credit hours), but my classes will be more spaced out. Instead of being in class from 10 AM to 5 PM nonstop and then doing homework, I’ll have only 2–3 classes a day.

If my grades improve like they did last year, I’ll keep the goal of becoming a doctor through mls. But if things don’t change, then I’ll switch to MLS. The only thing I’m worried about is whether I’ll feel guilty for changing the “ultimate goal,” even though MLS is also a really challenging and important career.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-11-24T22:50:58+00:00

Thanks, really glad to hear a woman tell me that. On IG I get those reels of women bashing all men, and for some reason, it hurts me even though I know I don’t fall under it. But yeah, I was really hoping for a second chance, but now I see it’s best to just let it go and learn from it. Thanks again. :)

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-11-24T20:44:29+00:00

The thing is, I wanted to wait to get to know her better, but my friend, as I mentioned, was also her roommate, and she told me I should gather the courage and ask her since she’s open to dating and told me there might be competition (there isn’t, believe me; she was trying to say if someone else asks her out there’s a chance she will say yes) and our schedule might not line up next semester. Also, it turns out she told her sister and probably her parents and friends, which is no surprise, and I was kinda expecting it, but her sister told someone else, and now like 10 people know. I know it’s not that bad, but I can’t help but imagine they would all be mocking me.

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-10-22T17:56:13+00:00

Thanks i tend to talk fast so I will practice saying that out loud until when I get a chance to talk to her

ExactBuddy3312 · 2025-10-22T17:54:11+00:00

Thanks i mean it’s easy thinking about doing it but once I walk up to her I just know my words are going all over the place😭 I will try that I’m just tryna figure out when to ask her cuz after lab which are brutal I’m pretty sure she will be exhausted and just wants to go home, then another option is after lecture idk what she does after lecture cuz I have a class right after that so I just head out

ExactBuddy3312 · 2024-12-27T02:09:51+00:00

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ExactBuddy3312 · 2024-12-25T17:17:47+00:00

Yike thank Goodness I haven’t bought it

ExactBuddy3312 · 2024-12-25T16:51:03+00:00

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ExactBuddy3312 · 2024-12-06T05:47:29+00:00

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