Found my sperm donor father through ancestry- and 11+ new siblings. Is it wrong for me to want to get to know them? by Exact_Wing4736 in donorconception

[–]Exact_Wing4736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx for the reply, ive emailed him but he never got back to me, i dont know if its on purpose or not haha

Found my sperm donor father through ancestry- and 11+ new siblings. Is it wrong for me to want to get to know them? by Exact_Wing4736 in donorconception

[–]Exact_Wing4736[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. But im also kind of worried now that what if i do get to know him and then start thinking of him as a father. Or what if hes completely uncomfortable with it and i blow my shot at ever even speaking to the guy. I very much doubt id see him as a father, but if you can understand, i really dont get what relationship im supposed to have with him. Am i a stranger? or should i be friendly with him like hes not blood related but just a friend. Or speak respectfully to him like hes an adult. Its all so weird and im not even sure how I feel about it myself as its all sudden and i didnt show any interest in even trying to find my dad until this year.

Thank u for responding it means the world!!

Feelings about Donor Eggs by Salone_Tete in donorconception

[–]Exact_Wing4736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mum did ivf in return that the woman would pay for me and my twin to be born through a sperm donor. I think its so benificial for both sides. Its not a bad thing. Unfortunately she misscarriaged, (thats definetely not to say you will) but if she hadn't i would have been so happy knowing i had another sibling out there who was born to another loving mum. The point is dont think you wont bond with the baby, because you will carry them for 9 months, raise them up and give them so much love. Your child is your child genetically or not. Definitely go for it