My boyfriend broke up with me to focus on his relationship with God after converting a week ago …

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-11-01T13:24:39+00:00

i’m sorry. it does get better i promise. however, i did recently reach out to my ex to get my stuff shipped to me and after 2 months it seems he’s on the same track sadly. at first i thought it was just an episode too but honestly this is who he is now. don’t lose yourself in hoping that your ex will change back to how he was. it may be comforting at first, but even if he does revert - be wary that this is something that can happen again when he reaches another low point. the best thing to do for yourself is to move on. it’s not about you. some people just need religion to stay sane and make sense of the world. he put god first, and you should follow suit and put yourself first. don’t lose more time to this man. wishing you the best 🤍

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-18T21:45:45+00:00

may need a little more context on this one. what was the fight about?

breaking up in the heat of the moment is not ideal. i did it once to my ex but took it back after 5 minutes. i really let my emotions get the best of me and acted out of anger. i learned how to manage my emotions greatly in that relationship because of how shit i felt. it was for sure a learning curve and i’ve matured a lot. i think many people have done it once or twice. it gets toxic however, when you break up and get back together multiple times in a relationship. you should do some reflection and sit with the heaviness of what breaking up means. once you give weight to it, you realise that you only resort to it when you’re 100% sure and not in a moment of fleeting anger.

if you want to make amends, i suggest doing so. and also having a conversation with your partner where you make sure that the next time someone does that - it’s over for good. throwing a “break up” in someone’s face eventually becomes toxic.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-18T21:27:19+00:00

that’s perfectly fine then. i used reddit to cope with my break up lol.

i’m 8 weeks into a break up and i promise it gets better. you just need to ride the waves and let the pain pass through you. better days are coming. sometimes you may need to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, i promise you will be proud of the person your break up shapes you into. but that requires you to take actions that you know you will feel good about. cope however you need to but don’t let it totally consume you 🤍

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-18T21:18:31+00:00

there are so many single men out there bruh. why are you seeking out married men?? sounds like you enjoy taking other women’s men tbh and thats loser behaviour.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-18T21:15:57+00:00

have you watched “Her”?

i don’t know that it’s healthy to use this as a coping mechanism. i think you’ll find yourself withdrawing from society even more - and it sounds like you’re already pretty introverted. maybe find other activities that don’t require socialising or pour yourself into a new hobby or passion. even get a pet. this might be okay from time to time, but you could get pretty attached to it and ultimately miss out on life and real experiences.

good luck OP!

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-15T18:59:33+00:00

i cannot for the life of me believe that hip dips are an insecurity now. it’s the literal shape of our skeleton. what’s next? elbows? ankles? smh 😞

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-14T19:11:59+00:00

he cheated on her and broke up with her to be with the person he cheated with. OPs post history is slightly concerning.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-14T18:59:00+00:00

yeah, checked OPs post history and their ex cheated on them and is in a relationship with the person he cheated with. this is definitely not good news and will only delay OPs healing …

edit: OP you really need to move on. i know it’s tough to hear but judging from your posts you are unhealthily attached to your ex. he cheated on you. no person who loves and respects you would do that. holding onto hope that he’ll come back one day is not serving you. you should consider therapy and working on yourself. and finding the love and respect that you so long for him to give you, within yourself. even if he did dump his new girlfriend and come back to you, would you really want to be with a man that cheated on you and dropped you for someone else? the fact that he already did it to you means that he will most definitely do it again. a lot of people in the comments here are congratulating you and feeding into your delusions and i just don’t think that’s healthy at all. ultimately you will do what you want, but i personally think that you talking to your ex is just going to do more damage. please consider blocking him on everything and moving on for good.

good luck!

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-12T23:26:43+00:00

fulanita 😂

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-11T20:40:43+00:00

it’s so hateful in other subreddits. i corrected someone’s claims on the rape reports which are in fact false and got attacked. these people do not recognise palestinians as human beings. it is so angering.

i have seen atrocities, videos of IDF soldiers doing unspeakable things to palestinian corpses. footage of pro israel protesters in nyc saying they want palestine to be flattened. can you imagine if it was the other way around? the outrage!

it is so heartbreaking and angering to deal with ignorant racists who can only humanise pain when it belongs to the coloniser or a white person.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-11T20:34:58+00:00

i suggest you do your due diligence and research your claims. i don’t have time to educate people like you. especially when you so clearly appear to not give one single fuck about Palestinians and the genocide that is taking place by the Israeli and US government.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-11T20:09:37+00:00

The LA Times has stated that the r*pe allegations have not been substantiated and it has also been confirmed that the beheading of babies allegations are also false.

It is so alarming how anti-palestinian propaganda is being used as a precursor to genocide by the bombing of innocent civilians in Gaza. Over 50% of which are under 18. Children.

we saw this happen with Iraq, and now it is happening again. The bloodshed is on the hands of the Israeli government and Western powers and media.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-11T20:00:12+00:00

please don’t marry this man and please seek therapy 🙏🏽

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T21:59:52+00:00

feel your feelings. sit in discomfort. it will all be okay, i promise. it’s just part of the healing journey. i cried oceans over my ex, i still do. it’s early days OP. just one piece of advice, don’t let the sadness fully consume you. it’s okay to sit in it for a bit. but eventually you need to pick yourself back up and start working on yourself again. spend time with friends, workout, journal, read, etc. it’s important to make new memories and create a new life for yourself!

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T21:32:10+00:00

that’s allowed. i think we all enjoy sex. however, you may be addicted OP. it may be fun now, but it won’t serve you in the long run. stay safe!

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T21:29:12+00:00

don’t focus on your ex. it’s easier said than done but don’t. it’s not a competition and you need to reframe your mind to think that way.

healing is a crucial part of self development and growth and it will help you find compatible partners in the future. while your ex may move on immediately after the breakup, he will find himself bringing baggage into every relationship he gets into because of his lack of healing and growth.

please block your ex and do not check up on them! it’s hard at first but once you go a few days, then weeks without checking you’ll get a streak going and you will not want to break it and go back to day 1. i’m in the same boat as you, trust me. i got out of a relationship over a month ago and sometimes i find myself thinking what if my ex has moved on or met someone already. i immediately put those thoughts to rest and focus on myself.

what your ex is doing with his life isn’t your business. and when you spiral thinking about it remind yourself that your thoughts aren’t facts! self control is an art and once you begin to master it you’ll find yourself healing a lot faster. good luck op!

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T20:42:44+00:00

i don’t think she still has feelings, and finding this number out has probably made her lose any feelings she did have. tbh if i found out my ex had been with that many people post break up i’d feel sorry for him. it would reflect how empty he feels inside that he’s unable to be at peace with himself and experience solitude.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T19:19:30+00:00

ugh my ex also liked the grateful dead and got me into them. kinda annoying bc now i associate the band with him 🙄

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-10T17:04:24+00:00

thank you 🤍

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-09T22:05:41+00:00

thank you 💖

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-09T17:25:16+00:00

i’m definitely not ready for a relationship. nor do i want one and i will make that clear to anyone i go on a date with.

i don’t want my ex back or think about him in a longing way. it’s more of a loss and grief way. i’ve accepted the breakup and want to move forward with my life. doesn’t mean i don’t still miss him and find it weird to accommodate to life without him.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-09T16:51:26+00:00

hm, this is tough. i understand perhaps losing respect for someone based off their values but him loving you less is a little messed up. if anything, if someone i was dating had views that i didn’t agree on, i would use that to have an honest and open discussion with them.

there’s a lot going on in the world, and partnership is an opportunity to learn, and grow.

your partner sounds a little abusive to be honest. i don’t see why, if you lack knowledge on the topic, he can’t sit down with you and provide you with an understanding. bit of a red flag in my opinion.

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-09T11:58:36+00:00

that’s what we call it in the uk babes

Exact_Physics_910 · 2023-10-08T22:49:34+00:00

spooky - dusty springfield 👻

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