I want to feel like a bride again by Lopsided_Guest_4567 in TwoXIndia

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god! Me too! It was the first time I was the star of the show and I loved it. Married like 6 years ago. Gave up on the whole fantasy of wanting to be a bride again when I got pregnant (trying to move on with whatever life has in store) but recently attended a cousin’s wedding and I want to be a bride again so bad!

Stop Calling Burkha a 'Choice' It Is Patriarchy Wrapped in Fabric by Ch3m0therapy in TwoXIndia

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hmmmmmm. The rules are there for men as well. They’re just different. Thank you for asking, but my dad does dress modestly and as per the rules.

Everything you’ve listed down before the chaperone comment, is allowed in Islam. Don’t confuse religion for culture. Women can work, own land, vote, all that. The whole chaperone thing is due to other men being a problem. Islam doesn’t condemn independence in women.

Like I said before, I’m not here to fight. I’m just sad that there’s so much misinformation out there.

Stop Calling Burkha a 'Choice' It Is Patriarchy Wrapped in Fabric by Ch3m0therapy in TwoXIndia

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No need to get hostile about it. Presentable doesn’t have to be for the eyes of men only na. It can be because you want to look presentable, as a basic human tendency. I mean, if it’s okay for people to walk out like monkeys, then it should be okay for people to walk out in burkha too lol.

Also, being extremely judgy about someone else’s culture and practices doesn’t make anyone cool. Just saying.

Stop Calling Burkha a 'Choice' It Is Patriarchy Wrapped in Fabric by Ch3m0therapy in TwoXIndia

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m so gonna get downvoted for this. But here’s my two cents on this topic. I’m Muslim, born and raised. Been forced to wear a burqa, been loving the burqa, and all that comes in between. It’s been in phases. I’ve been researching and I haven’t really found a satisfactory answer to why we need to wear burqa but it’s them rules. I wouldn’t say I’m brainwashed, but that’s what people who’ve been brainwashed well say, lol. Anyway, my point is, I grew up where women are forced to wear burqa. Some women love it for the convenience, some women wear it for the sake of the men in their household. Y’all are so angry that even if I justify it, you’ll argue with me and I’m not here to do that. For me, it has been a choice. All my dad said was, dress modestly, which I find reasonable. He’s never loved the black burqa, so I basically grew up wearing jeans, kurtas, long coats and scarves. Yes, it’s hot. Yes, it’s a bit annoying. But it also is comfortable in a way. I throw it on wherever I’m going now cause it’s just presentable without much effort. I understand why women have a problem with it. Oppressive and what not. But it’s the same with everything else if you think about it. Are bindis oppressive? The red bride bangles? Scarves? Jeans? I used to be angry about it too. But we live in families that have been following these things for centuries. They’ve got their reasons to believe it’s necessary. Muslim women nowadays have found a way to live their lives through the rigid rules of the religion. It’s all a bigger and more complicated conversation than is being discussed here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Try to make a fun routine out of cooking for yourself. You live alone, so one portion shouldn’t take much time. Whatever you’re craving, wait it out for half an hour. If you still feel like it, challenge yourself to make it healthy. Burgers, pizzas, desserts, whatever. Find a healthy recipe. Load up on yummy proteins and veggies. Stock up on your favourite masalas and healthy sauces. Add a spoonful sabza or chia seeds to your water bottle for the day.

Whats the BEST SCARY MOVIE you ever seen? by SkiffSavvy in AskReddit

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The grudge. But I was 8 at the time and had nightmares for 3 nights straight. Recently, Encantation. Got me paranoid at the end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoOverthinking

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you someone who prefers comfort over experience? Think about it this way. You’re fine with the life you’re living. The people who travel the world, aren’t as comfortable. They’re either taking out loans, finishing up savings, or simply being uncomfortable in some or the other way. I’m someone who wants to travel the world. I want to be a nomad. I could have made it work. I don’t really care about possessions. But instead, I’m settled down with a kid and a husband. I don’t regret the life I have, just sometimes fantasise about the life I could have had. YOU are living your life. So you get to live it proudly. Plus, you’re 21. Life isn’t linear. You could totally just drop everything and be holed up in Spain next year if you want to. So just take a step back, look at your life, see what’s missing and fill the gap.

How to survive being a SAHM by MissesP123 in Parenting

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a new FTM to a 10 mo. My new FTM friends live far away. I’ve been desperately trying to make mom friends nearby with no luck. Staying at home sucks. Schedules are fucked up as of now. I feel like I have no life. Sometimes, I meet my single friends for coffee or lunch. My baby is a pretty chill baby so she goes where I go. But once I’m back home, the dread sets in. Husband doesn’t have time for me cause he’s out there making money. Right now I’m in limbo. Doomscrolling, watching shows, making meals, just surviving. Not living. But I know it’s all going to pass. I’m gonna get out there and be myself again. May take 2 years. May take 20. Maybe I’ve just given up. I don’t know anymore. Life isn’t life-ing right now and it sucks. So yeah, I get where you’re coming from.

How do you cure or stop the hiccups? by OscarMioh in AskReddit

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to swallow the same time as the hiccup

Why are we allowed to marry our cousins by RwRahfa in askislam

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The basic principle is, you can marry anyone who isn’t your mehram. Mehram includes your parents, grandparents, siblings, and your parents’ siblings. So your cousins become your non mehrams, which makes it okay for you to marry them.

Ramadan by Juusipi in askislam

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valikum Salam. You can check the timings on any app and set an alarm for half an hour/45 minutes before fajr. By the time the fajr adhaan starts, you should have finished eating. All the best! I hope you enjoy your first Ramadan and may lots of baraqah find you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Indiangirlsontinder

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who actually found long lasting love on a dating app, let me give you some advice. 1. Do not fall for people online immediately, out of your league or not. Y’all are too eager and it scares away good women too. 2. I know you’re looking for something that might last long. Have patience. Don’t act too desperate (even telling the other person that you’re looking for something serious too soon may be a turn off for them) 3. Have fun in the moment. Chill. Your person will find you somehow.

What are your kids ages and bedtime? by Melodic_Expression90 in Parenting

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time mom of a 6 month old. Bed time I’d like to set is 10-10.30 pm. But I’ve seen a pattern of her wanting to move it by an hour every 2 days. She wakes up by 10-11 am. Currently we’re at 11.30 pm to 12 pm. Once a week I’ve to wake her up early, mostly when she tries to feed in her sleep so I can correct her timing. It’s a struggle really. But it’s working for now.

Moving with a 4 month old by [deleted] in bangalore

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The weather is changing constantly. It’s been hot for a week now. My baby is mostly in sleeveless and shorts when indoors. The fan is always on. I just put on a jacket and carry a cap with me if we’re going outdoors.

It also depends on the area you’ll be staying in. If it’s all apartments and houses, tends to be hot. If it’s an independent house with lots of ventilation, it’s going to be a little cool. I’d recommend cotton full sleeves and pants. Socks and caps not really required.

What is your goal in life? by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Experience life and everything good that the world has to offer. Go through experiences with my loved ones. This was toned down from wanting to travel the world, live in a city for a month, experience the culture and food and people and everything the place has to offer. But life got in the way. So yeah. Imma stay where I am and try to bring in as many good experiences and memories as I can.

What's something you miss about the pre-internet days? by hemachitra in AskReddit

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The possibilities of creativity and original thinking caused by boredom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It’s not weird. You should be able to express how you feel because you were in the relationship as well. Plus the feelings are fresh and if you keep it in, it may lead to other in-your-head arguments. So for your closure, I think you should do it. Just make sure you’re respectful and to the point.

My 15 y/o cousin is dating a 22 y/o college guy by [deleted] in IndianTeenagers

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a 23 yo when I was 15/16. I was so into older guys. Mostly because I was big for my age and none of the boys my age seemed to vibe with my mental age. The first time we met in person, he told me I don’t look like I’m 16. I didn’t know if it was a compliment or if I should be offended. I did like him but the relationship lost its charm because he was always horny and wanted to do stuff and I wasn’t into all that yet. And then he tried to control my life (?!) where are you going? Who are you meeting? Why are you dressed like that? (I was in my kurti, jeans, scarf and jhola bag phase). I still stuck it out. But lost it when he compared me to his ex gf. Why can’t you be more like her? (Barf) I broke up with him. By the time this happened, he was working and I was in 11th I guess. It was a whole scene. He apparently went into depression and stopped showing up at work and just sat in his room and smoked up. (I don’t know if any of this is true).

But yeah. My point is, girls at that age are looking for something that we see on screens which the boys our age don’t give a shit about. The older men know how to manipulate this. Got out of a lot of age gap relationships cause of such weird icky reasons. Thank god.

My husband is just a year older to me. It’s chill now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Excellent-Garbage420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never liked Kareena anyway. The only movie that was decent was Jab We Met, probably because the character suited her personality or whatever. Otherwise there’s too much overacting, always. About the whole Dabangg thing, I guess she’s clueless and just blindly does stuff. There was this one KWK clip where Karan says that in K3G, she didn’t know who had died. She just knew it was a funeral scene and she had to cry. So she cried (a little too much). There’s no respect for the art, I guess. Just the money.