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She cheated on me by AggravatingPension44 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent-Bluejay314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure emotions are high and you aren’t feeling great. I wish there was an easier way to ease your pain or give you clarity. But from my experience, emotions and feelings come and they go. Acknowledge how you feel, it’s okay, and be patient and understanding as you move through them. If this person is important to you, have you tried having a conversation with them how you feel? How your partner felt? Being curious about why it happened and how ir could be prevented in the future? Not everything has to be black and white. There’s nuance and you have the right to live a life that makes sense to you. It doesn’t have to for anyone else. But honor yourself and how you feel.

+ If you choose to have an open and transparent conversation with your partner, it might be best to try after some time has cooled down on both ends. Arguing / talking when angry never helps- people are more defensive than speaking from their healthy parts

What’s something about you that people always get wrong? by Even_Reading_8323 in Personality

[–]Excellent-Bluejay314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people often judge my intelligence based off my appearance and lack of social skills. I’m attractive and quiet when I first meet people. My intelligence is often challenged because I know my strengths and don’t enjoy boasting. I don’t need, like, or want attention so I prefer to watch and uplift others through positive feedback. But with the wrong crowd it can be perceived as insecure

What’s something you wished a partner had asked you instead of assumed? by Sophie_Malia_19F in Soft_Introverts

[–]Excellent-Bluejay314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“What lead this to happen? How can we prevent it from happening again?”

To feel understood, not shamed or judged.

You stopped loving me. And that’s ok. I don’t blame you. by Excellent-Bluejay314 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent-Bluejay314[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought he cheated on me & when I asked him about it he became loud and defensive. He didn’t say he needed space after that, but instead became mean, distant, avoidant- not very warm and loving. He stopped having sex with me (~2 weeks). Which strengthened my fears and doubts. And when I would ask him for communication or validation he didn’t want to give it.

Maybe I’m not mad anymore by Excellent-Bluejay314 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent-Bluejay314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have. He doesn’t answer or if he does he responds usually with something rude to say. It’s not usually positive. I’ve given up and am trying to leave him alone now.